Anxiety when partner goes out to bars

People usually go to bars to hook up unless they're going with a group of friends... And even then, it depends on how trustworthy both your partner and the friends are otherwise whether you should be concerned. If it is a concern for you and they are your partner, they shouldn't be going to bars... Not to mention it can be a red flag for alcoholism and other problems. Sounds to me like you may need a new partner.

maybe because you're afraid of her doing something you don't agree with. I know that exact feeling and it's scary. I think it comes from all the movies and stories where we watched people get drunk and cheat or do something terrible. you should definitely talk to her about it though.

I kinda get this. Sometimes I’ll get upset about my partner using substances when I even use them myself and it’s not bad (alcohol, ouid) it’s sort of strange. Maybe FOMO? I don’t know haha