Dealing with Anxiety and Pressure to Succeed

Hiya! So, I was going through ALL of this too. Not so much the military parents part, but the pressure and the trauma my parents experienced in their own lives. Life screwed me over and bad stuff happens but I have been working so hard getting my life back on track and I find that planning everything out to a T helps immensely. They don’t have to be plans that you want/can follow. But it’s good to open up a dialogue with yourself and your family about realistic options during and outside of school (if that makes sense). Like getting summer jobs or side jobs, pursuing a career path, pursuing higher education for academic, personal, or career related reasons, etc. I think your family would be super supportive of anything you choose to do and I encourage you (if you feel safe and trust your parents) to ask for advice, talk to them about things you’d like to do to help yourself and your family, and realistically how that would work out and how long it’d take to get to your goal(s). I really hope this makes sense, and no matter what, everything will find a way to work out :)

Hey, I relate to your anxieties! I’m in school right now and the anxiety of getting good grades and then finding a good job gets overwhelming. I am on medication for my anxiety and it’s been really helpful, but I also do a bunch of grounding techniques when I get worked up (breathing and counting the breaths, counting random things in my room/office, that sort of thing) I also find that listening to white noise (especially while doing homework) helps keep me grounded. I know these things don’t help everyone, but I hope they point you in the right direction! I’m here to talk if you need it.