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JoJo71

559d

how do you get rid of guilty feelings when you really don't know if you should be feeling guilty? I feel so guilty all the time, it's just killing me.

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    • Invisible

      554d

      I was shamed by my mother as a child and punished for things my older brother or sister did so I now feel bad for things I cannot control so I give it up to God

    • Dad.of.Many

      554d

      One thing about my growing up that really affected me was extremely early onset Andropause. It affects 1 in like 50,000 men, and I was one of the unlucky ones. My body overdeveloped before puberty so when my pituitary gland kicked in my horemone generators didn't develop, causing me to not generate testosterone like I should. I didn't find this out until I was in my 20's so I finally found out why I had such a hard time as a teen. The damage was already done with no chance of reversing it, thus my mental problems now.

    • Invisible

      554d

      I was shamed by my mother as a child and punished for things my older brother or sister did so I now feel bad for things I cannot control so I give it up to God

    • Bunny.girl

      556d

      I struggle with this a lot. Growing up, I falsely assumed that I was a terrible human because I couldn't handle a lot of things, like friendships and social events. I know now that it's because I'm autistic and my brain is just wired different. What helps me through the guilty feeling is exploring who God is and what he thinks of me, outside of what I was often told in church. I would encourage you to explore whatever your own faith is and seek counseling. 💕💕💕

    • Periwinkle63

      558d

      I think we see a general pattern among us. Our parents didn’t have answers to our intelligent questions. We we’re doing what we we’re supposed to do.. asking questions. As children we were not supposed to know or have the right answers. It was their job to teach us. First teach us how important it is to love ourselves so we can love others. How to be kind, show love and respect to ourselves and other’s. The fact that we are here shows not one of us is stupid. Your voice our voices need to be heard. I released my inner child years ago. I journaled my pain and released the toxic way I was raise on paper, then burned the book. Yes it hurt I cried and then you know what happened? I healed. I’m not the best speller my math skills are on an elementary level and at first I felt stupid because I didn’t know how to spell what I was try to put on the page. It dawned on me… it doesn’t matter I’m smart enough to get this out of my mind and heart. I suggest trying journaling. You are we are intelligent and no one can cheat us out of healing now that we’ve found each other. Beautiful warm sunny vibes to all. 🌻☀️💛

      • RainbowPearl

        557d

        @Periwinkle63 I like to paint and write poetry. My childhood was...extremely abusive and toxic to be honest. Even now I'm finding ways it has influenced how I live my life. That does not mean I can't change and break the cycle to abuse but it does mean I have to deal with my issues. I think Journaling or writing letters is a great idea.

        • JoJo71

          557d

          @RainbowPearl I journal everyday and I do believe it helps keep me sane. But sometimes you need a real person to listen to you. Luckily in 3 more days I have a therapist appointment. I just hope I can ask him about the guilt I'm feeling.

    • Dad.of.Many

      558d

      I also live with a lot of guilt. I haven't led the best life and have done things worthy of feeling guilty over, so I bottled it up long ago.

      • RainbowPearl

        558d

        @Dad.of.Many I feel like that and have bottled up my emotions too. I'm working on forgiving myself but I feel like I haven't made a lot of progress yet.

        • Dad.of.Many

          558d

          @RainbowPearl I know what you mean. I have also been trying to locate, contact, and ask forgiveness from all those I hurt years ago. Most are forgiving which is great, some don't forgive which hurts but still gives closure, and there are a few who will not let me get in contact with them. Those I pray about.

    • JoJo71

      558d

      ❤️ thanks. This is about my dad and he died recently.

      • RainbowPearl

        558d

        @JoJo71 I'm so sorry to hear that. I want you to know that feeling this way is a natural part of the grieving process. And IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. Anytime you need to hear that I'll tell you even if it's the 100th time. If you're not seeing a therapist please seek one out. Best wishes.

        • JoJo71

          558d

          @RainbowPearl thanks RainbowPearl. I appreciate that. I try and tell myself it not my fault, but his actions toward me at the end of his life tell me differently. I do see a therapist but he's been gone for four weeks. I feel this stuff now not on his schedule!

    • LoveMyu

      558d

      I dealt with this as a child. I felt guilty about everything I did. Good or bad, it didn’t matter which. First I would say is think it over… ask “is this really something to get all worked up about?” Identify the problem, and if it’s something serious try to tell that person how u feel and why u feel guilty. Maybe even apologize if it’s that bad, to put your mind at ease. If it’s something from years ago, that you cannot fix… write it down, or talk to someone. Talking to someone about how you feel, (no matter what it is) will make anyone feel better.

    • LSneiderwine

      559d

      I have the same problem! 😥 Growing up my mother always told me to keep my mouth shut because everything I said was stupid! I'm 62 years old now and still leery about opening my mouth! If I do say something I spend the whole day and evening obsessing about whether or not it was stupid. I hope that you can find a way to get over these guilty feelings and not wait until you're my age! Good luck to you!

      • JoJo71

        558d

        @LSneiderwine I'm 60 so I'm where you are. I hope we both find ways to stop feeling guilty!

    • LunaKat

      559d

      I deal with this, too. I think it’s the feeling of unworthiness for me. Likely from childhood emotional neglect. Sending you hugs. Keep your head up.

      • JoJo71

        559d

        @LunaKat thank you

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