Storm38

545d

Does your Bi-polar wreck havoc in your relationships?

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    • l0nlybluJay

      545d

      Without a doubt. From being way too emotional, to picking fights, creating scenarios in my head that may or may not be true & actually believing it. Getting too attached, giving too much or not enough affection.

    • l0nlybluJay

      545d

      Without a doubt. From being way too emotional, to picking fights, creating scenarios in my head that may or may not be true & actually believing it. Getting too attached, giving too much or not enough affection.

      • Journie

        541d

        @l0nlybluJay ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!!!!!✋

    • SimonsExodus

      545d

      Oh yes, constantly. Friendships, work, partners. Finding people who also struggle with mental illness helps, they are more likely to "get it".. but at least for me it's always been an uphill battle

    • des00000

      544d

      Yep, it has ruined many, including a marriage.

    • keshwh

      544d

      It has damaged or ruined nearly everything in my life: academics, profession/career, finances, family and friends, and my marriage of 35 years. My wife had the patience of a saint but even with that she finally had enough and asked for a divorce. It’s a waking nightmare, and it never ends.

    • Storm38

      544d

      I am Bi-polar, OCD, BPD, PTSD, and ADHD. I don't take any medication at this time but know I can't continue to fight it all without help of some kind. I was married for 18 years and have two amazing girl's. The divorce wasn't as bad as it could have been. I didn't realize at the time why I struggled as much as I did on a daily basis. I never talked to my husband about any of my feelings, concerns, or struggles. I was afraid of what him and his family would say or do. Worried they would think I was crazy or on drugs when I wasn't. About a year after the divorce I started dating a man who would turn out to be an evil monster. I know evil monsters from my childhood. Yet I didn't see this one at first. By the time I did it was too late. I survived but it was the hardest thing to overcome. Three years after that I met a man that was unlike anyone I have ever dated. I love him. I know I'm not easy to live with. I warned him from the very first day we met and started talking, that I was crazy. He swore he could handle it. I told him I've heard that more times than I can count and to proceed with caution because I can't give anymore of me to another person that won't handle my fragile pieces with care. He said he could and I slowly believed him. He had no idea what he was getting into. We have been together three years now and I want so bad to get a handle on these issues I am. I wish I could see myself from his view. From the view of many. I'd like to understand who I am from what they see. I don't want to lose the person I am but at same time want size down parts of me. Trying to explain myself to anyone usually gives me a panic attack because they don't get it

    • Storm38

      544d

      I want to know there's hope for making it work. So far what I've heard has been all negative. 😥

      • Mrs.Jones7914

        541d

        @Storm38 yes it can work. I have bi polar and have been with the same woman for 17 years.

    • BlackFawn

      542d

      😥 Yes, big time!

    • keshwh

      541d

      I wish I had encouraging words. "Dating myself" seems to be the best option, I don't have the added stress (or benefits 😔) of a relationship, but I also don't have the stress of dealing with the bipolar blast zone hurting anyone else. It's lonely, but for me it's the best situation I can survive in.

    • Carly1963

      541d

      Storm38, yes all the time 😻💜🥰

    • LadyTavali

      541d

      I’ve been at a very “meh” state since starting medication. Nothing gets me manic which kind of sucks. I’m wondering if I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and it was really just ADHD hyperactivity and hyperfixation. That said, my mental illnesses definitely wreak havoc on my relationships but I’ve determined it’s mostly the combination of PTSD, BPD, and the anxiety that coincides with them.

    • mynewfriend

      541d

      It use to, yes, and that was the reason I decided to stay one medications. I hated how I treated and interacted with people. For me, things changed after going to inpatient care and then a lengthy outpatient program where I learned more about psycho-educational topics like codependency, setting boundaries, cognitive distortions, and general mental wellness. It took years of working at it, and I still struggle with relationships with casual friends and coworkers, but I've managed a healthy relationship of almost 8 years with my partner and have greatly improved my family and close relationships. Being in group therapy and self help settings was a lot more effective for dealing with relationships than therapy and medication alone.

    • mynewfriend

      541d

      If you don't mind the awkwardness of virtual meetings, I highly recommend checking out the self help groups at supportgroupscentral.com, especially DBSA and the Peer Return to Network.

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