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Ever got told your partner is a hero for dealing with your disabilities?

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    • kateafranklin

      203d

      @kateafranklin except he never says anything about them and always wants to help me out which is incredible

    • Chan

      278d

      👍yes.

    • Frustrated

      278d

      No

    • Lilspoonie

      278d

      To be fair my partner is a hero to me

    • tigerbear

      278d

      No. We both have chronic mental health problems, she has a chronic pain condition, and I'm AuDHD. People have no idea how tough it is!

    • mommabug82

      278d

      Yes! Dealing with my issues is a full time job

    • FTW

      278d

      No. She left me, told me she didnt want to date and she is going to focus on the kids and then started seeing a man.

    • Thefreddo

      278d

      No but I'm sure people think it, and so do I. She always tells me not to thank her for doing the 'bare minimum' but honestly she is a hero to me, I wouldn't be here without her.

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    • RhiRhiRob

      278d

      No, but we both have our issues, and we help each other through them so yeah maybe he is my hero without him I wouldn't be here

    • faerywyrm

      278d

      People told me he was a hero for putting up with my disabilities, but he left because he couldn't deal with even a small portion of them. He's a firefighter. He's a hero in life, just not at home.

    • darkpanda

      278d

      Well my ex was my full-time carer but will I was in hospital for 2 week he broken up with me cos I was to much for him

    • willow_mae

      278d

      no, but we are in a long distance relationship. my hero possibly though, he’s the reason i push through some of the worse days

    • Pasazer

      278d

      YES yet we both have to manage things with each other’s disability.

    • couragousepilepic21

      278d

      Nope, because I've never had a partner.

    • casperjasper

      278d

      Never been told it, but I believe it. I feel bad that they have to deal with my issues, and I know it can effect them :/

      • KikiJay

        273d

        @casperjasper I feel exactly the same. I feel guilty and wonder why he stays with me.

    • Moxie_Bluesky

      278d

      Nobody has ever said that to my face but we both have our own chronic conditions. His are more obvious than mine so folks tend to see me as his caregiver.

    • BraeburnGirl

      278d

      I don’t think my partner gets enough credit, honestly. I get told all the time how strong I am and how brave, but I wish people would tell him that, too. He is my rock and without him, I’d just fall apart.

    • Jgrazia89

      278d

      Mine is definitely my hero. Don’t know where I’d be without that man. 🙌

    • JuliusSeizure

      277d

      If only I had one. Right now all I have is my mom and my doctor.

      • Oouchthathurts

        277d

        @JuliusSeizure and Mom’s are the best! They are your always your number one fan.

    • royalty

      277d

      He hasn't been called a hero but I know people have implied behind my back that he should leave me.

    • wolfbeck

      277d

      Words to that effect... They didn't mean any offence by it so I didn't take any. At the end of the day my partner is mine and my families hero, I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for him and would definitely have zero quality of life. He says I would do the same for him if our positions were reversed which obviously I would but the point is they aren't reversed and probably never will be... I worry every day it will get too much for him and he'll leave. I don't know what I'd do without him

    • Oouchthathurts

      277d

      I’ve never came across this in my lifetime and to think people would actually leave you over a disability/medical illnesses/issues is just crazy to me. A good relationship is a two way street filled with good/bad and support maybe they are not mature enough to be in a relationship or never been exposed to disabilities or medical illnesses/issues throughout their life. My thought on people leaving or not wanting to be in a relationship with persons with disability’s or illnesses is that they could be one step away from having a disability themselves and for them it would take walking in our shoes for them to understand our world. But don’t worry there is a different breed of people who are definitely out there and do have that understanding what people with disabilities and illnesses-go thru on a daily basis, these super hero’s are the ones who are not afraid of making that life journey where ever it goes with someone they care about and support and then they love you thru life’s hard knocks! 💕

      • Chesbro99

        267d

        @Oouchthathurts my partner is thinking about leaving our 4 year relationship because he feels alone because he has to do so much and hates that he has to do so much and my condition isn't even that bad yet. It's very hard

    • Lunako

      277d

      No, no loved one understands

      • Oouchthathurts

        277d

        @Lunako I’m so glad you found Alike. You have a big support system in place here with so many people who do understand. You’re not alone!

    • LeoLovesFrosty

      277d

      My partner and I are both disabled but he honestly is my hero for dealing with my issues along with his own

    • Lonelyturtle

      277d

      Hahaha no we both have anxiety and adhd 😂

    • ice9kills

      277d

      no, people usually say i'm a burden on him 😥

    • DrakellaEuphrates

      277d

      I think we are heros to each other. We both have mental health issues. No one has said it on the outside though

    • gizmogal

      276d

      Probably I imagine that everyone in his life tells him he could do much better and I'm sure they all ask why he's with me . When he could be with an attractive healthy person .

    • moonlit_shiv

      269d

      Yes, and he is a hero! Dealing with disabilities is difficult, but it’s a whole different challenge when it’s a loved one that is disabled. I respect him a lot for his strength throughout everything. I’m sure he respects me for mine too.

    • bboyonline

      269d

      if my partner is a hero, what am i?

    • Georgie.Girl

      268d

      ❤️

    • Bre19

      268d

      Thankfully no

    • Crystal605

      268d

      Thankfully no on my end but I know my partner has heard stuff like this. Early on in the relationship his parents would constantly tell him that I’d leave him because of his disabilities despite me having a lot of the same disabilities as him.

    • I.am.Lucy

      268d

      No, but only because my husband don't take them serious and ignores any struggle I face with them. My ex was a hero in his way with dealing with them though

    • J.ess

      267d

      I've been told my mom is

    • DahliaAnn

      267d

      Often, I feel bad because I don't feel up to doing what my spouse wants to do because I'm feeling painful. Ex: bike riding, walking together. etc

    • Keeby

      267d

      Yes my nan told me this after she met my boyfriend 😥

    • ickyichthyosaur

      266d

      I was only in a relationship once, and not recently. I was in 10th grade with only a "provisional" autism diagnosis I didn't know about and no known medical issues. All her friends acted like I was their pet project. My brother, on the other hand, has done so much to help me and dealing with me while I was in crisis worsened his ptsd. I don't care if people say he's a hero because he is.

    • Willowthepillow

      243d

      I tell him that. I have mood disorders so he had to put up with so much shit from me

    • Veesgreengarden

      243d

      He's been called a saint and told by so many people that if they were in his shoes they'd have left a long time ago.

    • Satans_lil_devil

      243d

      I can imagine how many times he has been told. It's gotten to the point I've always broken up with him so he doesn't have to "deal with me."

    • 4byfour

      242d

      Nah my last partner was never treated or talked to like a hero. Honestly I didn’t feel like he had anything to do with my mental state. I guess that’s why we broke up, but at the time, that was the healthiest way I knew how to deal with my mind was to keep heavy boundaries. At the times I lowered them I think that’s when we suffered the most as a couple

    • SomeKindaKid

      242d

      I’ve had people tell me they’re gonna hate and leave me lmao

    • UnknownGalaxySystem

      242d

      No, but if someone does I swear I wouldn't be happy.

    • Muffen91

      242d

      He hasn't been told that he's a hero for being with me. He has been told that he's such a "trooper" for putting up with my challenges. He just replies back with "I'm the lucky one in this marriage. I have learned so much from her and I feel bad for you thinking that she's nothing but perfect for me."

    • SapleMyrup

      241d

      Yes a counselor said something along those lines about my former partner and how he handled my mental illnesses. he was actually abusive and used my illnesses to manipulate and control me. but on the outside everyone thought he was such a hero for putting up with me and “supporting” me. i don’t want a hero.

    • AndromedaSpark

      239d

      My parents get told this all the time. Like I'm not a human but a burden.

    • Froggo12

      231d

      Yes. My parents told my wife she was a goddess for being able to handle me. Thanks mom and dad

    • PEMprincess

      231d

      I’ve been feeling doubtful that love and romance will find me. I’m happy to see so many people like me in beautiful, happy relationships. Restores my hope 💕

    • AngieBear1025

      231d

      Yes by many people. He is a Sweet man and a hero when I need him to be. I was born with birth defects and sometimes he has to carry me to the bathroom

    • Reb9

      230d

      Yes but he is. ❤️

    • Appleicous

      229d

      Don’t have one so no

    • Kasi

      229d

      I don’t know, but I’ve told him he’s my hero. I know I’m a bit broken, but he holds me together with his love and understanding.

    • EliteLexy

      229d

      Yes. To be fair, I have said it also, though

    • JuniperJayde

      229d

      My mom gets told this. She is my hero but not because of my disabilities, she is my person and immediately shuts someone down if they say this, I'm very lucky to have her

    • 100p

      228d

      My mom is my hero and i love her and she does more for me than any mom would do for an average not ill child because she is a loving mom and my person i love her and always advocates for me and guides me i love u mama

    • Karrieanne73

      227d

      No one has told him but he really is a hero. When we met I was sick but o kept getting diagnosed with more and more things, hospital visits, surgeries, procedures, my mobility changed from walking to walking with a cane to know walking with a cane for small amounts then using my mobility scooter. My depression just keeps getting worse. Seeing doctor, therapist, or physical therapist is a full time job. He’s had to do things that most men would have ran for the hills . … but he stayed and he tries so hard to be supportive. He doesn’t quite understand all that goes on with me but lord that man tries. He’s patient and he has learned to understand when I’m getting to overwhelmed when out and about. He helps me up… o could go on and on about all the things this man does for me but yes I would definitely say he’s a HERO

    • SecondChance

      226d

      No my wife doesn't provide me with support with my disability because she doesn't understand what I need and even if she did she couldn't provide for me

    • Marjo

      226d

      My husband is an Angel and has rallied since a life /death event. Sometimes it takes a “wake up” for individuals to realize how fragile life is. I believe we all experience trials and tribulations during our life journey! Life is messy!

    • Meeeeeeeeeeeeeee

      209d

      We both have chronic conditions, I often get told by people who know him that I must have the patience of a saint and he gets asked by people who know me how he handles me sometimes.

    • AnxiousPotato02

      203d

      Yes I have, it happens more then not and sometimes it's really discouraging because in my mind I'm like 'am I really that bad?' Or my favorite one ' you are a horrible person because your partner could be with anyone else but sticks with you because they feel bad' my mind plays nasty tricks

    • DaisyMae7

      203d

      What partner he couldn't handle my problems

    • ItchyAndScratchy

      203d

      No, nobody apart from my mum and sister can cope with it.

    • kateafranklin

      203d

      Sadly. :(

      • kateafranklin

        203d

        @kateafranklin except he never says anything about them and always wants to help me out which is incredible

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