Balancing the Risk of Spinal Surgery

How (especially as a younger person) do you find a balance between not rushing into major spinal surgeries & being overcautious? I’m 33 and my doctors want me to have 2 major spinal surgeries, complete with rods and plates and artificial disc replacements and 6 month recovery time each.. I know there’s a good chance these implants will need upkeep within a decade.. that puts me at only 43. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life undergoing surgery regularly. The problem is I’m in excruciating pain constantly and I can barely function, it seems I’ve exhausted all non surgical treatment options, and my PM doctors have fallen victim to the CDC/DEA attack on patients and refuse to prescribe even a slightly higher dose of pain meds despite having my med dosage cut by 85% in about a year. Any advice?