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iamstaceycar

551d

Have you managed to maintain your social relationships without your health getting in the way?

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    • gatoraid

      532d

      Not fully no, I struggle with staying with people, there's always a part of me that's just kinda detached and when I'm super stressed / overwhelmed it let's me leave for months & not contact everyone.

    • gatoraid

      532d

      Not fully no, I struggle with staying with people, there's always a part of me that's just kinda detached and when I'm super stressed / overwhelmed it let's me leave for months & not contact everyone.

    • iamstaceycar

      532d

      I totally understand this. I’d just like two really good friends so we could hang out, go see a film, grab a bite to eat etc. and just be able to put the world to right over a drink.

    • Eren2273

      544d

      No lol

    • Rahja

      544d

      Absolutely not. When my health was becoming too much in high school, I wasn't able to attend class much which was the only time I saw or got to chat with my classmates (I didn't talk to any outside of school or use social media like that). It didn't take long for others to start seeing me as a burden and not bothering to talk to me. They'd just look at me all pitiful while passing in the hallway. When a person has issues that can't easily be resolved by "working hard on yourself," "taking medication," "praying" and aren't obvious just from looking at them... many people tend to check out and not see the point in interacting. Which I get to a degree tbh, but it still hurts to experience

    • minime273

      544d

      Somewhat. I'm autistic and have ADHD, so if I talk to others who are similar, it's easier to relate. The general public, however, has never truly gotten me. As an aside, I see "pseudotumor cerebri" listed, and just wanted to say, I know what that is! My mom also has that! I almost never see that anywhere.

    • lil_nug

      545d

      Some friends have adapted to my health decline, and I am amazingly grateful for their involvement in my life, and all the accessible social activities we do together. I have lost other friends who haven't been able to adapt, which has been sad, but also my capacity for people is smaller, I can't keep up with as many friends as I used to have anyway. I might have to move away in a few months, and I'm really scared about not being able to go out and meet people as someone with chronic physical and mental health problems though. I think that would be really hard for me.

    • Ellis_b

      550d

      The only real close friendships I have where we have a deep understanding of each other are with other people who are disabled/chronically sick!

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Ellis_b I’m the same and they’re all online so I don’t get the proper feeling of socialisation 😔

    • Foxlover

      550d

      Not always I try to see my friends once a week but sometimes I don’t feel good . I’ve been able to do something ever couple weeks though.

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Foxlover That’s still great though! ❤️

    • Bre19

      550d

      By setting healthy boundaries and having people that do not just focus on my health and we can talk about anything and we allow each other space when we need it making sure that we check in on each other and making sure that the relationship is 2 ways

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Bre19 I struggle to find understanding people. I’m so open to their problems but it’s never a two way street unfortunately 😥

    • AnxietyGirl79

      550d

      No, I've lost almost all of my friends and family due to my mental health

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @AnxietyGirl79 same 😥

    • Neverlandgirl

      550d

      I haven't managed them without health getting in the way I was just able to find friends who were willing to adapt things for me

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Neverlandgirl bless you, hold on to them ❤️

    • fakeosphere

      551d

      No, I am a basket case with chronic pain and something always gets in the way. I am basically always asking for forgiveness or catching up in some way.

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @fakeosphere I totally get that 😥

    • Kadair

      551d

      I can honestly say I have, I have been married for over 19 years now. My husband got a good look at my anxiety issues before we were married. I have a issue that when under a lot of stress my body just does a reboot, so to say. At first the docs thought it was a seizure but it isn't. Only thing they think it is, is my anxiety. He still hung in there and we ended up getting married. We have been together for 21 years really but married 19. My true friends have hung around even they know about the reboots. Only thing I can say is if they can not accept you for you, then they are not worth trying to spend time with. Someone who can accept you with everything is a keeper!

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Kadair My partner is great with me but I fear I dump everything on him. He has to wear so many “hats”, the partner, the friend, the therapist, the carer, the list goes on. I’m scared I’m wearing him down with my problems.

    • Peechii

      551d

      Ive managed one friend so far who has enough patience and understanding to allow me space and support when i need it, and doesnt have a huge issue when i cant go out when we plan to (whether that be due to work, illness or pain)

      • iamstaceycar

        532d

        @Peechii I’m struggling to find one. I have a friend who I can talk to about anything but never seems to want to do any social activities. I’m not gonna lie I miss being social, I feel lonely a lot of the time.

    • MakoLita

      551d

      This summer we got together for my mom's memorial, and my siblings wanted to get a big house together, but we couldn't find one with a single floor that could accommodate us all, and my sister and I both struggle with stairs (rheumatoid arthritis and chronic fatigue make stairs hard), so we just each got our own place.

    • MakoLita

      551d

      Depends on the people. My siblings have all been understanding, because my mom and one of my older sisters have a lot of health issues, so I wasn't the first. My friends.... The ones that I'm closest to understand and have always been accommodating. But! My friends and family they even understand but don't have health issues themselves, sometimes need to be shown or reminded that I need accommodations from them. I'm the youngest of 8 siblings, and only two of us have health issues. The other 6 don't always think about our health things, so we make sure to bring it up.

    • MakoLita

      551d

      Not so much without it getting in the way, but I'm outspoken about my health things and what I need from friends and family when we hang out.

      • iamstaceycar

        551d

        @MakoLita Have they always been understanding about it all? Or tend to plan things and not invite you?

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