Questioning if I have autism as an adult

I’m gonna start off with I’m not diagnosed, but my boyfriend has been pointing things out to me that I always did and no one pointed out as autism. He did though. He has an autistic father and so he knows a lot about it. Me being me doesn’t want to have the disorder cause I have a lot going on. Everyone would just say I’m quirky or I have a “manic pixie dream girl” vibe. But I never really thought that’s why people always took my words wrong when I was just trying to help them or say that I’m not being empathetic enough when I feel like crying when they are struggling so bad but I don’t want them to have to take care of me. I don’t want to fake this disorder but I just need to know if this is normal for adults with autism to feel this way when they find out.