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Dealing with Paranoia in Close Relationships

Brendon

699d

I have an issue where I get into a paranoid spiral with the people closest to me and I begin to see them as enemies out to get me and that they are talking behind my back, laughing at me, and plotting against me. I don't know how to change this and I know constantly asking for reassurance is extremely taxing on these people and ultimately fruitless for me because I struggle to believe them anyhow. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help myself break this cycle? I plan to speak with my therapist about it at my next appointment.

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    • ells.earth

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      I notice it’s years and years and years of experiencing things where people do bad things to you combined with traumatic experiences that rev one’s nervous system up into a constant overactive state. Constantly cycling through these feelings. I have paranoia too. I learn to be “curious” about those paranoias because they all have a story to tell.. When you can sit with and hold space with those inner narratives or feelings instead of push them away by telling them they aren’t real, I notice them start to relax… I don’t have them as often. Somatic therapy has been the biggest help! Better than any therapy I’ve ever tried…

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    • Pencil

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      My daughter is going through this exact same thing, I don't know how to help her see that I am not against her. I just keep reassuring her that I see her and I love her and only want the best for her. I hope that you can find some resolution to this issue.

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      • Brendon

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        @Pencil thank you and I hope your daughter can begin to heal from it. It's truly awful.

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    • ells.earth

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      I notice it’s years and years and years of experiencing things where people do bad things to you combined with traumatic experiences that rev one’s nervous system up into a constant overactive state. Constantly cycling through these feelings. I have paranoia too. I learn to be “curious” about those paranoias because they all have a story to tell.. When you can sit with and hold space with those inner narratives or feelings instead of push them away by telling them they aren’t real, I notice them start to relax… I don’t have them as often. Somatic therapy has been the biggest help! Better than any therapy I’ve ever tried…

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    • DrowningQueen21

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      I have waves of this feeling also I only have my sister and mom so it's gotten to were I'll have nightmares of them not listening to me while I bleed to death as if they can't see me or don't care , I def get that . I think talking to the therapist is good but are you on any meds? I think these thoughts are kinda like intrusive ones and a med would help

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      • Brendon

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        @DrowningQueen21 I am on a couple meds.

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    • BTwitch

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      Discarded? Like someone broke up with you? Or like work or family related?

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      • DanaChaos

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        @BTwitch I believe when he feels like he isn't needed, like he is only there for something specific and then he feels lost. He needs occasional praise and or reassurances that he is wanted and needed.

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        • Brendon

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          @DanaChaos thank you for explaining that better.

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      • Brendon

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        @BTwitch it's me perceiving that I'm being discarded. It's never real, I just can't get my brain to understand that.

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    • BTwitch

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      I have felt like this at times. It was because I felt betrayed by someone. Is their a specific reason you feel this way? Or just overall anxiety?

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      • Brendon

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        @BTwitch It happens when I feel unneeded and discarded.

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