Struggling with BPD episodes, need advice

I recommend looking into Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills. DBT was made specifically to treat BPD, and I personally have found the skills to be the most useful thing in helping me handle my symptoms. I especially recommend the STOP skill for when things get really intense emotionally. The other thing that helped me was getting on a low dose of Abilify (aripiprozol) which is a mood stabilizer/anti-psychotic. That really calmed down the intense emotional reactions for me, but I feel more "normal," not like a zombie or anything.