Navigating Relationships with Autism: Seeking Advice

It is weird. I am married and we both have autism as well as many other fun health stuff. We found that over communicating is essential. Sometimes talking about something won't stick. Like the cooked spaghetti trick. You know it's done when it sticks. Also, finding a couples therapist who understands autism can be enlightening.

It’s so weird most of the time I’m too empathetic but sometimes it’s like I feel so empty idk

I am a hyper empathetic autistic but my best friend is not empathic at all of an autistic. I’ve talked to her about this a lot!! (She’s not on this app) but she agrees with people in this post saying that the little empathy for people but they have a lot for animals. She also gets that way about old people, but not really in her relationship. She navigates that by open communication on both ends, her boyfriend expresses if the lack of empathy has affected him and how, and she adds it to her mental list of things she needs to work on having more compassion for. Which, isn’t really easy, but is possible. While you might not feel that empathy it is possible to get your brain in a spot to think in a grey area, even if you’re not thinking too deep because she also struggles with black and white thinking. Communication is key for that!

I do not experience empathy essentially at all, and I’ve communicated this to my romantic partner! They are also on the spectrum so they understand, and when things come up that are emotional we talk it out

I don't have empathy for people, but feel so much for animals that it's overwhelming

Not all autistic people lack empathy. In fact half of them feel too much empathy to the point where they don't know how to verbally express it.

I really struggle due to attachment issues as well but I've found a lot of comfort recently by watching autistic vloggers. I've found out a lot about myself, about emotional dysregulation, alexithymia, rejection sensitive dysphoria etc that now I understand myself I can start to manage these in my romantic relationship. It's certainly harder (from what I hear) but once you know what you're dealing with it can start to become easier 😊.

It’s weird, because i also have bipolar, i have very strong emotions for an autistic person. And i feel like I’m emotionally intelligent. Its a weird trip being an emotional autistic tho 🤯🤯🤯