Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts During Intimacy

😥 Hug. I can only speak from my experience but after the assaults I endured I became agoraphobic and, with hypnosis and therapy, I came to realize that every moment I spent thinking of him and what he did was really just allowing my abuse to continue and it's more than likely that I never cross his mind. In essence I'd become my own jailer. I also learned mental tricks and exercises to stop those thoughts and, with time and a LOT of practice, I can now go months without even the most fleeting thoughts of him. Talk to a good therapist and don't be afraid of changing therapists several times until you find one you really jell with. Keep talking to your partner. Keep doing the work because it really can get better. You can message me if you need a sympathetic ear. Huge hugs!!!