Struggling to Connect: Autism and Finding Love

ive found that it really helps to meet in a dating context. I met my current partner on a dating app so i didnt have to worry about freaking out a potential friend by missing platonic signals. Outside of that I'd never make any advances without being 200% sure they were also intrested in me, which only worked so well 😅 once i know for sure were both looking for a relationship the weird secret code social norms go out the window. Im not gonna pretened to understand something i dont, and at that point they either liked that or were interested enough to not be deterred. Its just like the normal talking phase but with absolutely 0 mind games and an agreeded upon pretense. And if theyre not down for that, we probably arent a good match ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

I've been trying to get a relationship for as long as I can remember. And I'm only almost 21. I've had one 'ex' but it wasn't really a relationship because they tricked me and forced me into one. I also don't count it, because after I 'broke up' with them, they called me... An autistic freak. Yes, you read that right. She was just so pissed off that day that she wasn't thinking. But it still fricking hurt. This was almost 6 years ago, and I haven't forgotten about it since. But I've been trying to find a relationship since. It's been hard to try and find one especially because I don't quite know how relationships work because I've never had one. I don't know what the right thing to do is or how to do it. I've resorted to dating sites, which that's not a good idea either because everyone is too far away from me where I live. Long story short, I feel your pain about struggling to find a relationship or other.

The best thing that ever happened to me was finding a person who is also autistic and has adhd. We communicate better than any couple I've ever met! Sometimes finding a person who is neurodiverse in the same way as you can be super helpful!

😥 I have the same issue. They always leave me in the end. Find someone who actually makes your emotions go crazy and when you confess.. it should make u feel speechless for a while. That is true love!💕

All of my partners have pursued me so I really don't know. I've been told I'm "a nightmare to get to know but absolutely worth it in the end"