Struggling with my Autism Diagnosis

I'm a few days/weeks away from getting my evaluation results, for bothe autism + adhd, and I thought the process + potential results would be a huge relief and conclusion to my suspicions for 10+ years... But at the end of the evaluation, the psychologist shared some of their opinions at that moment. She said she agrees that I have a high amount of adhd + autism traits, and that she doesn't even feel we needed to complete some long test they usually do for adhd, because even without scoring the assessments I had just done, she felt that was sort of obvious already. She then told me that it's a little tricky with the autism stuff though, because I don't have any reports from my mother, doctors, etc. of anything being "wrong". So even if I have all the traits and fit all of the diagnostic criteria [based on my recollection of my childhood struggles and traits] - I may not get diagnosed because I either masked too high or the people around me didn't notice anything wrong or "different" enough to point it out. This has been giving me a crapload of anxiety and stress the past few days, as my family has always been dismissive and my struggles have always flown under the radar... So shit be sucking :[ (also i asked her if there was anything else contributing to a doubt towards the autism diagnosis, or if the social stuff (body monitoring, scripting, etc.) could just be adhd by itself [not typically but i wanted to ask to prompt her to answer or think a bit] - and she seemed to avoid actually answering, which leads me to believe that the lack of external reports is the only reason she'd doubt a diagnosis. In summary: Thought I'd get a direct answer and then feel immense relief. Was wrong. More stressed than beforehand. So, i am obviously in a different boat than OP - but i figured dummy, stressy, bad evaluation feeling sharing may help :]

Take time to process it. I know that's part of the plan. It's just a part of you. You didn't get to pick this. I don't know if therapy is an option? And it could be inner child wounds, which really means some extra self care for a bit