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Emrys.the.warrior

746d

Does anyone ever feel like they are lying to their friends and family by not telling them how bad your suffering? I’ve been in so much pain lately and so fatigued but The imposter syndrome of thinking I’m exaggerating hits as soon as I want to explain or communicate. I feel like I’m hiding a huge part of my life by not telling them. They know I have health problems but they don’t understand how much it really is effecting me right now.

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    • Krimmble

      734d

      i get so used to the pain that i forget how much it hurts, so when i tell people how much it hurts it feels like i’m lying. I totally get how you feel.

    • Krimmble

      734d

      i get so used to the pain that i forget how much it hurts, so when i tell people how much it hurts it feels like i’m lying. I totally get how you feel.

    • Y0g1

      734d

      Honestly- not sure. I hate saying/telling them my pain because I feel like I’m just complaining or they think I’m being a baby. But at the same time it is just easier for me to tell them I’m doing okay because then I dont get everyone else’s opinions. I think it’s about finding 1-2 safe people where you can just be 100% honest and they know you aren’t exaggerating or being dramatic and they also aren’t going to try and solve the problem (my personal favorite 🙄)

    • loveshespoke

      746d

      If it's better for you to keep things private, you don't owe details to anyone.

    • goblin49

      746d

      I get this soooo much. I struggle with that boundary of how much I should tell other people about how I'm feeling, which usually leads me to saying nothing at all. I also often get worried other people will think that I'm faking it/I don't want them to get stressed out over me, but a good thing to remember is that you are not responsible for how other people react to you/your chronic illness. Openness and vulnerability will help you advocate for yourself, and regardless of how someone responds, their opinion is not a reflection of your reality. They can believe whatever they want.

    • Noodlemum

      746d

      Yes ✋ it's actually something my therapist brought to my attention recently. Try to think w h y you don't share. I didn't share cause I felt they wouldn't believe me anyways. With the help of my therapist we boiled that thought down to the real reason: I didn't feel safe. Now that I've recognized that it's much easier to talk about my pain. Praying for you 🙏 ❤ your pain is real. No one can tell you what's happening in your body except you.

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