Dealing with Family Pressure When Unable to Work Due to Chronic Illness

yeah, people are constantly bugging me about why i'm not working full time. right now i'm looking for a job because it's become increasingly evident through my last couple jobs that even part time is hard for me. but everyone keeps asking me when i'm gonna start working full time and making me feel guilty for not when it's hard enough finding any kind of job to begin with that would be in any way accommodating to me

I can totally relate. I just recently had to stop working bc of all my illnesses. I don't have enough "credits" in to get disability. I can no longer pass the physical test to keep my job. My husband just got in an accident with our only vehicle coming home from work. I have applied for ssi but that can take many months and have many hoops. Today I am sick sick...throwing up...chills etc. I have a bachelor's degree as well but in my area of study I need a master's to do anything with it and I can absolutely not afford more college. I feel worthless.

I hear this every single time i see my parents. They say im worthless.

Saillea... 🙏❤️ I can totally understand where you are coming from. When I did get on disability (for the 2nd time), I had 14 qualifying criteria. I was a Respiratory Therapist for the while. I would love to be working in medicine still. I'd love to be working. It's just unsafe for me, and anyone who may be immunocompromised. It's true, I look totally "normal". I'm sure a lot of disabled people do. I've had people say stuff, assume that they know, but really don't know. I just have to set small goals for myself, and separate myself, while still remaining a member of society. It's gotten easier over the years. God has given me a number of talents to keep me occupied, but as you all know, the depression can be unreal sometimes. That's why I came to this place. Just to be among others who suffer. There's a lot of strength to be gleaned from being in a place where others "get" you. The last time I was put on disability, I was very fortunate in that I had long term disability insurance through my previous work. I also cut to the chase, got lawyers who specialize in disability cases, so I didn't have to chase down all the documentation, "evidence" and so on. If you have multiple hardships, definitely consider disability benefits. It has blessed my life immeasurably. Be amongst people who lift you up. It's so vital to have a support system. I am constantly humbled by the things others have to go through, and still be alive. It's tough, but we can all do it until we are called home by God. May God bless you all. "You've got a friend in me"🤗

🙏 I know what you're talking about! I was a single mother of four boys and I worked and I worked until I could not stand the pain. Now I'm on disability. But my family look down on me because I never made enough money to support us. I didn't have a college education when I was younger. I didn't get that until I was 31! But yeah, you get look down to buy your own family. It's a really sad situation and I feel for you! Don't let them get you down! Tell everyone that you are doing everything you can just to take care of yourself. That's all you should have to do.

I am so sorry. No one should be treated that way! Until very recently my illnesses are all invisible, RA, FMS, RLS, to name a few. Recently, like a week ago, had 3 discectomies & 3 fusions in my neck. Sporting a cervical collar with a nice size incision. Does any of that matter? No. Not at all. The things I did & now cannot do, are not getting done. I completely understand & it is completely wrong. May The Great Spirit be with you.