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Ever been told you’re “too young” to have your condition?
Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA)
Acute Pain in Thoracic Spine
Congestive Heart Failure (CHF)
Diabetes Type 2 (T2D)
Chronic Memory Loss
Chronic Generalized pain
Anxiety (Including GAD)
Esophagitis-Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD)
Occlusion of Cerebral Arteries
Gastritis, Duodenitis (Not Infectious)
Feeling of choking
Acute Myocardial Infarction (MI)
Pain in joints of lower leg
Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA)
Chronic Abdominal Distention
Chronic Liver Disease & Cirrhosis
Symptoms Involving Skin & Other Integumentary Tissue
Chronic Pain in Thoracic Spine
Disorders of gallbladder
Low Back Pain
Disorder involving the immune mechanism
Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)
Symptoms Involving Nervous & Musculoskeletal Systems
@marshfroggie people don't understand
Yah by my mom
At least once a week.
Sooo many times
all my doctors looked at my charts and went "omg you're so young! :(" so. yeah lmao
I have cardiorythmia at 19. doctor wouldn't stop mentioning it
I was told I was too young to have a genetic condition that is present from birth.
So many times for a few conditions lol
Thousands of times.
But then I get to share with the person what it's like and also share my testimony.
I was attacked by this physical therapist who was going to asses me on my first appointment before she even touched me talking about how I'm to young to have the issues I have and people have wreaks everyday and get over them. She had to do my reassessment 6 weeks later, I did not report her, but she did indeed apologize to me because it's quite obvious that I need the help.
I've been in pain as long as I can remember. I'm 23 and I'm only now starting to get help because nobody believes me
Yeah, I'm a High school student with 6 chronic conditions. Im hearing this one all the time 😭🙃
Too many times 😭
I was told I shouldn't have any of my problems for at least another 10 years, I've had arthritis since I was at least 20, I know.
I swear, anytime I tell someone I'm not feeling well, they joke about how nice it must be to be a spry 20 year old. Like, m'am, I was tested for arthritis at 14 years old.
I have constant joint pain in my ankles, knees, and wrists. Pretty sure I have arthritis of some kind, but any time I express discomfort, I'm told I'm too young to be in pain, just wait until I'm their age, etc., etc..
Yeah, my doctors have told me for a long time that "you don't have sleep problems, you're 14, you're only 16, you're only 18" and now that I'm 21 with the same sleep issues they're like "whoopsie sorry"
I've been told this for close to 10 years now. Illnesses don't discriminate against age.
Absolutely I have. I also have been told its all in my head and I respond with.. where else would it be? My butt? Lol
I was literally told to wait a year because I was 2 and my parents wanted a diagnosis for autism.
No (halaluuuu) but I do think a big part of that is because I’m a health professional myself. I shouldn’t have to flex my role to be listened too and understood.
I'm 49 and was recently told that I am too young for all my medical issues yet we have proof of all my diagnosis. All my Dr could do is agree. That being said all the medical field is doing now is try to keep me comfy.
Yep all the time I feel they don't take me seriously because of my age and size.
All. The. Time.
Every time I walk into my rheumatologist office and have to sit in the waiting room. You would think they've never seen someone under the age of 60 with a rheumatological disorder. 🤷♀️
Every time I ever tell someone I have fibromyalgia
Every day of my life
In 2005, the idea that a 15-year-old could have debilitating TMJ problems was apparently beyond people, including A LOT of doctors. I got quite a bit of “it’s in your head,” to which I’d respond “Yes! Exactly! The jaw is in the head, I’m glad you know your basic anatomy!”
It wasn’t appreciated, but neither was their bullshit so 🤷🏻♀️
@Seae And when I needed a walker in my twenties. The few times I needed a wheelchair, nothing, but something about a walker makes people want to voice their opinions. It’s like, do you think I use this for fun?
Yes! I was diagnosed with an overactive thyroid at 6 - one of the youngest people in my country to ever have it. Alongside that I was also diagnosed with Graves' Disease. The doctors wouldn't listen to my mum and instead sent me for an MRI because they thought that having a brain tumour was the most likely reason behind my symptoms. It took daily visits to the GP for SIX WEEKS before they even did my blood tests
All the time
I was told I was too young to identify as ace at 15 but now I'm 22 and still ace.
@Quillathe Oh, I also broke my elbow and got my radial head fully replaced. My physical therapist said I was the youngest person she'd seen to have to get that fully replaced.
Omg yes. First I was 'too young' for depression and self harm (first picked up on when I was 7) then I was 'too young' for schizophrenia (it kicked in big time when I was a preteen.) The sh1t thing is that all these years later we are having the same issue now, with trying to get my preteen mental health help, the 'experts' frown and look at me suspiciously saying, "It is unusual at that age..."
Everyone always assumes that I must be exaggerating because I'm young I can't be having that much chronic pain, I must be healthy because I'm young so I'm just abusing the system 🙄
“Too young” to have POTS, recurring shingles etc, and my “favourite”-…. “you’re too young to be this depressed” 🥴
I've had doctors dismiss symptoms because "you're too young for high blood pressure" and I think that's one of the reasons I'm undiagnosed/late diagnosed for so many things
Yes I have always been told I am too young for COPD even my family don't understand the struggles living with it
Just to bring a little positivity to the thread, yes I have been told I was too young to have all of the disorders i have. My grandmother told me she felt bad because im so young and should not have to go through everything I go through. She said im too young to have all these problems but the way i handle them is so mature. She always tells me how strong i am and how she feels bad at my age i deal with all the things I deal with.
Heartburn, and arthritis :(
Dude this post has been here forever
Yup been told I'm too young to be in this much pain!! I was told this around 38-40 I think? At 40 I was told my pains and conditions/concerns were normal for people my age. Ffs I sure feel sorry for you 43 year Olds dealing with what I'm dealing with. Except I've never seen any of them lurch forward due to such bad spasms or sharp as hell pains, screaming in pain, hitting the floor, or crying till they couldn't stand it and wanted to kill themselves over the pain.
When my joints first seized up and I went to A&E, I was told that I needed a "strong body for a strong and healthy life and career" and was just given crutches when I could barely move
Literally right now - Recently told I've got IBS, doctor kept saying how I'm "only 20 years old, you shouldn't be going through this"....but not given enough help/looked into why I'm experiencing these symptoms
I'm on warfarin. Which is usually prescribed to 40-90 year olds, I have DVT which is also a 40-90 year old problem. I'm 18. Got dvt when I was 13 and one of the doctors said to my face that he didnt believe I had this when i told him, he had to check my file to see if I was telling the truth. .
"You're too young to have body aches and pains"
"You're too young to have arthritis"
"You're too young to need physical therapy"
"You're too young to have loss of memory"
"You're too young to have chronic fatigue"
I've been told that almost my entire life. I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at 11. However, we think it could have started as early as 7. My parents assumed it was growing pains, which is common. Most parents don't assume their young child has arthritis. It wasn't until I had a large amount of fluid "water" on the knee that I was finally diagnosed.
So many times, and besides hearing "you're too young" I hear "isn’t that for old people" because I have arthritis
Way to often
All the time ❤️
I have been told I am too young to have x y and z or that vitamins could magically fix my pseudoseizures.
I've been asked why I have fatty liver disease at my age by a surgeon. I didn't quite know how to answer. I just said it was genetic.
I was diagnosed with severe anxiety when I was in 3rd grade. People kept saying I was too young to have anxiety that badly.
I was diagnosed with arthritis in both knees at 26 years old, I've been the youngest one in physical therapy for my back that was messed up from birth. I'm working on getting cataract surgery at 33. I'm constantly told I'm too young to have these conditions, I always just tell people tell that to my joints.
I have experienced this a lot. Ageism isn't just against the elderly, it's also a problem for the young.
yes, amonst other things.
Yes... But I try to think that people are generally trying to be encouraging when they say that.
always lol. people look at me weird when i'm using my cane cause i guess i look too young to have one
😒 only everyday of my life
OMG the struggle is real.
By every dang doctor I've seen and especially disability lawyers and judges. They are absolute ableist and I for one hate throwing that word around and never have personally but they are the most ableist people I have ever seen in my entire life.
All the fucking time. Your too young to hurt. Your too young to be tired. Aren't you too young to have diabetes. Oh all teenagers have anxiety. It makes me so mad all I want to say is " Aren't you too old to be alive?"
When I first came out as trans when I was 12 my mom was very insistent that I was too young and didnt know what I was doing. For many years she struggled with my new name and pronouns and was in denial of my being trans; Now I'm 20 years old, on hormone treatment, looking to get top surgery, and EVERYONE in my life excepts me as a man. Including my mom. It gets better kids, just keep going!
Frequently! That I'm too young, and that I shouldn't have had the particular mix of conditions I have. Or best one, is because I don't look like I have them externally, people think I have nothing wrong 😩
All the time. By doctors and people close to me. Almost every procedure requires me to have a pregnancy test which they forget to do because of my age. I tell them I'm not pregnant, but they have to do it legally anyways.
My partner was told he was too young to have arthritis but he has it in his spine
Yes. Because I have hip dysplasia, it basically makes me feel like an 80 year old and so when I complain about hip or back pain, people always tell me "you shouldn't be feeling like that you're not old"
YES OH MY GOD
Yep, with multiple of my conditions 🙃
@MaryLemon For the past few years I've been fighting for a mammogram. I had a referral for one and when I went they refused to do because of my age... Despite having a referral and diagnosed/proven breast masses. Since their refusal my breast issues have just gotten worse. I have paperwork from the past few years form multiple doctors proving it's real issues and the masses have grown. It's infuriating because health issues do not discriminate against age 😤
YES. Like...clearly I'm not.
All the time it's rough.. just wish I could find someone who truly understands and relates to me!
Im told im too young for constipation.
Not really that I was too young more of you don't have it even tho I have a diagnosis of it
got told i was too young to have bone problems, i frequently get told im "still young and in my physical prime". if this is my prime, i dread whats to come !!!
Yes! This is an extreme example, but I got shingles when I was 14 years old. Yet I'm not old enough for the vaccine, if I even wanted it, even though I'm more at risk for a recurrence than someone who hasn't had it.
Boils my piss
All the time. Especially the "young ladies like you shouldn't be taking the lift, they should be using the stairs" or other things. Literally boils my blood.
All the time. Somehow you cant have migraines as a kid? even with a long family history??
Fuck yeah! And the fact that it comes from health professionals as well...? Like whaaaat
All the time 😥
oh my god all of the dang time
Yep. I'm an oddity in my family. While family members may have 1 illness they don't have the combo I have. Or they have something that's least destructive on the body. I've been told most of life that I was making it up, seeking attention, that it's not so bad and I'm just making seem worse, or personal fav I don't know what I'm talking about. At this point in my life life I've learned to ignore those people and if they can't understand then they aren't worth my time. I have found doctors who are actually willing to listen to me without judgment. And that has been the biggest help.
Still don’t have all answers because of it 🙃
I hate it when people say this. It triggers me so deeply back into being a 6-year-old telling my mother I think I had arthritis (which I DO!) and her and the doctors said I was “too young” 😥
yes, i usually heard this from my own family when i was a teenager and i still hear it from my mom
all the time. i wasn't diagnosed with autism until last year, just after i turned 18. i had gone to get diagnosed as soon as i moved out, because i really thought i had it, and i couldn't get it diagnosed when living with my parents. my mom always laughed when i told her i was autistic, and when i got the diagnosis, she was shocked. also with my depression and anxiety. shit is intense and yet nobody believed me as a kid.
@x0_ar1a I feel this on a deep level 💕
All the time.
Only all the time
I get told this all the time “you don’t look sick” “this is the prime of your life” “you’re built for stuff like this” it’s so frustrating and invalidating. Even when I tell people they think I’m just playing it up or they make a joke of it.
I was told I was the youngest patient this doctor had that was diagnosed with antiphospholipid disorder, and it's pretty rare from what he said. I've been diagnosed since like 18. I've had a lot of doctors not believe me about my diagnosises because of his young I am, I'm only 20 and have a huge list of issues
All the time sadly
Constantly. God forbid you’re young and don’t feel like it
Yes. I've been harming since I was 8 same with SA.
Yup, I’m “too young” to be feeling so hopelessly depressed.
I went for months with a messed up gallbladder because my doctor kept saying it was acid reflux, that because I was 14 there was no way I could have something up with my gallbladder or liver. Finally one night I was in so much pain I almost passed out in the shower and I was awake in the middle of the night crying. My mom finally took me to the ER and they said I had the biggest gall stones they had seen in that hospital and my eyes were yellow because my gallbladder had scared to my liver because it was too big to give my liver any room. I had to have two stents put in over a long period of time before they could finally remove the gallbladder because they couldn't take it out while it was attached to my liver and probably because I was only 14. I lost over 100 lb in that period of time.
More times than I can count. I actually had a doctor apologize to me after asking me if maybe it was something "up here"(while pointing to his head) and he also implied that I was medication seeking. I pushed and pushed for the scans on my back and when he saw the images he called me into his office and apologized, stating he never imagined that at my age my back could be that bad.
YES. SO MANY TIMES.
ALL THE TIME… HELLOOOO ITS 2022
All the time. When I was a kid was pain was not believed, because I was to young to really understand pain. Or I was over exaggerating for attention or drugs. It was a struggle to get help for quite a long time.
I was told I was too young to be depressed in elementary school.. such fun times
been told i’m too young to transition, was forced to wait until i was 18 and it destroyed my body
Yes, there has been so many times I was told as a child I was too you to even know what anxiety or depression even was.
This is one of the worst issues affecting mental healthcare. The entire community sets these arbitrary ages at which you have to be before you can be diagnosed with a disorder, when studies have shown that many disorders, even personality disorders, often times have their roots in childhood and begin developing at a young age. Maybe if we targeted the issue sooner rather than later instead of trying to pick up the broken pieces when it’s too late, we might see mental health dramatically increase🤷🏼♀️
I was told when i was 10 i was too young to have depression so i suffered for YEARS after, longer than i had to if the doctor had actually listened
I’ve been told I’m too young for certain medications
usually older people lose sight because glaucoma and cataracts but i’ve had them since I was young, yet never had this comment
I have periodic chest pain but keep it to myself usually.
I'm told that daily. And if I even mention that I'm in pain in any way it's met with "You're too young to understand real pain."
Bursitis in both hips at 21. I had to have multiple x-rays before they would see it as a real issue.
Mostly “You’re too young to have a cane/wheelchair/end of life plans” which really do feel invalidating. I still never know what to say in response.
Yep, and told they don’t want to give me certain meds that might help bc I’m too young. I’ve been going through daily pain for 3 yrs. Idc what they try on me, i beg them for help every time
yes!! every day :(
Yes 🙄 sorry, but the older generation says this to much
Yup! Apparently 35 is too young to have arthritis in my lower back. Nah, I made the mistake of slouching and working too hard for years. Unfortunately, I earned my arthritis.
I'll do one better- "just have faith." If someone tells me that one more time I am going to lose my wits.
Especially when i was younger, being a middle child just meant that I was either seeking attention or a hypochondriac
By people who think it can't even happen to me because they think I have a perfect life I've been made fun of for what I have
All the time
One of the conditions has only ever been had by women that have gone through Menopause.. I was diagnosed with it at 19. So yes.
So much doctors don't listen to you or take you seriously. I've had heart attacks and 3 mild strokes. But also Dysautonomia. I Pass out all the time . I have alot of afib. What scares me is the women in my family die young. The oldest was 53 my mom. My sisters 46 when they died. My younger sister who is 42 has heart and breathing issues. I'm 44 and with my heart failure and arithmetic issues along with other things. I've had uncles and grand fathers with heart issues none lived into there 60s. My sister and I keep saying there has to be some connection that we can slow what ever is going on. I'm so tired of taking so many meds some times I think they are killing me.
So many times
When I was 24 I had a doctor pass around my chart to nurses before a nerve block procedure and coo "Oh she's SO young. Isn't she just SO young??" And she questioned why I was there - while I already had the gown and IV.
so. many. times. no one should ever be told this - it’s so discouraging and makes people feel worse , feel guilty about having it when it’s not in their control
Too many times. Especially since i first got sick at 8 years old
Yes my mom said I'm too young to have much pain and to imagine what older people go through. I replied pain doesn't care about your age. Age has nothing to do with it or kids wouldn't be in pain dying of cancer and other illnesses. My cousin's husband has the same disease that I do. After she talked with my mom about what she watches her husband go through she was much more understanding. She said I didn't realize she was in that much pain. Even if it was years later, to have her support now means the world to me! Sometimes it takes someone that is not us to show people in a way they can understand. Find support where you can bc pain leaves you very lonely. I promise your not alone.
Anxiety doesn’t have a certain face , color or age! 🥲 I know how you feel
all the freaking time And it’s sickening
TW: CSA AND $U!C!D3
I didn't get my depression OR ptsd diagnosis until I was 16 after I tried to unalive myself. I've most likely had it since I was 10 after being a victim of CSA, my mom wouldn't even acknowledge my BACK PAIN, let alone my mental health.
all the time it’s exhausting
I was diagnosed with OCD, ADD, and Depression at 10. So yes, I've heard this many times.
All the damn time. I would have been diagnosed earlier if my doctors or parents would have listened to me at 16 or earlier. I first tried to fully unalive myself was in 6th grade.
yes. constantly i hear, you’re too young to have all these mental problems. they’re all in your head. you shouldn’t have ptsd. i was in war that’s why i have ptsd. you’re only 20 and you’ve been falsely diagnosed with it for 13 years. you’re just a crybaby, get over it.
i am not a crybaby. i am a survivor of familial child sex trafficking. try going through the flashbacks that still happen from events that happened 13+ years ago. then tell me i’m just a crybaby.
anyone who says this kind of stuff is asking for a fight.
Yes. I’ve been told I’m too young to be depressed, have anxiety, and have PTSD. A lot of times I have been told by my family
Actually got the too young to be in pain when moving cross country with family, some family friends came over for some last minute help and one told me I was too young to be in pain. Couple years later me and a sibling are getting diagnosed with Eds and that attitude still upsets me because it was heavily implied that I was just being lazy.
And to make matters worst, was my birthday. Of course this is the most notable followed by the gym teacher who said my asthma was just me making excuses and I was just out of shape.
I've been told that I have a "borderline" condition, despite being over the threshold and it being genetic
Today I went to a pain treatment center. The doctor I saw didn’t say I was “too young” explicitly, but she kept commenting on how young I am throughout the whole appointment.
For over a decade now…
My dad kept telling me I wouldn't have depression if I got a job. And that everyone got depressed and didn't want to live so I wasn't the only one with bad thoughts
When i told my dad I was worried because I was having extreme chest pain (this was before I knew i had scoliosis and a heart condition, i was playing in band which put a strain on my breathing organs) He told me that I was too young to be in this much pain, and obviously I just had bad posture or something. Turns out I had scoliosis and a mitral valve prolapse! thanks for trying to gaslight me dad :)
Same my mom laughed at me when i told her my doctor diagnosed me with Depression she didnt belive me it was the worst feeling ever i felt like i couldn't trust her
Heard it alot after my stroke last year.
🙌 I can identify with that concept. I’m sorry you have to experience this. Conditions don’t discriminate ages, unfortunately. I was diagnosed with Arthritis @ age 20. That seems quite young for Arthritis, to be honest.
Yep! Usually by older people. I don’t think it’s comes from a malicious place but it’s still annoying to hear
No. If I ever am, I’m sending MY PHYSICIAN to a PSYCHIATRIST.
Never.. just been told it's abnormal and terrible.. because I am so young and I just get my migraines so strong 😔
I appreciate her.. and she said she has kids my age and she understands why I brought my mom while still being an adult..
(I have the hardest time with doctors and nurses and bringing my mom)
absolutelyyy and i wish i had an answer for the ppl that say that - bc yeah i don't wanna feel this pain at 21/22 either!!
Yes and I feel like it’s true
Yes, and honestly I agree!! I feel like an old lady some days, instead of the age I think I ought to feel like, and technically am.
Yes and I absolutely hate it.
yes, absolutely. I'm young so I should be able to run, carry heavy stuff, and sleep on the floor, right? wrong. sometimes I feel like being old would be preferable over this.
Ive tried looking into arthritis because of my joints but apparently im too young.
Always. "You're too young to have a bad hip". I fell when I was about 8 or so and permanently injured my hip and it's only getting worse ever since but it seems no one believes me or cares.
I also have several other issues including degenerative disc and have been told I'm too young to have it and just being a hypochondriac.
I cannot tell you how many times I've been told "Your too young to have these problems, your supposed to be enjoying life" and they just laugh while I'm feeling bad and slef conscious
yes!! all the time by my own parents
Yep, and it feels so invalidating. Just because I'm a younger person doesn't mean I'm not allowed to have pain.
That and "are you sure that this isn't just you making yourself sick?" Like no Karen just help me
Yes, soo many times. That's why it took me so long to get diagnosed. My other favorite is: "but you don't look sick"
Yes many times or told to "get over it" or "it can't be that bad "
Many many times
You're a kid, you have nothing to be depressed or anxious about
I'm apparently "too young and too smart to be disabled or chronically ill" 🙄
I was 18 when I was officially diagnosed and had my first surgery to remove endometriosis. After searching for help from doctors since the age of 12, and having suspected it was endo from as young as 14. All I heard for years was, "You're too young." I was very lucky to find a doctor who believed me, helped me, and was ultimately willing to operate on me at that age.
I’m 28 with rheumatoid arthritis and fibro. So yes. Ha.
"You're to young to be depressed, you haven't even really lived" Excuse you?
Yess. Schizophrenia. I believe i had it since i was a baby, father has it. I remember hearing angels speak to me in my grandmas arms and inside my crib. Even have vivid memories of tiny hot air balloons floating in front of me. A lot of people tell me schizophrenia is a scary illness and the way i behave isn’t like someone with it. Yet 4 drs have diagnosed me with it but i refused to have it on my medical record because hospitals tend to mistreat patients with the disorder i hear. So, no thanks. Since i had it for so long i believe I’ve found ways to cope with it.
I was jus diagnosed with Acute cholecystitis, Acute pulmonary embolism with Cor pumonale, septic shock, E.coli, and fatty liver. I also have had a heart attack at around 32. I’m 48. I currently have a diagnosis of fibromyalgia, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, osteoarthritis (in most joints), spinal stenosis, ddd, migraines (since about 4yrs old), and a laundry list of others. I’ve had doctors tell me that I’m too young to have all of these issues and ailments. I’m like tell it to my body please. Who knew pain had an age limit especially when I see my geriatric buddies speed walking pass me in Walmart in the mornings as I cringe 😬 in pain with every step.
As person's whose chronic knee pain messes 'em up royally, yes. I'm still barely established in my 20s and we very time I can't function correctly because of it everyone won't stop saying it. I wish I didn't have to deal with this, especially at my age either! :(
Yes they always say your to young for such high BP and I'm like I have cancer so it's going to be high
Yes!! Every time I go to my gastroenterologist, the waiting room is full of only elderly patients. I’m always the only young adult. Of course someone will always say “What are you here for?” And when I say why, they’re always like “You’re too young to be dealing with that!” And I’m like I know!! I wish I didn’t have to be here! :(
Yes, but more commonly i’ve been too female to have the conditions I have. My “bpd” and “depression” were actually adhd and autism.
yes. i've exhibited OCD since i was four years old as a result of contracting strep (PANDAS). my extended family would purposefully trigger my obsessions because i "was over exaggerating". yeah i don't think a four year old being obsessed and terrified of death is a thing someone, let alone a four year old, can easily get over. 🤦♂️
After a very long two year process of feeling miserable every time I'd eat ANYTHING and not knowing why....I'd endured countless doctors appointments, tests, stool samples...you name it...and now I was passing blood in my stool... they recommended an exploratory colonoscopy. The doctor they referred me to said it was unnecessary and that I was too young to have anything serious that wouldn't have already shown up in other tests. I broke down crying and said I was also too young to feel that miserable with no answers. He once again noted his objections and scheduled the procedure. One week later, in the recovery room he apologized, telling me "I could see that there actually was a serious issue as soon as I started the procedure." He'd removed a polyp the size of my thumb. Later testing revealed the polyp was precancerous and that it not an IF it turns into cancer type of situation, but a WHEN it turns into cancer......
Yep when I had my stroke at 33
i was told i was too young to have BPD , because i’m too young to know what i want , when i want. i thought it was complete BS , turns out 2 years later i got diagnosed with BPD, so i told my doctor “ what did i tell you?” and she stayed quiet, i was right all along living in fear of my own emotions and feelings because i never knew what they were and what caused them, but now i know.
Lately it’s been “you have this condition *but you’re so young* that we won’t pursue half the things that might help.” Who knew that my body was taking age into account when it comes to being affected by my illnesses…?
yes all the time 😭 (I have arthritis)
Multiple occasions. Sympathy is appreciated, but it doesn't solve much.
So many times. It's weird
that they say that, as if I'm
not experiencing said condition. And then they avoid getting you help
and then you have to deal with that stuff when you're 20 juggling college, work and your personal life. Also I've gotten it from doctors as well, Like I'm either assuming you're saying that because of medical racism or the fact i present as a girl. No one listened to me which sucked, Let's hope as an adult i do it right and treat myself better than everyone else did when i was 14.
I've gotten you're fine there's nothing wrong with you from doctors and there's nothing they can do so I hear it every time I go to the ER. No one seems to care that I hurt so Much and it's always Pain Olympics around here and no one listens to me.
Yes all the time cause people think I'm too young to be stressed
Not directly but people have said “ when you’re older you’ll have all these problems…” and I reply “I already have those problems.” Also all the advertisements for my conditions show 60 yr old people they never show someone like me.
I told me Dr almost two decades ago my knees and hips hurt and make a clunky noise. She told me that was normal especially as we get older. I was 30. I'm 48 and my specialists tell me that it's too late and I should have received treatment 20 years ago, now I have no options but surgery.
Absolutely. Every time I say my knees hurt people say Im too young for that just wait til I get their age. I'm always like Ma'am I have rheumatoid arthritis. My knees hurt.
I get that all the time. At this point I just don't care honestly 😥
Told too young and then told I'm old so what do expect? 😡 I expect not to feel like crap all the time. That's what I expect!
What should i do about knee pain
The worst is when they say "Wait til you're my age." Yes thank you for that.
All the time!!! I'm always like "well tell that to my body" I always say I'm a 70 year old in a 20 some year olds body, I've literally fel like death since I was in my teens 😮💨
All the time . Chronic pain/ spoonie here
✋ rheumatoid arthritis age 30 babey
Yeah. Sometimes my body aches and my grandparents think because I'm young I shouldn't hurt. I think it's weird. I'm literally human 😒
I got a lot of my diagnosis' when I was 12. Now I'm 20. And I'm always considered "the life of the party", "the fun teacher", "the happy friend"... Because people don't care to look deeper. When I bring it up with anyone, I always get "Obviously nothing is wrong with you. You're so young."
Well, I work 6 jobs and still don't make enough to support my family, it doesn't matter how young I am. It's hard.
And don't forget "mental health doesn't exist, it's all in your head", "you're just being overdramatic", and "you can't have those problems, you didn't go into the military".
If only people could actually just care slightly about mental health... The world would be a lot better. Check on your "happy friends", guys. They aren't always "happy" or "ok" under the surface.
@WinterSwimmer6232 the happier I am usually the more pain or hurt I have. If I wear makeup and people think I look great it's because I feel worse than usual
I swear that’s the only reason it’s taken so many years to get a proper diagnosis and they still say I’m too young.
@K.C my daughter is going thru this now. They literally told her today that her attitude is causing pain and she needs a therapist not tests.. what????
No but I was told adhd was a "children's disorder".
@Doggy my daughter was told this too, oh you don't really have it, you grew out of it, you just want drugs.. she's 27
Haha yes. Have PTSD. “What could go so wrong at your age?”
Not recently. I'm 28 now. But I used to hear it a lot when I was younger, particularly in high school. Mostly because of depression...people would say that I have it so easy and those were supposed to be the "best years of my life."
Yeah plenty of times with severity of my pain and migraines
Yes 😥 when I was 8 my friend from kindergarten knew I had anxiety problems, and she told my crush and that's how I got told
Yes! For years now! 💢😡
I get it all the time. That and I’m too young to have as many health issues as I do. I have people tell me I’m too young to be doing xyz treatment like they know what’s best for me without ever having lived my reality.
essentially; i’ve never been taken seriously by most family members, and it’s hard opening up/trying to explain why i’m distant. they have this assumption that i’m neurotypical tho i’ve expressed my mental health issues numerous times and it’s frustrating hearing “put a smile on”, “you can smile, yknow”, or the worst from my grandma (who is christian :/ ): “i pray everyday that god will heal you and you won’t have to take that medication forever”. i can’t even tell her when my medication changes bc she’s so judgmental and asks if it’s addictive. she seems to think this is a phase and i’ll get over it. she seems to forget when i tell her this is my brain chemistry, a lot of it is genetic, but it will get better. it’s not a bad thing that i have to live with this - it nothing to be ashamed of.
I actually had my first good experience with a doctor last week in regards to my list of medical issues and my age. “Wow, you’re only 20 and you’re going through *insert him listing off my multiple conditions, surgeries, and symptoms*?! You’re about my daughters age. I can’t imagine what that’s like.” It was so validating and so amazing to feel seen. It’s always great finding a doctor who will advocate for you.
Ever since I tore my knee I was told I was to young to hurt the way I do. I still get it now my shoulder is hurt and I was diagnosed with a pain disorder
All the time. I’m 20.
All of the time! Sick and tired of hearing it. Yes, you’re “more likely” to have certain illnesses after a certain age, but it is NOT impossible to have symptoms and get diagnosed younger.
I've been told I'm too young to feel as tired as I am and that I'm too young to be hurting as much as I "claim" to. Legit had someone tell me I was making it up because "I looked fine "
At the ep and urologist always getting told I’m too young to be there 😂
I know it’s just the older patients being snarky or gossiping but makes me and the staff laugh sometimes
Yep! The admissions desk at the hospital always try to say I'm a visitor after I tell them I have an appt because I shouldn't need to see the cardiologist. 🤦🏻♀️
Yes!! Ehelers danlos causing alot of joint issues and pain for me as well as with ptsd. Had alot of adults tell me I haven't lived long enough to be traumatized by anything, and to wait till life really hits me. Usually giving a detail or two makes them shut up but I shouldn't have to make myself so vulnerable for their "approval"
Absolutely, been told I was too young to have back pain even though I have scoliosis. That same person told me I had nothing to be anxious about.
I had familiar tremor at 29, a full decade before even my Dad having 10% of my presentation.
I have been told I am too young to have chronic pain as a result of my back problems. Every living thing is capable of experiencing pain in some way.
i once was told i was too young to have IBS. I’m 22. i also was told I’m too young to need a root canal
Been told after being diagnosed with Lupus at 17, by the specialist, that I was to young to be in this much pain but he wasn’t gonna help me
Yes. I had cervical cancer at 26. Before they were completely sure about how it came about.
Yes the things I’ve been going through every time I visit the ER or a specialist they tend to tell me that..
I have been told sooo many times that I'm too young to be this tired. Then I became a mom and it was that I'm tired just because I am a mom. Turns out I might have narcolepsy 🤷
I'm not very open about my chronic pain but I've very much so internalized the idea that arthritis is for old people, and that a big part of why it took me so long to start accepting my condition
I’ve had GERD since I was 5-6 and the doctor had helped get an appointment at Riley’s Children Hospital because it was a shocking age to have reflux at the age of 14
I was 19 when I had a Whipple procedure, and the surgeon said I was the youngest patient of hers to have this done. The tumor itself was "unknown and massive for it's type". It got sent to a medical college to be tested.
Literally by almost everyone born before 1950's
Everything single day, I could be rich by now
If I had a dollar for every time I was told I was too young for kidney stones or joint pain I'd be a rich man 😅
More like I've been telling myself and now it's all bursting out and I can't ignore it.
All the time, I get mad about it to. I want to tell to to piss off sometimes.
Omg yes. I had a surgeon tell me I am a walking science experiment and another tell me I am a walking Petrie dish
“Oh wait til you get to my age” as if it gives you a certain privilege
All the freaking time. It's annoying.
Was told by a doctor that I’m to young to be in so much pain but they weren’t gonna help me
Absolutely. I was denied a personality disorder diagnosis by a psychiatrist because "there are alternative ways to treat these things in a teenager" (The 'alternatives' being bullying me about my personality, my appearance, and my trauma reactions. SURPRISE! It made everything worse!)
Yes. "You're too young to be hurting like that." Or, "You're too young to be this sick. Go out and live your life girl!" It made me so upset, especially in the early ages of my diagnosis when they couldn't figure out what was going on.
Yes. I was told that there was no way I have type 2 diabetes by a coworker, also that I fake my migraines
I get told all the time *, but you're so young.* when I talk about my collection of health issues and surgeries. It's hard to hear but I k ow it'll keep happening. Being so chronically ill can be annoying
All the time! I work as a Target Starbucks barista, and I was talking to a guest about the big weather changes, and how it had been affecting my arthritis and ability to come to work. She told me that I'm too young to have arthritis and that I need to do my exercises, haha. And my mother will constantly tell me that I'm too young for nerve damage
Yes, when I was 25 years old, I had my first stroke, and when I went to ER, I overheard a doctor to check my heart and do a EKG. And the other doctor told him, nah.. she is too young to have a stroke. So the doctor came and they didn't do the EKG. And just send me back home that what I had was a Panic Attack. So if I ever feel like I was about to pass out. Just lean down and rise my feet. And when I felt down for 3 time. In a month. And when I went to Another ER with with my swollen face and with my half of my body that I couldn't move. That' that they told me I had my third stroke. 3 weeks in the hospital. To 2 weeks in ICU. To find that out.
Yes until I kept having repeated blood infections
Every doctor's appointment
All the time! Or if I'm sore and it's showing I hear "oh you're so young yet, you can't be in that much pain" or suck it up buttercup.
When I was 13 years old they told my family I couldn't have schizophrenia and it was just my imaginary friends. When I was 14 I was having severe stomach problems and they kept saying it was acid reflux cuz I was too young to have any severe problems. A few months/almost a year later I went to the hospital with a gallbladder attack and they said it was the biggest stones they'd seen in that hospital. Had to have two stints put in to get everything out so my gallbladder could separate from where it had started mildly scarring to my liver so they could finally remove it.
They all thought i was joking bc i watched a lot of scary movies with possessed kids . I was being tormented by night terrors every night and seeing and hearing things during the day . Its not like full on demons trying to kill me . Just things moving towards me just out of sight . Steps and whispers that i dont actually hear they just play in my head its hard to describe .
I’m going through the same thing! It’s been a year and a half since I applied and I am draining my mother who needs to retire but can’t. Good luck. Nobody deserves to get that sick and then be told they are not sick.
Currently fighting for disability been over 3 years since I filed and was immediately denied. I have a lawyer now and anxiously awaiting my appeal. Lawyer thinks they saw my age (41 now 37 at time of filling) originally had a court date in May 2020 but was postponed due to COVID-19 still waiting. The financial burden I am putting on my family is making me feel like a failure as a wife, partner and mother.
What gets me is being told I can't use a Ride on basket cart at the grocery store. That's only happened once but I felt like I was so unimportant at the time.
I have been told I am too young to have ptsd. The people who have told me this most the time have never met me before nor do they know my story
Especially when your condition is not physically obvious
YES. i went through this with my high blood pressure
I've definitely been asked how I have PTSD if I wasn't in the military. Seems like everyone would respect my diagnosis, then.
@Simmerr I have ptsd it was diagnosed when I was 11 and I’ve been told this many times as well
I have been told I am too young to have all of the conditions that I do, and that I am a “grandma.”
@Darkwillow one of my exes made fun of me for being tired all the time and not wanting to stay out late. He said he was dating an old person.
Not specifically that I'm too young, but I get told my conditions aren't even real a lot 💀
“you’re too young to have social anxiety” “you’re too young to have gall stones” “you’re too young to be this sad” shut up already 🙄
I get triggered with get over it
Or you're weak
Omg yes. I have back pain and have since I was 19 and I've always heard "you're too young, wait til you get to my age". I have an L1 compression fracture caused by a car accident when I was 19. I don't divulge that information bc if you're telling me I'm too young instead of asking why I'm in pain, then i don't feel like you need to know. 🤷🏼♀️
yeah with depression
Yes and I tell them that I was too young to have cancer too but that didn't stop it.
yes, i have bursitis from two separate injuries when i was younger
I'm turning 46 this week... But I'm just now getting taken seriously for things I've had my whole life.
Yeah no one believes a teenager about back pain because "that doesnt happen until your 30s" 🙄
Yes i have
Yep my parents tell me that. And that I can’t be depressed cause I have nothing to be depressed about. Or my condition is my fault cause I don’t take care of myself.
@Amarand26 I'm sorry you get invalidated like that 😥
For sure and you need a knee replacement but you're too young
I am 20 with psoriatic arthritis, lupus and ankylosing spondylitis. I have a handicap tag and I can not tell you the amount of comments and dirty looks I’ve received.
Like when people tell you youre just a teen and your ilness will leave
I am 13 years old and have depression and i was told by my dad my brother and his friend that im to young
Absolutely! Sometimes people just don't understand trauma can effect kids too.
yes yes yes YES!!! i’m 30 and for some reason get balked at for having arthritis. like… sorry about my swollen joints… i guess?!!!!
people said I'd grow out of my major depression. they also said there's no way I could have ptsd as a kid. I was sexually assaulted by my half brother in a closet at 2 years old. a toddler with severe anxiety and ptsd is real.
Yes I recently had a stroke at 35 and everyone is like you're too young. I agree, but the stroke didn'tstop to ask my age first
All the time in high school my own mom didn't believe it and said I was just a teenager
One of my previous doctors refused to refer a neurologist because I'm "not an 80-year-old man with Alzheimer's" 🥲
Yes and weirdly it was my GERD I was told at 11yo that I was too young to have heartburn 🙄.
I would say... To lesson this... In my experience- turn off the TV put your phone down (I put my worship music on). Get away from entertainment. Stay off of Facebook pray for self control. No... You won't see a permanent change immediately. I know our brains are always flying... Every second is a minute every minutes an hour and hours are days... But slow it down and try to remember to unplug. In my experience I pray, read my Bible, fast and listen to worship music and ....I've been so blessed even my work has shown it. When I'm at work I'm not confused at stuff I should know how to do. I'm not making million mistakes. It's awesome. Sometimes I don't know if I'm still affected by the symptoms of someone who has ADHD anymore.
I've had people judge me for using the ride on carts in the supermarket after a heart surgery one time and it made me feel so belittled it wasn't even funny I was a 17 year old girl who just had a box put into her chest to keep her alive for the rest of her life so lets please Hinder this girl who's obviously in pain and anguish who needs help from her mother to get around on the scooter but thankfully when you healed up enough you could finally walk and your arm was out of the slim and you could finally sleep without fearing an alarms gonna go off in your cheat while you sleep in your moms bedroom after a shock from a defibrillator inside of you .
I get told all the time I’m too young to have hot flashes. It’s a symptom of my PCOS. It doesn’t care what age I am.
Yep it’s one of the dumber things I’ve heard too.
An elderly lady had asked me to open a medicine box for her because I'm young and have working hands still. That probably hit me the hardest. I was going throught a bad flare up. I couldnt hold a cup my hands were too painful and weak. I didnt want to have to explain and give her my whole diagnoses spill so I just sucked it up and opened it. It hurt so much.
ALL THE TIME. One time I was hurting so bad I seriously felt like punching the Costco Lady who mocked me for a few minutes. I Cries later at home instead.😥
I was diagnosed with depression and an eating disorder at 12. My parents would always say, "you're too young", or, "you have a roof over your head and food on your plate you shouldn't be depressed", and other things about my ed such as, "why don't you just eat?'. Although it was hard to hear I found comfort in my friends and other family members such as my aunt and that definitely helped me through the times where I was at my worst :))
When I was in 3rd grade my Dr told my mom I was to young to have migraines
i just got a cane a few weeks ago and already i've had so many people looking at me weird for walking around with it. it's really annoying
Yes! My headaches and migraine, and my foot issues! And too young to be depressed or stressed. It's infuriating.
Yes. I didnt get diagnosed on paper for my bipolar 2 disorder until I was 26. I was noticed by my therapist when I was 13 but he said he didnt want to put it on paper because I was so young. That decision led to so many failed med attempts. They were treating my symptoms not my disorder and it caused me to be manic all the time. And I got into a lot of trouble and really struggled to connect with anyone. You are not too young they are just not giving their 100% keep pushing
Yes I was 10 years old telling my parents that my back hurt all the time and I was 14 when my mom finally seen my back at 14 she realized that my back was messed up I have scoliosis my spine is in the shape of an S... and my grandma would tell me all the time I was too young to know what pain was which made me mad all the time
Yessss it's so annoying. But just being told your too young is horrible
Yes. A lot. Invisible illnesses are insane like that.
Constantly. It's draining and honestly pretty insulting. There's no age limit to health conditions and pain. I HATE the "you're too young to be in that much pain" WELL NO SHIT KAREN BUT HERE I AM IN THIS MUCH PAIN
Always, had my first heart attack at 25😥
With my anxiety and depression. It started in middle school.
Yes. I’ve been told I’m too young to be anxious and depressed. I’m in my 20’s.
Yup. I expressed to my mother at around probably 10-12 that I'm afraid I might have depression or ADHD or something similar, she straight out said "your to young for that stuff, wait till your an adult like me and we will see if you can handle it." Now she says freely "my child has depression and anxiety" after telling me countless times not to say you have something without a diagnosis (still haven't been diagnosed)
This is what led me to be in the dark of my chronic pains for 10 years :(
My old best friend. I built up the courage to tell him I'm depressed. He ignored me for a week then told me "there's no way. Your too young for that.", also to this day he makes fun of me for being lgbtq+....
Yes!!!! Doctors always tell me I'm to young to have all the problems that I have yet no one knows how to help fix them😔
My mom had said it but I have to say that her and my husband are now the only 2 that understand as much as they can without experiencing it. They have become over the 17 years of having Fibro and 7 of RA the most understanding supported people I could ever wish for. I wish all the warriors have people in their life such as this. Sending gentle hugs. 🤗
Haha, yes! Medically for years. Bad joints,bad kidneys,guts such a mess I had to have some cut out. On the flip side Mental health wise I was misdiagnosised for years while I tried to convey it was more that what was on paper until I had a therapist say" I'd say you had schizoaffective or schizophrenia, but you are a bit old to for that to set in" I have been having symptoms since I was a teen! No one had taken it seriously in the days when it made the most sense because I could function through it... finally at 38 diagnosed sa.
got diagnosed for depression and insomnia in like 5th grade and never got helped for it cause people were like "your to young to feel depression when your life is fine, you have no idea how hard it is for adults" like yeah I had no idea good thing I didn't, still doesn't mean it was all sunshine and rainbows tho :/
Yup. My whole life people thought that I was just going through hormonal changes and that I would get over my "issues"
lmao too often
Almost daily. Any time I'm at work and make a comment about pain in front of a customer they make some retort about me being too young to complain. I always want to tell them off like...
1. I'm older than I look. I have good appearance genes, but that's it.
2. You're never too young for your body to betray you in some way. Your body isn't built for forever, and some of us were rougher on ours in our youth.
I'm told consistently I either don't have a disorder and I'm making it up for attention, that I'm the narcissist, or that my symptoms are something I can control and I'm just making excuses
Hi everyone I’m a fellow Crohn’s Warrior I guess you would call it. I’m having a really hard time with my Crohn’s and other chronic pain issues I have been dealing with for 15 years. I’m a 39 year old male and just looking for other people to talk to on here and I’m new on here so don’t really know how it works too well lol.. But I would love to chat with some people who are going through the same problems I’m having. Thanks and prayers to all of you 🙏
All the time. Between my ganglion cysts in my hands and arthritis in my back, I relate to a lot of arthritis sufferers but I am always immediately shot down with "You think it's bad now? Wait till youre older it's a whole different level"
Not an encouraging thing for a 16-24yr old to hear...
My mom never really accepted I was depressed. She doesn’t want to believe it so she ignores it and it’s hard to deal with. I live with her still and I just have to pretend I don’t have it :(
When I get to the ER and they dismissively say I'm too young to have the history I have. There have even been docs that imply I'm making up a cardiac history so I can get morphine because they don't have my medical records from out of state yet, and I must be a drug seeker. Fast forward to the following day when I'm in the cath lab and they are placing another stent (7 now) while my heart is in a chronic arrhythmia that no medication or two ablations have been able to control. Then the doc puts his hand on my shoulder and very kindly says, "Sweetheart, you are too young to have all this. I'm going to help as much as I can."
Got told I'm too old to be trans cuz I'm 29
yes i've been struggling with pain and mental illness since sixth grade but nobody took me seriously until i got ulcers in eighth grade and the only explanation they had was that they were caused by anxiety. i had three doctors telling my mother that i should go to a therapist or something because a kid doesn't get ulcers from anxiety from nothing happening. it took until like a year and a half ago for my sister to make me an appointment with a psychologist and that's only the mental health issues. my pcp shut me down so many times when i came in about my pain and symptoms and he just told me to exercise and stretch (for reference i do in fact exercise and stretch and surpriiise they haven't cured me) and when we finally got through and got a referral to a rheumatologist she told me people usually grow out of those issues and i just wasn't active enough. i've been to so many doctors and i've basically just lost faith in the system because i've had so little help with anything that they can't physically see
✋ I'm 33.
I was told this by someone with the same condition. She was my orthodontist and it felt like such a slap in the face honestly to have a medical professional tell me I'm too young.
Yes, I need a knee replacement! I have severe arthritis in both my knees and been told repeatedly 😥 I'm too young for the surgery. Grrr!
All the time and have been told your too young for all this for at least the last 15 years. I have alternately been told I was too "old" to develop T1D
Literally have my parents say “you just want to find something wrong with you.”
All because I been trying to find doctors to figure out why I feel so bad all the time (prescynope, migranes, leg weakness, chronic UTIs, etc.) and I’ve found lots of answers and have been feeling better but my parents refuse to listen to the doctors who say something is wrong/abnormal and causing these issues 😥
All the time by cardiologists and doctors and it’s very frustrating. It’s like, anything can happen to anyone at any age.
Yes many times
No haven’t heard that
Oh yeah. Especially since having a total knee replacement at 41.
I was with people today discussing being young with energy... An I'm like can't relate.. I'm here hoping I can get myself to feel much better in my 30s than I do in my 20s
I was 15 when I first attempted so one of the typical responses I dealt with was "you're too you to be s*icidal" and "how do you even know what that is". My advice to younger people dealing with depression is don't let others tell you that you're 'fine' when you know you're not. You know yourself better than anyone in the world.
Yup 🙄 all the time.
The "too young" thing is a great part of why I didn't get a proper diagnosis for my chronic pain for years
Nothing looked wrong in my bloodwork or x-rays or mris so I must just have "growing pains" or exaggerating about how bad and constant my pain was
All the time. "You can't have joint problems, you aren't even 30 yet!", "just growing pains, nothing serious.", "stop being melodramatic, it can't hurt that bad."
I was diagnosed with anxiety at 12, depression shortly there after. I'm 18 now and I'm STILL told that I'm too young to have these things, that I don't know what the real world is like because apparently you have to experience the "real world" to have mental illness. It makes no sense that someone would think that way, so I try to just convince myself they don't know what they're talking about. But there's always gonna be that voice in my head that tells me they're right even tho they're not. But no matter what, they don't know me or what I've been through so they can't possibly know if I'm "too young" to be mentally ill.
Yes especially when I mention my depression. I get blown off since I always seem happy and at times energetic. But they don't understand that I literally am having to pep myself up or put on a mask to show that I am not that tired or just done with everything.
Jesus, yes. I was diagnosed with JRA at 13 and I’ve been hearing that my entire life. I’m 48 now and I still hear it about that and my other autoimmune disorders. Frustrating as hell.
I mustered up the courage to tell my (at the time) therapist that I have depressed thoughts and have hurt myself… She said that it was just “teenage hormones”… 🥲
the surgeon that performed my surgery for endometriosis told me to my face "you're too young for endo" and after doing the surgery and discovering the scar tissue, he said "well you have it, but just barely so idk why you've been complaining so much"
Not quite that I'm too young to experience a condition, just that people don't believe the thing that caused my PTSD was "that serious" because some other people have been through the same thing without getting PTSD (even though I literally have 3 or 4 other people just within people that I know personally who have gone through the same experience and now suffer PTSD from it(
i always get told that i’m “too old” for anxiety. that i “shouldn’t be nervous, i’m in my early twenties.” it’s so annoying, it’s not like i choose to have panic attacks and get nervous. i try so hard just to get told this.
A little old to be acting like a child or why don't you be a better employee. Princess Personality is what I have that's when I act like a grown version of my little one with crying spells. I get mood swings and happy moments. I fit in with my younger peers more.
I've been told I'm too young to be in pain or to have all the issues I do. 😥 My only diagnosed conditions are GI related and there I've only been blamed for them because "you don't eat right" even though I was a child when I developed them soo
Yes I've been told I'm too young to have Arthritis and Sleep Apnea. Even by my doctor. Yet I am diagnosed with both, a couple years ago and I am 21 now.
Yes just yesterday but I didn't think 54 was that young lol. 36 was very young when I got diagnosed osteoporosis bad as a very elderly person
All the time. I've spend most my adult life trying to convince people I had back pain. I've had knee and leg pain since I was 11. I'm 36 so of course I can't possibly be in this bad of condition. I had to have surgery and go into hospital and start taking 15 pills a day for my own family to believe me.
my mother thought that way, until i had a break down in front of her and pretty much begged for help. she takes it seriously now.
"You're too young to be walking with a cane/walker." "You're too young to be taking opioids." "You're too young to have severe back and nerve pain." "You're too young to need surgery."
Bonus: "Even after you've lost weight I still won't touch you (surgery) because of your age." ~all three sugeons I've talked to. I can accept needing to lose weight before being able to have surgery. But age? Seriously?
By my insurance, back in 2011 I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and I couldn't get medicine because medicade said I was too young to have it because I wasn't 40. Even now my current doctor had to put in neurological shaking to get me the medication I need because my work insurance says the same thing.
Yes, i had a hard time getting diagnosed and even have the same condition in my family.
I'm always told this, they always think that I'm just "being dramatic" 🙄
I have had Rehumatoid arthritis since I was 15 I always got the comment of "isn't that an old people's condition"
I think having arthritis in my hips at 23 is a bit young
Well when you have a leukemia that really only affects nursing home aged folks and you're barely an adult I wouldn't blame anybody for denying
I had my first kidney stone at 11, then another at 17, and 2 more at 18. Luckily haven't had any since, but I was consistently getting told I was too young, and with my second and third times having kidney stones, had doctors attempt to ignore me and nearly misdiagnose my issues due to my age
I have family like this
Ever since I got sick at about 14 I always get "You're too young to be this sick" and it's like well I am this sick 😫 and I hate it
Yes I have. I had this issue when I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and PTSD. The PTSD was hard for anyone to believe in my family because I was 15 when they diagnosed me. Some people don't understand that not everyone can handle things the same and it's not anyone's fault for being affected by any thing. It's only human to be impacted by events. It's also just human to have different things going on too. Nobody's mind or body is built perfect and that's okay. It's what differs us all.
I've been told I'm too old to have developed an organic tic disorder so it must be functional...
Sometimes its the opposite too. Like, "you're too old for ADHD"
I've also heard " Wait until you're my age then see how you feel!" Like I'm sorry I didn't know it was a competition?
Many of times, I've been faced with "Oh well I never had that happen when I was younger, maybe you're just overthinking" or "you're too young for that" and to them I say "No one is too young for anything, have you seen the world we live in, open your eyes"
I’m too young to walk with a cane or forearm crutches since I have joint pain. Idk why people don’t realize health issues can pop up at any age
I've been told I'm too young to be in constant pain. like yes I know this, you think I haven't noticed? but never got help for it cuz 'Mericaaaaa
Yeah. Diagnosed with COPD like a week after my 38th birthday. I tell absolutely nobody about my diagnosis. If I need to use an inhaler around people, I don’t make any comment. If anyone asks, I just say “allergies are flaring up my asthma”… Doctors are continuously making comments about me being too young to have COPD. And I don’t want family to know, because I feel like I would just be judged and blamed for it. I know that some of my conditions are from self-sabotage… but it doesn’t take away from me being a human being with thoughts and feelings who has to suffer through it all.
All the time. People have constantly berated me for having arthritis. It's always been considered an "old people's disease". But yet I'm only 21 and already dealing with severe inflammatory arthritis.
Not too young but "too pretty." What the heck do looks have to do with anxiety? Sigh
My parents are a good stable source for me but right now I am getting the "you’re too young" statement from a doctor. He knows its in my best interest to have a total knee replacement since a meniscus removal didn't help but because I'm only in my early forties and replacements only last ten years or so he isn't suggesting it. I have done twelve weeks of pt, my insurance won't cover gel injections so where do I go from here?
Extreme Macular degeneration in one eye, unknown cause. That's for old people- literally anyone who knows what it is. Also in reverse I am to old to be happy flappy hands in public because i should have outgrown my mild autism.
I've never been told this, but I've been diagnosed with Early-Onset Bipolar Disorder. All I can say is that I'm here for anyone if they need someone.
It's a disconnect. They can't see it they can't feel it and they don't understand why you do. I totally relate. Muscles and minds have memory and they're hard to retrain. Luckily we can build new memories.
I was always "too young" to have depression, then my family acts surprised when I end up in the hospital.
Always. Or with depression: "You're life isn't that hard, what do you have to be 'sad' about." Depression is not sadness for one. And for two, you don't know as much as you think you do.
I've seen people say that if your over a certain age, you're "too old" to have adhd, as if only 5 year olds can have it??????
All the time. People look at me like they dont believe me. 😥
I, 22, hate when I’m at work and say that my back hurts only for my managers to say “just wait till you’re old” I already know it’s going to be worse when I’m older.
yeah. it's been a while since then, but i've had a family member really close to me tell me to my face that i'm too young to be depressed, that there couldn't possibly be anything wrong enough to make me feel depressed. it's so wrong to say that to anyone suffering depression—regardless of the age. i'm reminded of that all the time, and it still hurts thinking about it to this day, years later.
My mother was indifferent about my low potassium, made me wait thru Thanksgiving dinner before she literally dropped me off at the ER door and drove off. I was in ICU 2hrs later and had a stroke the next day...I was 26. Some people.
Most recently i tried being friends with someone older than my parents at first they seemed nice but then they started bragging about how they ate 25 yrs older than me and dont have half the things i have like joint pain or chronic pain. And such. I guess it was making them feel better but made me feel worse in the end i stopped talking to them.
Yes! I was told that yesterday! Age has nothing to do with it.
Yup. My anxiety, depression, and PTSD. It's usually accompanied by comments like "but you've never been through anything bad" or "you're too young to have anxiety, you don't even know stress yet." As if they know what I've been through
By my dad, all the fucking time. Like i get it, im 24, i have everything a 80 year old person would have, I get it. Its shocking. But when i kept telling him i was sick, he never believed me. Now it "youre so young to have all these problems" like yeah, okay, i know. Maybe if you took me to the hospital when i begged you as a child and not thinking im "trying to skip school" i would have these problems would I dad? No. 😐
Only by every older family member in my family
Billy Bob 99 my mother died of this condition and never knew what she had. It's one of the reasons I came in with a little more knowledge that this is a thing and it can actually be hereditary although it's usually trauma-induced. Parents that are healthy friends that are healthy family that is healthy they can't begin to understand how sick you are I didn't know my mom was as sick as she was 3 weeks before she died and having ignored her condition it turned into how much worse heart disease which led to death of course but I guess we can all be guilty of not understanding what's going on on the inside of someone when they look fine on the outside, would be nice to bring some awareness to the world though.
I regularly get this and blank stares in public when I explain that I’m as disabled as their ailing grandma. Like they can’t believe it.
Yes but then blood work proved I have the conditions
Definitely, people don't understand chronic pain in young people.
I was told that I had the health history of an 80 year old.
Yes or that people only get PTSD from being in war.
all the time. been struggling since i was 14.. im 19 now. still get told in too young and its all in my head
Whew the number of people who tell me I’m “too young” to have poor memory or chronic fatigue
I’m not, those are symptoms of my neurodivergence and mental illness, but thank you for being weird about it. 🙄
Yea, for sure.
I was 13 when my POI began to show, given that people in their 20's are usually the first to get it, the thought was understandable. Though when they completely blocked out any possibilities other than me being a normal teenager, it got very frustrating.
Yes, multiple times they said that i was "too young" to be feeling these kinds of things and that I was "lying about it"
Yep! I have a sharp ache in my left thumb that pops up every so often. It's sensitive to cold and I can't hold cold drinks with me left hand cause of it. It hurts just to tap on my thumb lightly and at times I feel pressure inside of my thumb that's only relieved by popping it. I haven't injured it that I know of but it's been going on since 2014. I finally told my primary doctor about it and she said "well you're too young for rheumatoid arthritis." I didn't even mention arthritis to her so I was confused. I am 32.
Totally. I have always had shaky hands that made writing neatly hard and some ppl always say something. Yes, bc I can totally help having epilepsy and CP. 🙄
I had shingles at 19 and some people don't believe me because I was "too young" to have it
All the time, I'm too young to have joint pain, I'm too young to have so many mental health issues, I'm too young to have breathing issues, I'm too young to have tinnitus. It's goes on and on and on.
i remember trying to describe my un-ending exhaustion to my tennis coach. he told me i was "too young to be tired." i hadn't yet been diagnosed with depression. i'm still tried.
Yup. I started having anxiety and depressive symptoms at 6. My parents always told me to just stop and always had called me shy. My school found out I had been undiagnosed and tried to get me into a mental institution after an unspeakable event I did. But, I was never diagnosed until literally this year. My doctor said "took you long enough" and I got diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder
When I was a little kid I was always told I was too young for depression and that I don't even know what being sad is
@finncuiss twins 🤪🤪
I don't yet know if I actually have it, but when I told my doctor I suspected I have arthritis, she said "no way, you're too young." Now my physical therapist wants me tested for RA, but I can't get an appointment until mid July. I really wish my doctor had just listened to me.
I was once told "Your too young to have shingles" I was 23. It was stress related.
Yes, I've had chronic back pain since I was a child and finally got the diagnosis of a bulging disc in my lower back, that I was told looks to be 10+ years old since the original tear 😥
I am told consistently that I am to young for the tendon damage in my knees, and the arthritis in my knees. Both were caused from. Childhood injuries from being active.
yeah. i wasn’t supposed to be diagnosed with bpd in 8th grade apparently lol cuz it’s too young to be diagnosed with any personality disorder. i think it’s bullshit cuz i’m 18 and my bpd has only gotten worse.
😥😥😥... It's hard enough to be normal with all the stuff I've dealt with... Been through a lot and I'm just exhausted from it all... I'm tired of fighting my way to become someone I'll need be...
Literally by a physical therapist just the other day. I have arthritis in both knees among other problems and he said you're so young to have arthritis. I'm like tell that to my knees my guy. My parents often joke that I'm older than both of them, my mom always says I'm too young to have all these issues.
It's so bad when your own dad denies everything about you and is always on your computer. It's really bad when you can't control anything and it's even worse when nobody understands you and you have no input.
@Irelan absolutely feel that. My dad believes me because he also has mental health issues and he's seen the x rays showing why I hurt constantly. My mom on the other thing doesn't believe me, constantly tells me I shouldn't be taking antipsychotics and mood stabilizers for my bipolar and doesn't understand why I'm always "acting " like I'm in so much pain. Shes a nurse.
@freyaslady thats no fun. Especially when they have that degree of medicine. My mom and my sister are understanding, but when you have nobody who is your age, it's irritating. I hope you find a balance of some sort with your mother.
Yes and they look at me and say you're to young to have gone through that much stuff already
So many people tell me that I'm too young to be a T1D...it bothers me because when I was diagnosed with it, my doctor said she was surprised I wasn't in a coma...
@Wild_Goddess my mother and her brother were diagnosed at 16, but it isn't uncommon to be diagnosed as young as 7-8 :(
Yes many times because my condition witch is schizophrenia start when your older but pet seem to not know that it can happen any point in your life
I have my entire life..
I was diagnosed at 5 with Joint Pain. Its grown and traveled since. From my ankles to my knees, hands, hips.. Everywhere.
When I tried cheerleading once, the coach purposely made me do cheers that caused me to be pain until I almost collapsed during a game and my dad saw..
The coach tried to tell him I was faking because I didn't like this cheer. My dad lost his mind at her. Telling her I've had joint issues since I was little. She kept insisting I was too young, to my own father..
I'm 19 and have been diagnosed with a mother load of disorders and I have been told I am faking or using it to get attention
Yes I was diagnosed with PTSD at 11-12
Constantly! Even though my primary condition, Mixed Connective Tissue Disease LITERALLY mostly affects people in their 20s, which I am!
Oh em geeeeeeeeeeee yassssss!!!! All the time, well not so much now that I'm older but I was diagnosed with RA when I was 15 and because u can't see my disease so many ppl think I'm faking or acting or exaggerating... And so many ppl told me I was too young to be having joint issues and to suck it up, it's so embarrassing and I've had to jus deal with it for years.. I try to hide my stiffness as much as possible but here recently I had a woman ask me why I was walking the way I was and I had to explain I have RA and when it rains I get stiff and hurt really bad so I tend to walk different
At 31 years old I had a heart attack. I hear about my age and condition numerous times a month.
@epiDEMIc i'm so sorry that happened and that people give you a hard time about it. my uncle had one even younger and didn't make it. i hope you're recovering well <3
i had the opposite issue, i was told i was 'too old' when seeking an ADHD diagnosis (I was 14 at the time) and struggled immensely in school because I didn't have the treatment I needed. I finally got my diagnosis at age 17, after the damage had been done
Yup. I'm 39 and been suffering with arthritis and fibromyalgia for almost a decade. Whenever people tell me I'm too young to have my conditions or symptoms I just say, "apparently not."
Yes, PTSD and Depression. Because apparently you can't have trauma without going to war or having adult issues. And you can't be depressed when you haven't experienced life away from your parents safety net of responsibility over you. Everyone assumes that a child's home life is always good.
@LyraDaenestra i feel you! i was ten years old, be-boppin around and doing my thing, and suddenly my brain went "i will not be producing serotonin or dopamine anymore. i am done. only sad chemicals now"
I've heard stuff like that but I'm learning that more and more people my age and younger are being diagnosed with similar conditions. I'm glad I was diagnosed young, it most likely saved my life and I've come to know my doctors and they know me on a personal level so it doesn't feel so awkward for me.
All too often.
More times than I can count
I'm getting the, "you're too young!" Comment from doctor about a knee replacement. I have had my meniscus removed, insurance won't approve gel injections and I have done almost 3 months of pt. And the pain is there.
Ha! Complained about stomach problems since high school. Come find out at 23 not only do I need to watch for colon cancer I have damage in my esophagus that could turn cancerous. All of which could have been addressed when I was in highschool and prevented from getting this bad. I still have doctors who want to label me anorexic and ignore my stomach issues.
Yes, even by my doctor's. I've had bladder issues my whole life and it took over 25 years to be referred to a specialist and diagnosed with internal cystitis
I can relate ❤️
Hello..new here but I get told this often. I've been so sick and they think I'm making it up. I wish I was because I would put this pain on anyone.
Yes this happens a lot
Yeah if it's physical or mental and it's just pushed away because "you are not this because you never experienced this and that" and it's really just telling people that your pain is not valid and everything is "fake"
I moved early last year and was struggling to help my family pack as I had to quit physical therapy while we moved so I was in a decent amount of pain and was upset I couldn't help more. We had some people come over to help including someone who taught me in church and told me I was too young to be in pain and scolded me. Worst part was it was my birthday and she wouldn't listen that it was a diagnosed condition and basically kept the belief I was just lying to get out of work
They told me I was too young to have arthritis as bad as I do. Now I have been diagnosed with neoropathy without having diabetes and can't figure out why
Yes! When I was diagnosed with many health issues in my early twenties, people always said that to me
Way too often. Gets old fast.
Doctors and family alike. Migraines since I was 10 and auto immune since I was 20.
Before my EDS dx I was told all the time that I'm too young to be experiencing this much joint pain and this many pulled muscles. And too young to have memory problems.. thanks ADHD and brain fog.
I HATE when people tell me that I'm not old enough to be in this much pain, especially when my mother says it. Like, I'm sorry my body decided to hate me, I don't know what to tell you 🤷♂️
I've been told I'm too young to be experiencing the symptoms of my condition (namely memory issues and brain fog), but never the specific diagnosis
Yes when I was a young teen I started having stomach issues and acid reflux. My father would tell me I was too too young.
This has been my struggle for the past 7 years. Its really irritating and frustrating. Because of being dismissed by my age it has caused me second guess myself. Thinking it's all in my head. Thank goodness I finally got through to a Dr that took me seriously, but I still get the your too young to be having these issues.
Not my condition but my symptoms yes.
Yes. I've been denied disability for 2+ years and multiple times through NYS for disability and they always use my age against me. It's disgusting.
ive always been told that i was too young to be depressed or sad or stressed about ANYTHING. i had no one to talk to growing up because i was always blown off as if i was lying or id get over it eventually. now everyone i tried to talk to about my mental health is upset that im talking to a therapist instead of them 😒
So often! I've had the same symptoms for YEARS, but it was always brushed off, even been told I was exaggerating and imagining it despite clear evidence on various mri's, blood tests, etc. Suddenly I'm in my twenties, and it's "oh well, it's this and this..." and I find out it might have stopped getting worse if I started treatment years ago??
I'm fully convinced so many diseases and disorders only start a bit later in life because children and teens aren't taken seriously.
Yesss all the time
No, but I was told that I was "too smart" to have ADHD despite having every other symptom. That's called Disney Channel fueled determination bro. And my common sense is lacking, idk why people keep saying I'm smart. I'm just good at faking confidence and people believe me when I talk.
Literally get told all the time that im too young for a lot of things and it used to be worse when I was 15 living with bipolar 2 PTSD and panic disorder
I get it a lot and i even say it myself (bc intrusive thoughts)
like it doesn't make the illness go away or lessen how I feel just bc I'm "too young to be having these issues"
many people, especially on reddit, seem to think that DID and OSDD only develop after 30 years old-- but at the same time they acknowledge it has to form before 9 years old. They act as if anyone 9-30 cant have did/osdd or display symptoms. Like suddenly, on your 30th birthday, you develop did overnight. Did is with you your entire life, it doesnt go away whether you acknowledge it and have it diagnosed or not. They often say "teenagers dont even have a fully developed personality enough to know if theyre 'multiple'" and while it's true teens dont have themselves fully figured out, that doesnt mean you arent experiencing actual dissociation. That doesnt mean that people 20+ have themselves figured out more than teenagers, because honestly, some of the most lost people ive ever seen have been 50+.
Yup alot. Like oh you should be working you look fine and your young.....
Yup. I was told I was too young for my very needed hysterectomy.
Yes, indeed. When I had my first mini stroke(TIA). I was 25. I went to emergency. And the doctor there, told me that I had a panic attack. I remember another doctor suggested to do some tests to rule out a possible stroke. And he replied :"Look at her, she is too young to had an stroke." So I went home. And the next day. I had a stroke. Was 2 weeks in ICU.
The aches and pains I have because of my condition make me feel like I was put in an old women's body sometimes
YES. Like 1/2 of my diagnoses and procedures! I'm like "wow, that was remarkably unhelpful since on top of being useless commentary, you don't know the cause, don't listen to me, and experiment on me like a lab rat."
I kept getting told I was too young to be pregnant 😒 I was a senior in high school at the time. And now I get told I'm too young to have PTSD. I mean my son only died in his sleep 🙄 not traumatizing or anything. Seriously fuck people man 😤
I was told because of my age I'm too young and too old
I've been told this by my father many times.
It's really stressful for especially since I've had most of my conditions at a young age. He would always tell me that I'm either too young or just completely deny the fact that I have certain conditions. It honestly really hurt me
yes! i hate it so much!
I asked for help at 17 as I was feeling unsafe from my Uncle as my parents were out of the country at the time. He told me "go find someone to help you with that" I am now 47 and haven't spoken to him in 8 yrs. It feels great to remove toxic people from your life.
I actually had a pain Dr tell me I was too young to hurt the way I claim I do. He said so without even looking in my file and checking my MRI and x-rays. Needless to say I got a new Dr and things have been going well the last few years
Yes, my father would call me lazy and get a job, my mother would tell me to get out for some sunshine, now I'm in a nursing home.
Especially not their whole life like me
Yep. People my age don't typically have osteoarthritis
Yup! More times than I can count. I was even denied the surgery I need by my insurance company. The surgery is not covered by Medicaid, only by Medicare. So if I was old enough for Medicare, it would be covered.
Yes all the time or it's all in my head it's all fake
Constantly used to get it with my gender dysphoria especially back when it got really bad when I was about 14 (5years ago or so)
Yep I was on meds for my mental health and stuff and when i moved in with my grandmother she took me off all my meds bc I was "to young"
First time I went into my neurologist. The first thing she said to me was “19 years old? No no, you are much closer to 90”. I am told all the time I’m too young to have this issue or that issue, stripping me of the label that has stripped me of everything else about who I am. Age does not mean health- and frankly when people assume that youth equals healthy it makes people like me shrink- or even invisible.
Yes.. especially when I tell someone my joints are hurting. They say "oh just wait until youre 50" but they dont understand im chronically ill.
All the time I feel like a failure to my kids some days.
Someone told me 16 was to young to have period issues...
Yep. Along with "just wait it will get better... It will happen" etc
I haven't but ive seen this sentiment online before and it kind of caused me to internalize it. without realizing it, i was applying my own narrow minded understanding of my condition onto myself - minimizing my own experience because i didnt feel "worthy" of suffering. i just felt like less than dirt. i still have a long way to go, and a lot to learn tho.
Yes on several conditions.
Yes. Every day. All my conditions. I'm always told I'm too young for xyz but you know what the universe doesn't care how young you are. It will fuck you up.
I always get from friends and family members that's all in my head and that if i stop thinking about it then it will go away. So I stay silent and when people ask me how I am I say I'm good
Constantly. Made me think I was making up all my problems myself
I have been told that I am too old for my condition when I have just been struggling with it longer.
Was told my my own mother that I was lucky to have brittle type 1 because "at least it's controllable"
My teacher told me I didn't have tourettes when I was 12, but it in fact starts in childhood
ALL THE TIME. It absolutely SUCKS.
Don't pay attention to others, it wasn't until I had my spinal surgery, before anyone believed I had a problem. But you need to believe in you. Only you know your condition. I always told my son, there are only 2 people you need to please in this world, yourself and God. You do that and your life will be good.
Yes, but it mostly comes from random people rather than my doctors or family/friends
I was diagnosed with arthritis at 3, so yes. I needed to use a walker at one point and this guy (trying to be funny) said that I looked like I belonged in a nursing home.
YES. when i had my back surgery my surgeon didn’t even want to perform on me because i was so young and nothing specific had happened to cause a 13 mm protruding disc!!!!
Yes all of the time. Theirs no age minimum for any of my disorders. People can be so hateful.
All the time! I’m 32 and I hear the phrase too young more times than I can count. I hate it. I have to remind people that because of all of my different conditions that recovering from an illness, injury, or surgery takes me longer. My age has nothing to do with it.
Yes for the last twenty years.. are 36 when I had a massive heart attack and noone believed me.. now 45 with open heart surgery and CHF...
The joys of having PTSD.
Yes 🙌🏻, 100% can relate to this! Just had my mother say something similar to me, when in reality, I’m beginning to understand my trauma, statements like these validating some of them. And still, they have no idea how hurtful their idea of “helpful” is…
I have been told that I was too young to have a stroke, having had my first major stroke when I was 14. I also have lupus and now degenerative disc disease... It's so crazy because I'm ALWAYS in pain and my fiance doesn't know how to deal with it other than pretending that everything is fine...
Yes I have been especially by doctors. I hate hearing I'm too young.
Yes and they took forever in the ER tem saying a 30yo could boy have heart problems. I am.now 41 and have a pacemaker
For real! Or just get over it. You can't let disappointments get you down. You can't just go to the hospital.
My insurance I had at a previous job refused to pay for my medication under the diagnosis fibromyalgia because they said I was too young to have it, so my doctor had to say it was a nerve fibroid disorder to get the gabapentin covered. The insurance I have now wouldn't pay for a neurologist with a nerve concern surrounding my carpal tunnel syndrome so my doctor put in a generalized central demylination to have me further evaluated.
i’m 20 and I was diagnosed with PTSD when i was 17, and was told that i most likely have had it since i was as young as 12. I have been told by many that because I have never experienced war and/ or i’m so young that i must just be being dramatic. Abuse is an extremely real way to develop this kind of condition and I hope anyone in my situation knows their reason for gaining a mental illness is just as valid as any other reason.
So, I have been dealing with abandonment issues that stem from my biological mother and my stepmother and father have finally accepted and realized it. And of course, they didn't accept it until after I moved out a month ago.
@Ducki And my stepmother has finally accepted that I have anxiety as well.
Yes. I have hip problems and people look at me crazy and say you to young to have hip problems
So many times. I've even been called a hypochondriac.
Yes, but in fairness I am too young to have my illness. It's fairly rare, but not totally unheard of, for someone my age to have CML. It can make for some annoying convo starters
When I told my grandmother I was depressed at 8 years old she told me I was too young and didn't know what I was talking about.
Yes many times with a lot of my conditions. It frustrating to be told that and sometimes not believing I actually have it.
Yes I been called a liar and a fake by people that are close to me it hurts
Absolutely. I’m 26 and had a hip replacement. I use a handicap placard. I’ve had many people say rude things or look nasty towards me. It’s sad.
YES having chronic constipation as a teen I never stopped hearing your too young for that just eat more fiber🤦