Coping with Agoraphobia: Seeking Guidance and Understanding

I guess to put it simply.. I am wondering how some of you overcame past trauma and abuse related agoraphobia. Or some of your coping strategies to deal with this.. at times it's entirely and completely debilitating and disruptive to not only my personal life but also to the lives of my loved ones who try their best to support me and help me; Especially when I have "fits" and end up isolating to a closed in space. There are days I feel completely hopeless and nearly childlike because of my inability to cope, but also because no one really understands. I have made attempts to talk about some of my past, but I either downplay, or just don't speak on anything because it always just feels like an excuse or playing a victim roll. I've also been told this many a time when I try to explain some of my mental and physical barriers and sequelae, but again there simply is just not a whole lot of understanding with a lot of the issues I struggle with. I believe the agoraphobia is the main and most necessary to find coping strategies for, in my current state of mind it has mainly just made me very codependent and chronically fatigued because of dealing, or lack there of, with the root issues.. so I am just kind of curious about others progress or, just in general experience with this, and just someone to relate to..and who 'hears" me..and who is not just going to tell me to suck it up. 😅 I hope I explained that in a normal way.. I am not looking for coddling or sympathy, just understanding and..a little guidance I suppose. Uhm..thankyou.. 😅