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StrawberryMilk

1y ago

Dealing with Relationship Insecurities

I just wanted get this off my chest since i’m too nervous to tell my boyfriend. I’m kind of afraid. Afraid of the possibility that i can be abandoned if my bf somehow thinks i’m too much. Of course, if he did leave me it’d be a blessing too since i dont want to be with someone who won’t accept me for who i am truly. But i still fear the hurt that might come. I love him. I think all i can do is hope the conflict we have and will have will only make us stronger (and he says it does) and not give him doubts or the want to give up on me. On of my autistic support neeeds fall heavily on emotional support, he’s been pretty good at supporting it. I just hope it wont stop or change. All i can do is hope untill i can 100% trust that i am more than enough for HIM. I know i am but… you know we all hope that we will really be accepted for our disability and support needs (being met as well). This may be a form of insecurity of mine, and it has been shaped by previous people who abandoned me for needing more than average emotional support (i try to not let it get to me and believe they just dont have the capacity and will to know me and accept me which is okay! i dont want that kind of person in my life either.) Anyways, thank you all for reading this. Feel free to share similar thoughts and feelings! 💕

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Beeble

1y ago

I feel this too with my partner, and the way that I combat this is kind of silly. my partner met me off meds, loopy, crazy manic depressive episodes, and generally in a very shit place. they fell in love with me regardless of my mess, and they continously push me gently towards being better and better. they're 100% in my corner and I just have to learn to trust them on that. I think something that helps is boundaries, like my only real hard boundary that I set in ALL relationships is that if there's a problem or uncomfy feelings to tell me as soon as humanly possible so we can just talk about it instead of things building up and exploding. boundaries like that make me feel a little more sound in my journey to trust :) thanks for reading this far if you did!
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StrawberryMilk

1y ago

Thank you for sharing Beeble! I so agree with you about setting boundaries for comfort and assurance!

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