See Alike in...

Alike App

Browser

gettingonmynerves

835d

For those of you who don’t work, or work part time: How do you cope with feeling like you’re not enough? And how do you stay busy? I feel like i’m worthless if i’m not working a job. And nothing I do at home feels like enough to make me worth anything.

Top reply
    • QuinnS

      833d

      Oh my word yes!! Just got married and struggled for the past year with the feeling like I wasn’t contributing or was a financial burden. The problem is we are finding out identity in our job, it takes soul searching, getting to know yourself, and for me it was reconnecting with God so I didn’t look for a job that could be my everything. YOU ARE ENOUGH! People put pressure on getting a job but forget some of us can’t physically do that. A job isn’t everything. You have a personality, interests, passions, relationships, maybe a religion. There is more to you then your paycheck.

    • QuinnS

      833d

      Also, I get the feeling of nothing at home feels like you did anything. Here is what I did. I picked a couple hobbies and pursued them. Volunteered, clay sculpturing, learning how to cook, working on a blog for chronic illness. These thing made me feel like I achieved something. If you want to private message me and talk more about it please feel free to! I’m praying for you 💜

    • QuinnS

      833d

      Oh my word yes!! Just got married and struggled for the past year with the feeling like I wasn’t contributing or was a financial burden. The problem is we are finding out identity in our job, it takes soul searching, getting to know yourself, and for me it was reconnecting with God so I didn’t look for a job that could be my everything. YOU ARE ENOUGH! People put pressure on getting a job but forget some of us can’t physically do that. A job isn’t everything. You have a personality, interests, passions, relationships, maybe a religion. There is more to you then your paycheck.

    • KeepOnKeepingOn

      834d

      I work but wholly from home. Getting work done each week is all I can do, so everything else in life suffers. Working from home because of health and staying secluded for safety is also tough, but I have to remember that I am not what I do, but who I am. Staying connected to others however you can and trying to stick to a schedule when possible (but giving myself grace when it's not) is helpful.

    • Gigi13

      835d

      Firstly, identity is not tied to what you do, but WHO you are. Then, think about what lights you up. What’s your vision? Then take baby steps, small actions consistently and daily overtime that will help get you there. I hold myself accountable by creating time slots throughout the day allocated to tasks.

    • Scarletttt

      835d

      I felt the same this summer, it drove me insane the amount of free time I had to think. Maybe try volunteering at a rescue if you like animals! It’s VERY rewarding

    • spookyspoonie

      835d

      Crafting has been the biggest relief for this issue. I am completely unable to work, only leave the house for medical necessities. It's easy to feel worthless because of internalized ableism, but what's most helpful for me is to make something. Creating something gives me that feeling of relief- "I couldn't get out of bed today, but I made xyz". Art is a great healer.

    • Pfeiffer

      835d

      I feel the same way, my desire to work is so strong and I feel like a piece of me is missing if I’m not working. I just cut my hours to part time. So now I have to find activities to fill my time.

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.

Want to chat or share? Download the Alike app now and get complete access to Alike.health's unique features.

Find people who are
experiencing a similar
medical reality

100% Free
100%
Free

Download Alike for the full experience

JOIN

View All

Bupropion

night sweats

paranoid

Valium

sertraline

palpitations

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

palpitations

Depression

Valium

Bupropion