Dealing with Guilty Feelings

One thing about my growing up that really affected me was extremely early onset Andropause. It affects 1 in like 50,000 men, and I was one of the unlucky ones. My body overdeveloped before puberty so when my pituitary gland kicked in my horemone generators didn't develop, causing me to not generate testosterone like I should. I didn't find this out until I was in my 20's so I finally found out why I had such a hard time as a teen. The damage was already done with no chance of reversing it, thus my mental problems now.

I was shamed by my mother as a child and punished for things my older brother or sister did so I now feel bad for things I cannot control so I give it up to God

I struggle with this a lot. Growing up, I falsely assumed that I was a terrible human because I couldn't handle a lot of things, like friendships and social events. I know now that it's because I'm autistic and my brain is just wired different. What helps me through the guilty feeling is exploring who God is and what he thinks of me, outside of what I was often told in church. I would encourage you to explore whatever your own faith is and seek counseling. 💕💕💕

I think we see a general pattern among us. Our parents didn’t have answers to our intelligent questions. We we’re doing what we we’re supposed to do.. asking questions. As children we were not supposed to know or have the right answers. It was their job to teach us. First teach us how important it is to love ourselves so we can love others. How to be kind, show love and respect to ourselves and other’s. The fact that we are here shows not one of us is stupid. Your voice our voices need to be heard. I released my inner child years ago. I journaled my pain and released the toxic way I was raise on paper, then burned the book. Yes it hurt I cried and then you know what happened? I healed. I’m not the best speller my math skills are on an elementary level and at first I felt stupid because I didn’t know how to spell what I was try to put on the page. It dawned on me… it doesn’t matter I’m smart enough to get this out of my mind and heart. I suggest trying journaling. You are we are intelligent and no one can cheat us out of healing now that we’ve found each other. Beautiful warm sunny vibes to all. 🌻☀️💛

I also live with a lot of guilt. I haven't led the best life and have done things worthy of feeling guilty over, so I bottled it up long ago.

❤️ thanks. This is about my dad and he died recently.

I have the same problem! 😥 Growing up my mother always told me to keep my mouth shut because everything I said was stupid! I'm 62 years old now and still leery about opening my mouth! If I do say something I spend the whole day and evening obsessing about whether or not it was stupid. I hope that you can find a way to get over these guilty feelings and not wait until you're my age! Good luck to you!

I deal with this, too. I think it’s the feeling of unworthiness for me. Likely from childhood emotional neglect. Sending you hugs. Keep your head up.