Dealing with a Toxic Friend

I know how hard it can be to cut someone off. My best friend in middle school and high school was the first person I have ever cut off and it was extremely hard and i cried for weeks. But all she brought into my life was drama. I would go out of my way to make sure she had everything she needed. She had bipolar 1 disorder and i didnt want to leave her because she doesnt have many friends. But whenever something happened she would quit taking her meds. We haven't lived in the same town since junior year. So when her mom called me after I graduated high school I thought it was her. But her mom said hey I need you to make a trip down here, we cant get through to her and you're the o ly one she listens to. So she sent me the money and I made the trip. When I got there I had to drive all over town just to find my friend because she was having a manic episode and took off. Come to find out the trigger was her boyfriend abusing her and she had just found out she was pregnant. I told her that she could come live with me but he would have to stay behind and he wasnt allowed to km now where she was (I have been in an abusive relationship before.). She started yelling at me telling me that I cant treat the father of her child that way. I got her to start taking her meds again and we set up an appointment with her med doc to make sure they were safe to take while pregnant. I then went home alone. I would reach out and she would never co tact me back. Then one day a couple years later she messaged me asking me for help. I told her of course. She wanted out of the town and i asked her if she was still with guy. She said no she was with someone else. As she went on to talk about him i could see the signs. I told her the same thing applied this time because of the abuse. I told he ri would take her and her child in but I wouldn't allow her abuser in my house. She said she would be okay and thing up. The only time after that she reached out to me was for money and drugs. I did everything I could as her friend to get her into a better situation but until she wanted to help herself there was nothing I could do. The year I lost my grandpa (he was like a second father to me.) I got a call from her. She sounded better. But there was one thing that came up that triggered me. She once again asked for money. She said it was for food for the kids. I told her that I could send it to her mother so they could go shopping together because I was going to send her mom money anyway because she had helped me a month before with a bill I couldn't pay by myself. But I didnt want to send two different walmart things. She was furious that I wouldn't just send the money in her name. Then I could hear her new boyfriend in the background "she gonna send you that money?? Dude says he ain't waiting all day." I snapped. I told her that I couldn't believe she was using her children as an excuse to get drug money. I told her I'm sorry but I cant so this anymore. I cant continue to worry and put myself in these situations for her. I had been doing it for 10 years and everytime I talked to her I always felt like a Terrible person afterwards even though I had done everything I could to be there. I told her I'm sorry but please dont call me anymore. She was screaming at me to send the money before I cut her off. I hung up and haven't heard from her since. Her parents dont even know where she is. You deserve friends who treat you the way you treat them. If you are giving your friendship everything you can you deserve that commitment from the other person. After I cut her off and healed from the pain I met a woman. We became friends but it took time because she had been hurt previously. But now idk what my life would have been like without her. My current best friend taught me to put myself first because I have to take care of myself to be able to be there for anyone. And sometimes she even calls just to make sure I have eaten or taken my meds that day because she had a bad feeling g I was slacking. They are out there. The people who will click so well with you. They are out there. But you wont find them holding onto toxic relationships. Sometimes holding on, hurts worse than letting go. Stay strong, you are not alone.

That's awful, personally I would use the opportunity they gave you and ghost them. Anyone who does that doesn't actually see you as a friend.