Struggling with BPD in a new relationship

Hello, new on this app. But really enjoying it so far. I learned a thing today, and that is what an FP is for a person with BPD. I realized immediately I am doing this to my new partner, (7 months and not “official”but exclusive?) and he is not the biggest fan of it. Which I absolutely understand, he is more of a self sufficient type. He does respect our differences, just moves slower in relationships than I do, and doesn’t feel emotions on the level I feel. I want to make sure that’s clear before I ask. How do I stop doing this? It doesn’t feel good.