How Does BPD Affect Relationships? Need Advice!

Not to be too dramatic but BPD makes pretty much everything difficult. I can’t regulate my mood and I have problems with self-mutilation. I’ve lost many friendships due to paranoia and anger outbursts. Not everyone is as affected as I am, though.

Because it's a personality disorder, it affects everything. Everything you do could be a result of your disorder. I'm not saying this to freak you out or anything, I've just recently come to terms with that myself and I'm trying to work on myself so I can be a better partner to my fiance. I checked on everything in the diagnostic criteria for BPD and meet the criteria for another cluster b (that I won't name bc it's heavily stigmatized). And I am constantly affected by both of them. Just the littlest things activate the disorders and it's incredibly frustrating. My fiance and I have been together for exactly a year and a half now, and I know he's not going anywhere. It definitely impacts our relationship, but we always make up after I get irritated over something small and I try to better myself for next time. This message is kind of all over the place but I hope it helps.

from their end or yours? i find being diagnosed w something doesnt change my behaviours, im the same as before just with a label to describe it