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Basilius

525d

thought provoker: why / under what circumstances would you choose NOT do anything to prevent or alleviate discomfort and pain?

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    • Yufufu

      460d

      For me personally, its the medicine sometimes they seem worse then the actual pain im going through. They have all these side effects and warnings, that's why id try to find an alternative solution.

    • Yufufu

      460d

      For me personally, its the medicine sometimes they seem worse then the actual pain im going through. They have all these side effects and warnings, that's why id try to find an alternative solution.

    • Coffee_hound

      462d

      If I know the treatment would interact with other meds, for conditions that are under control.

    • WhistleWhileYouWait

      462d

      I have had migraines for 2 years and, before I sought more intensive help 2 years ago, I'd often avoid ibuprofen and Tylenol where possible. I knew if I took it every time my head hurt it would be bad for my stomach and liver and I'd risk liver issues or rebound headaches. Unfortunately, I bounded in the other direction. Apparently, if you ignore pain and migraine for long enough you grow more pain receptors and (at least in my case) migraine symptoms form an anxiety trigger. So really both approaches to medication have risks. Now I have to take preventives or I am debilitated by the vertigo and I can't drive to work.

      • LadyPasta1

        462d

        @WhistleWhileYouWait I used to have migraines and totally eliminated them by using only Stevia as a sweetener (it's an herb) and not using any artificial sweeteners. In addition, at the advice of a fibromyalgia specialist, I also went to an organic diet. I can cheat a little on the organics but limit the cheating to occasional a restaurant meal.

        • WhistleWhileYouWait

          462d

          @LadyPasta1 I had done some Stevia and I liked it til I realized it was triggering my ragweed allergy. Similar to you, though, I have found that sugar is one of my biggest triggers. Regulating my intake has helped, but my most recent cluster of migraines seemed to be temperature and nervous system related.

    • KabdiSystem

      462d

      Especially having bpd when I have a breakdown if I try to repress it, it will just last longer (bpd breakdowns can last for months). I seperate myself from others then feel my feelings so that i won't prolong them by not processing them, even if I'm in agony by doing it. With ptsd it can be similar, sometimes you have to sit with your feelings or cry or breakdown in order to what I call reset so you can get back to a healthier emotional state, otherwise it can lead to numbness, depression, and hopelessness. With chronic illness, sometimes nothing can be done. I have fnd, and there is very little I can do other then try to reduce my stress overall, which is not only difficult but pretty impossible once the pain/disability has already begun. Mobility aids help and I use them, but sometimes I feel too much shame. There can also be a lot of mindsets in mentally ill people that they deserve the pain/suffering or that the only way to learn to live with it is get used to being in pain. With physically disabled and chronically ill people there can be a huge engraved ableist mindset that if you acknowledge that you need anything outside yourself to cope (meds, mobility aids, accommodations, etc.) That you are weak or inherently less then, and that you just should be able to deal with it. This can lead to not wanting to help yourself because you see it as a shameful, weak, or defeated thing.

    • Ink789

      462d

      I dealt with my parents belittling my pain to the point i ignore it, i have hEDS with chronic pain due to it. So under alot of circumstances, i ignore it unless it is so severe i cant

      • LadyPasta1

        462d

        @Ink789 Yeah, me too. I do things to distract myself. Lots of coloring, on apps and in coloring books; reading; games on my phone; social media; and TV.

        • Ink789

          462d

          @LadyPasta1 my go to is social media and tv, unfortunately coloring hurts my back too much because i can only be slouched to draw

    • LadyPasta1

      463d

      I'm allergic to opiates so the only meds I can take for pain are Tylenol and Aleve. But Tylenol can cause liver damage if too much is taken, and Aleve can cause kidney damage. So I can't take a daily prescription dose of either one; only the over the counter dose. Even though I have severe pain many days, I'm not willing to sacrifice my liver or kidneys for pain relief.

      • 1_lucky_gma

        462d

        @LadyPasta1 I have the same issue. It is so frustrating. No matter if you sacrifice your liver or kidneys it never really helps so unfortunately you just figure out how to cope with constant pain.

        • LadyPasta1

          462d

          @1_lucky_gma Hang in there. It is very frustrating. I especially hate that it limits my activity so much. I have 5 grandchildren, 2 are young. I hate not feeling well enough to play with them. I have a TENS unit that I use for low back pain but in can be a nuisance to put it on. My husband helps me. Nothing helps the fibromyalgia pain though. I spend most days just toughing it out. Take care. 🥰

    • K.C

      463d

      With what I have the surgery is 50/50. He said 50% it’ll work with an 80-90% chance the pain will return as I get older since this is an injury he sees in older patients 60+ 50% it’ll make it worse. Those aren’t good enough odds for me to risk it. I’m in pain now but I can handle it for the most part the pain I’m already in and have been in for years. I think making it worse would worsen my anxiety and depression. So I said no thank you.

    • Jack_in_a_blanket

      463d

      Because it will never go away and I leave the mess for when it gets extra bad so I don't build up tolerance. Sometimes it also feels validating to sit in the worse pain since I am constantly gaslighting myself lol. Or I'm just too tired to deal with it :D so many reasons

    • WhistleWhileYouWait

      519d

      For me, I get a lot of headaches. I've started being choosy about when I use Tylenol or Ibuprofen for those because, if I took it every time, it would be super bad for my liver and I'd get a lot of rebound headaches. This is why I actually began prioritizing using heavier duty migraine treatment. Because I was worried about my body with how much over the counter pain relievers I was using.

    • Snow512

      521d

      Self sabotage

    • Lill

      522d

      Emotionally, when I know feeling my pain is in a healthy amount and when I have to feel it to get through it. Physically, I try to balance my meds so I feel warnings signs of hurting myself more and therefore can stop, but on the other hand pain meds allow blood to the injury to heel faster and allow me to do what I need to do. So I take a small dose when the pain starts, but not enough to try to numb it. Each body is different so dosage and type needs to be what works for you.

    • Harvey78

      523d

      If i was running low on medication i use ibuprofen 800mg every 6 hrs i reserve it for days i need to clean do chores or get out if the apartment.

    • Irelan

      523d

      Stubborn as a mule. And I don't like pills... which I take everyday..

    • drewpy

      523d

      i get way too easily addicted to things like pain meds personally

    • dydy1

      523d

      I think the only person that really knows and understands my pain is my chiropractor. I'm in constant pain and take the same meds as usual, some days the meds don't work because the pain is worse, instead of taking something stronger I fight through it. I've been dealing with this lumbar pain for 2 years now.

    • ren410

      523d

      Ive had 2 reasons now. First was pregnancy and omg. Anyone who loves someone knows its worth it for someone else... but omg. And now after getting to know myself sober i can see what a scary slippery slope treating pain is for me. I am not to be trusted. And narcotics make me hurt worse which makes me (believe i) need more. I am in a shit ton of pain right now and probably forever. I have had spinal surgery and nerves cut. I am very small and have an emotionally and physically volitile 4yr old son half my weight. I am sort of surrendered to life just hurting at this point. That got depressing quick sorry.

    • JennyHeart

      523d

      Consequences and cost!

    • DandelionFairy

      523d

      Another reason of mine (many of the listed above are true for me too) is that they really don't do much at all. And not just Tylenol or ibuprofen, but even opioids don't stop my pain. I'm flat out frustrated. Yes, I have odd medical conditions, but still...why take something when it's the same pain as before and all the suggested remedies didn't work the last several times. Why keep beating a dead horse.

    • gatoraid

      523d

      When it's too painful to move or even talk to ask someone around if they can help

    • Artistic_Witch

      524d

      Personal punishment for causing myself to get into this situation. I’ve no one to blame but myself. I deserve to suffer so I must endure.

      • Harvey78

        523d

        @Artistic_Witch that's so sad😥

    • Jackalopez

      524d

      Sometimes when it comes to pain I'm reluctant to treat it because I built up a tolerance to otc pain meds when I was younger, and ended up with rebound headaches because I was taking too much to combat my chronic migraines. So now my default is "don't take anything unless the pain is completely unbearable" and sometimes I need a gentle reminder even then. Also as someone else above said, not being able to afford treatment does play a big part.

      • Mackintosh

        523d

        @Jackalopez I also have Chronic Migraine (have had for years now), and I can really relate to this. It can sometimes be very challenging to discern the point at which the pain becomes “bad enough” to seek help for as a Chronic pain patient. One thing that helps me with this is to ask myself if the potentially worrisome pain is “abnormal” or different from my ongoing chronic pain symptoms. If it is not normal for me, that’s a sign. Also, it can be helpful to obtain other chronic pain patient’s (trusted) opinions when you are in the throes of suffering; often, they can relate and reassure you are not being unreasonable either way (getting help/not getting help). Also, and this is probably obvious, but when in doubt and if able, it is perfectly okay to call your doctor/write them a message via patient portal or email, etc. to let them know about your current situation & ask what they might advise for you. Best :)

    • matt4d

      524d

      I hate treating stuff because it's so annoying to have another thing to worry about. I'd rather just wait it out and see if it goes away than visit a doctor and have to take meds that I can't remember to take anyway...

      • Harvey78

        523d

        @matt4d my insurance paid for me to have divvydose. Check it out. I really love it. Meds come in packests that spit out of a box like receipts 🧾 its cool. Id never go back to bottles i wish this was around 18 yrs ago.

    • Miska

      524d

      I personally watched my mom bounce from med to med from dr to dr and on and off of things, she has bipolar, and from watching the side effects and the other things, like going to a dr convinced something is wrong but they can't find anything wrong, I typically put off going to dr or taking any medicine. I will got two or more days with a migraine before medicating....

    • dailydose

      524d

      Side effects

    • MaryC

      524d

      So, not by choice really but I've had to cut back on what I have been taking for pain due to extreme depression. I would rather live with pain than die from suicide. I still struggle with the pain but it is better than the alternative

      • Mackintosh

        518d

        @MaryC This has happened to me on specific medications as well. One was for depression/anxiety (and now antidepressant also most commonly used to help prevent migraines) and the other was for extreme muscle spasms (but on-label for anxiety/panic attacks). There are often viable alternatives your doctor can provide you with instead of the medication that is provoking that terrible side effect for you.

    • Denotchka

      524d

      If it is causing true emotional and spiritual growth and development in the person. You need both types of insight as well so being on a similar road yourself helps.

    • rynnrynn

      524d

      When I have a migraine and I’m not at home or somewhere comfortable I choose not to take my reliever because it makes me fall asleep. So I just suffer till I get home and then it’s usually too late to get any relief.

      • Mackintosh

        523d

        @rynnrynn There are a lot of various rescue medications for Migraine attacks—more now than ever. Have you spoken with your doctor/specialist (treating your migraines) about this extreme Sleepiness side effect from your current rescue med?? They may be able to help find one for you that is a better fit; I have Chronic Migraine & my main rescue medication works well sans side effects for me. If a side effect is that severe/debilitating, a viable alternative medication to use when you are away from home ought to be available to you. Best!

    • ina

      524d

      i don't show my pain to people because of being cut off by friends by doing so too much. i feel like persisting through pain makes me "strong"

      • WanderingStars

        524d

        @ina whoops you’ve called me out!

      • notkevin86

        524d

        @ina I tried to hide mine as well but I usually end up in a bad situation because when I try to hide it I try to do too much to prove I don't have it

    • notkevin86

      524d

      My reasoning has been a mix between trying to not look weak to having to show how I am so that the latest physician sees at least a glimpse of what I'm going through.

    • Tomster

      524d

      If it's at night and I'm trying to sleep I wont take certain medications because it keeps me up.

    • hazyeclipse

      524d

      Not being able to afford it

    • Molly_Grace

      524d

      Sometimes with depression, you just don't have the motivation to even care enough to seek treatment. Also, some people might be afraid they'll just pushed on opioids. Others might be afraid there's nothing that can be done so they just give up before they even try because they're stubborn. My father is like that. He'd rather complain about pain that get his hip replacement surgery because it's more pain and physical therapy that he'd have to go through and in his mind, that's somehow worse. People are complicated.

      • Gidgetmom

        524d

        @Molly_Grace why would you not want a med that can actually Help. Used responsibly won't turn you into am addict. That'd the propaganda the gov has pushed on medical prof. One of my longtime Dr offered me an opiod in Dec. The next March she told me to take Tylenol. I looked at her and said, "really? So the gov got yo yall too!" She looked sad and just looked down. No response.

        • Molly_Grace

          523d

          @Gidgetmom they actually really suck. Long term use causes your body to actually grow more opioid receptors so you end up needing higher and higher doses to get the same effect out of them and you actually end up feeling pain more intensely than before. It's a vicious cycle that's not worth starting if you can help it.

    • 100Percent_K

      524d

      I can’t ingest most OTC pain meds, so if my script ones aren’t quite doing the job for the day I just let it go and do the best I can.

      • DandelionFairy

        524d

        @100Percent_K allergic?

        • 100Percent_K

          524d

          @DandelionFairy allergies + GI issues

    • luteallady

      524d

      If I'm going to the doctor and want them to see how miserable I am without treatment

    • NoraLeigh

      524d

      I ask my SO the same thing

      • Basilius

        524d

        @NoraLeigh my whole reason for asking this is because my partner gets crabby about pain, but doesn't want to do anything about it either:/ I just don't get it

        • Magpie42

          463d

          @Basilius I gripe about my chronic pain. I'm not stuck in a doom loop, I'm not attention seeking. I am simply stating a fact. I am and will be in some sort of pain until I die, which I don't plan to be doing anytime soon. Sometimes people just need to vent. Sometimes also, people need to understand that the people they vent to don't understand so they take it as complaining. Those of us with chronic pain will never experience just getting out of bed. Going through a day where you have to ask yourself, is this bad enough to take meds for? And for a lot of us, we never fully get answers, never feel validated by our doctors, lose the ability to be spontaneous. I'm doing quite a lot better than a lot of ppl with my specific dx. But, I'm doing a lot worse than others. I don't find it *thought provoking* at all. This question feels ableist and a sly way to complain about your partner.

        • Weiss

          524d

          @Basilius Maybe they're falling into a mental block where they wouldn't know what to do if it changed. They can't separate the pain from themself and they feel like they wouldn't be themself without it. Or maybe they want the attention. Maybe they think there's nothing special about them. Or maybe they are hiding behind the pain. For me, it's the doctors. I'm sick of going to the doctors. It's too expensive to feel better and it's a royal pain in the ass to see specialists and doctors.

    • wise

      525d

      If I know the pain is temporary and how long it'll last, I don't bother trying to treat it. My body develops tolerance and resistance so fast, I save effective pain meds for a last resort before going to an emergency room for the really strong stuff I can't get anywhere else. There's no use trying to treat the pain of a broken bone if I know it's not gonna last forever. It's the chronic stuff with no end in sight that really gets to me

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