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Hi there! So, a little over half a year ago I broke up with my ex. The relationship became toxic and worsened my anxiety quite a bit. The breakup was really messy and we have each other blocked now. I’ve made a lot of progress since then, which includes starting medication which has helped me immensely. However, there is one thing that I have been getting anxious over a lot. We met at a college club, and therefore have a bunch of mutual friends. He’s known a bunch of them longer than me. I constantly worry about him shit talking me to them behind my back. I’m worried that I’m gonna lose a bunch of my friendships because of him. I can feel a bigger distance between me and some of them, but we still talk. I always wanted to get closer with them but I have a feeling that it’s impossible now because they’re closer with him. I care about them all and don’t want to lose them, but I’m worried that because I made some mistakes during the relationship, and if they know, they lowkey don’t like me and don’t even want to be friends anymore and are just sticking around out of obligation. I’m worried that I fucked up not just a relationship, but my friendships too. This might just be my anxiety talking, but it keeps bugging me and it’s hard for me to ignore. What do I do?

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    • calamarinis

      489d

      I understand that, breakups hurt not just you but some friendships too. Knowing what the friends intentions are and how they feel about you and your ex can help. And if they don't like you because of a relationship, it's difficult but in my experience it's best to move on from both, ex and friends that aren't friends. Not everyones the same tho so I hope you have good weeks ahead. ♡

    • mandyyyy

      489d

      Hey, I get the situation you're going to, to a degree. The bottom line is it sucks. But this is where you might find out who are 'real' friends or not. Like Shan.Shan said, might be worth talking to these friends and explaining your concerns and that you're worried about losing your friendship with them. Everyone makes mistakes in relationships, it's only human, but lots of things are forgivable. And if they are real, honest friends that can see past your relationship and see you for yourself, then they'll understand that. Wishing you the best of luck!

    • Shan.Shan

      489d

      You can ask them how they feel about the friendship that they share with you. It can be really hard to do. I totally get that, but you won’t know until you ask.

    • calamarinis

      489d

      I understand that, breakups hurt not just you but some friendships too. Knowing what the friends intentions are and how they feel about you and your ex can help. And if they don't like you because of a relationship, it's difficult but in my experience it's best to move on from both, ex and friends that aren't friends. Not everyones the same tho so I hope you have good weeks ahead. ♡

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