Dealing with Chronic Pain and Insensitive Friends

I’m tired all the time and barely sleep because of the pain I’ve been experiencing recently but I still have to attend my classes. However it’s starting to irritate me having all my friends, classmates and teachers telling me every day how TIRED I look and getting made fun of. I’ve explained my condition way to many times and the “jokes” about my appearance and illness aren’t funny anymore. The one day I actually had a low pain day at school I was consistently hit with jokes about how depressed and tired I look and it just ruins my day. I know I shouldn’t let what people say affect me but theses are people I considered my friends. Does anyone else have experiences like this? I’m not sure what to do.

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cookie575

2y ago

You know I cut them out of my life or fire back of oh cool your making fun of the person with chronic pain actually your the jerk and thats not cool...make them see the truth of what they are doing...I had to set way different boundaries with family on their jokes and sarcasm because I was dealing with so much already that I was way more sensitive and couldn't take a joke as well as I used to. Tell them and give them a little bit to change and if they don't then no, you don't need that negativity in your life I'd at least distance them if not cut them out.

mangia

2y ago

Wow! Such cruel people do exist but what are they saying that is making you feel disrespected? I mean you say they joke about your sick appearance? What kind of jokes. That is so mean. Did you ask them why they are ridiculing you? I wish I could talk to them. I know how it feels to have a friend who doesn't care and it hurts. I hope you have someone around who does care. I wish I could give you a hug because I know I need one too. Stay strong and keep your head up and look them in the eyes and let them know that they are being hurtful👍

Fairy_Sparkle

2y ago

at first it was like “you have raccoon eyes” then it was “you look depressed hope you don’t end up in the hospital” then randomly they asked about my medications “if I got any illegally” and even asked if I could give them medication to ease their anxiety!and said in the future “they saw me becoming a drug addict” I don’t know where that came from it’s so random. Then because of my pain I can’t wear my old clothes anymore it burns my skin plus I just don’t have the energy to dress up anymore. So while hanging out with a group of people one of my friends said out loud “look at her she’s wearing the same sweater again” and just proceeded to call me a bum and talk about her new outfit ig to impress their crush. Makes no sense to me. And all through my school people call me crippled and I’m just known as the crippled girl. After they make jokes I restate that I’m chronically ill and they laugh. I don’t think they know I’m being serious. So so far I’ve just stayed quiet because I’m too tired to argue with them anymore.

uhglisa

2y ago

I am so sorry your friends are treating you this way. I would definitely have a conversation with them and if they truly cared about you, they would stop. If they don't stop, you should stop being friends with them but I get how that is easier said than done. Your teachers should never comment on your appearance. That is unprofessional and rude. I hope you can reach out for help like a councilor, but I know sometimes they are not the best. You are valid and I hope people stop commenting on how you look. It's not your fault

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