Dealing with Relationship OCD: How to Cope

Anyone deal with Relationship OCD? Specifically worrying about if you love your partner enough or at all? Or if you guys will last? I have some trauma from past relationships and went through something pretty traumatic before dating my boyfriend and I think it all triggered horrible OCD when it comes to close relationships. How do you cope?

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Quirce

2y ago

I can relate to what you are saying! Honestly, the biggest help has been having open communication with my partner about it. Like, telling them specific thoughts/fears, just to get it out in the open. I know that doesn't necessarily fix anything, but it at least allows them to get a bit of insight. You could also take time each day to think about or list things you like about your partner, or things that you enjoy doing with/for them. It might be mildly reassuring when those thoughts get overwhelming to have something to look back on. And if you have the resources to do so, concepts from DBT have been helpful for me in trying to cope with something like this. There are also a lot of self-guided materials online that might be helpful too. I don't know if any of that would be helpful or applicable to you, but I hope that you are able to find a way to alleviate that stress!

ThickAndTired

2y ago

thank you so much. I have opened up recently to my bf about what I deal with and he was very supportive and understanding though I haven’t mentioned it much since then when it affects me, i think i should work on sharing more, and being less nervous to because he is so good at understanding these things. funny enough, after making this post I went into my notes and started writing things I like about my boyfriend and things I don’t like. the don’t like things were so trivial and we’re only like 5. the list of the things I did like and admire about him was…sooooo long. it comforted me, and I think every time I’m feeling too worried, the list will help. I’ve been really interested in DBT therapy, I’ve recently restarted therapy and I feel my therapist will assist in exercises that help my thoughts. I will also look up some and maybe even some workbooks online. thank you so much for your advice ❤️

Ren.exe

2y ago

I experience rOCD and really don't know how to help, but I get it. I am not currently coping well with it. 😅 Other than just being like, "this will pass" and writing down for myself in a private discord when I do know I love my partner and how I feel.

Alpine

2y ago

I'm scared that I don't really know what love feels like. Like do I really love the person I'm with? How do I know for sure?

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