Dealing with dismissive doctors

How do you deal with drs being extremely dismissive and rude? I recently got the courage to talk to my PCP about my severe joint pain that had been previously dismissed by my last dr I had and was told I have chronic pain and was referred to my hospitals pain clinic because she thought it was the best next steps. My first visit was really sketchy he wouldn’t look me I’m the eyes he’d cut me off and was really cold, he even told me it was my choice if I became disabled or not and it was really offensive because I can’t control my pain or the severity of it, well it ended with a referral to PT and a rheumatologist. So I waiting about a month or so to get an appointment with my rheumatologist (a super nice dr) he diagnosed me with hyper mobility, chronic pain, and beginning stages of arthritis in certain joints due to chronic dislocation over the years and that’s why I hurt so bad. Well I went back to the pain specialist because the rheumatologist said there wasn’t much he could personally do at his office for me, and the pain specialist told me I was lying and obviously it wasn’t that bad or I would’ve been in the ER for my dislocations and it’s all in my head that I should just not think about it and I’ll be fine. I tired getting a new referral for somewhere else but got a referral to the same office again.. I’m at a loss and I don’t know what to do I’m burnt out and in pain and I just want a dr to listen and try to help for once…