Ever been told you’re “too young” to have your condition?
Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA)
Acute Pain in Thoracic Spine
Congestive Heart Failure (CHF)
Diabetes Type 2 (T2D)
Chronic Memory Loss
Chronic Generalized pain
Anxiety (Including GAD)
Esophagitis-Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD)
Occlusion of Cerebral Arteries
Gastritis, Duodenitis (Not Infectious)
Feeling of choking
Acute Myocardial Infarction (MI)
Pain in joints of lower leg
Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA)
Chronic Abdominal Distention
Chronic Liver Disease & Cirrhosis
Symptoms Involving Skin & Other Integumentary Tissue
Chronic Pain in Thoracic Spine
Disorders of gallbladder
Low Back Pain
Disorder involving the immune mechanism
Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)
Symptoms Involving Nervous & Musculoskeletal Systems
I was attacked by this physical therapist who was going to asses me on my first appointment before she even touched me talking about how I'm to young to have the issues I have and people have wreaks everyday and get over them. She had to do my reassessment 6 weeks later, I did not report her, but she did indeed apologize to me because it's quite obvious that I need the help.
all the time
Yeah and i don't have any family sickness background 😐
@KathyN same, so my family has no idea what it’s like!! It can be so frustrating
@KathyN I know that feeling too well
Ever since i got diagnosed at the age of 17 and now being 26
Its a real pain when your folks deny your diagnosis and tell you that "you're fine" when obviously you're not.
@billybob99 I sort of feel like parents are more likely to do this than anyone else. I've learned to take mine with a grain of salt. I wish I knew what went through their heads though
@hazyeclipse Right that is so true
@billybob99 I feel the exact same, when I tell them I have a problem they always think I was attention or I'm just trying to guilt trip them
@billybob99 and the doctors! If it’s invisible and you push thru it, you must be fine. Especially true if you have overlapping diagnose(es).
@billybob99 to acknowledge it most likely means they would blame themselves for it. If its genetic or they just didn't get you tested for something will make them blame themselves for not doing more, so it's easier to deny it so they don't have to believe you live with something that effects your life.
@billybob99 yes and especially when they say “but you look so good”
@Myfox I can't count the amount of times I've heard "but you don't look sick"! Really, please tell me how I'm supposed to look. 🤦🏼♀
@Myfox I have Alzheimer’s and people say it to me all the time that I’m to young and they can’t tell that I have.
@billybob99 i feel this.😥 my maternal side always said I was just seeking attention.
@billybob99 Yeah. I love how our family and friends think they get to decide how we feel😂
literally everytime i bring it up. or the good old fashioned “god has his plan” like yeah i know but that doesn’t help?
@NovaSystem img right my mum just says 'awe I'm praying for you' like ok Nathan's but thsts not helping me right now. Especially when she could of helped too :(
Yeah no one believes all my diagnoses
@SIOFan I'm so sorry you have to experience that, it sounds super frustrating!
Yes, at the age I was diagnosed and now often when people don’t know my age because I look so young.
I’ve so many different illnesses, I’m tired of being told to try this diet or that one. Or just exercise more or the best with my severe migraines, just take a Tylenol and you’ll be fine!
@Jelly_Beanz 😥 ❤️
@Jelly_Beanz my husband tells me it's because I am not active enough although he sees the work ups from my doctor's. It is very heartbreaking
@spacejunkie that happened to me until I found the right tests and a few decent drs.It took 5 years but now my husband belives me.
@Jelly_Beanz I know exactly what you mean, I changed my diet to be very healthy and it almost feels like it made me worse, then the emergency doctors tell me to exercise like I’m not crippled down to the boots with anxiety and pain. Easy for someone who isn’t going through it to write it off as bs ya know
The first psychiatrist I ever spoke to at 16/17 told me I was too young to have depression despite having just been released from the hospital because of it :/
@comealittlecloser that's so horrible, I hope you have a better support system now 😥🙏
@comealittlecloser wow. That right there tells me he has No clue,, Nor should he give any opinion What so ever
My surgeon made me wait 4 years for my hip replacement till I had no quality of life. Said I was too young to get it done. I got kicked by a donkey when I was 9 months pregnant! It was an accident!! How are people too young for an accident to happen to them?
I was born deaf so just what life is
I've actually been told I'm too old to have ADHD.
@sirtommy I have been told that I did not have ADHD because I am not male enough.
Oh yes! Like when adults in your life tell you that it can't be worse than aging or you should be able to deal with it because you're too young to be sick. Or that because you're so young, you must be mis-communicating how you feel. Or when they infantilize you because you must just be developing slower.
@Zonnie I feel that. My mom keeps telling me that I'm too young to be in this much pain, but with patellofemoral pain syndrome, that logic doesn't exactly work.
@Zonnie makes you want to smack them and scream "Are you even listening to what I'm saying? Of course you aren't!
Exactly why I was self-dx ADHD+ASD+PTSD at 33... and then confirmed literally 7 days from when I phoned for a dx eval appointment! 😂😮💨
Also: EDS at 33. ← particular physical hell, being forced to go to skating events and such when I've had debilitating SI pain since birth.
@SAMHAIN I am 30 and in the process of trying to get tested for EDS because my dad has it and I'm displaying the same symptoms. It is hard when it is so rare.
I recently have been having some heart issues and I haven't stopped hearing it. I get "too young" and also "too skinny" bc ppl assume that skinny = healthy which pisses me off, it's like frankly I didn't ask for your unprofessional dumbass not-a-doctor opinion
@kodigoldie need to put that on a tee shirt lol
@Miloz definitely 😂
I was early onset (statistically) with all of my disorders/diseases. My endometriosis was the easiest for me to grasp at a young age though. I was 15 when I was having bad pains & knew something was wrong, but my doctor insisted I was lying. It took 2 years to finally see a gynecologist who would listen & do a laparoscopy to confirm the endometriosis.
@Chiara the same with me and pelvic pain. And then the very first gyno to look into the pain finds out I have all these things wrong that could have been diagnosed when I was a teenager.
@Chiara same here! My PCP treated me for many different things until he referred me to a gynecologist. Her first words after reading my chart was, I think you have endometriosis. Sure enough, she was right. I was 20 when diagnosed.
@Chiara I had the same thing - severe crippling endo pain from 12 years old, only got a diagnosis at 19 because people just didn't believe me:(
I yawned at 4 pm (because I’m always tired) and a man told me it was too early to be starting to yawn now. I said “Oh it starts when I wake up” then man was shook lol mind ya own business sir
Also as I was rapidly losing weight I went to the doctor to see what was going on and he said, word for word: Models would pay to be this skinny. You should be happy.
@Moon_Fawn that's such a horrible thing for anyone to say, especially coming from a medical "professional" 😭
@Moon_Fawn unfortunately they give licenses to narcissists all the same 🤦🏽
Only every other day…
All the time! The only doctor I’ve had on my side my entire time is my PCP and one neuro at the hospital who no longer works there. So I have my primary doctor and my parents. Mostly my dad since my moms in a wheelchair. I just hate the “you’re too young” or the lovely you’re a woman so you don’t understand concept that makes no sense to me.
Definitely. It's the reason I switched my primary DR. New patient interview was awful and ended as soon as she said this ⬆️.
For the longest time no one believed that I hurt. It was painful to say the least
Yes! I'm too young to be imunocompromised... like that makes ANY sense when babies are BORN with conditions that cause that sometimes.
Literally all the time. Especially since my most prominent symptom is chronic pain and chronic fatigue. "Oh, youre too young to be in pain" "Wait until you're my age" I'm so freaking sick of it.
I have a chronic genetic condition, stfu
I hate the “oh my gosh, and you’re so young, I’m so sorry for you”.
I know it’s meant well, but to me it’s like salt in the wound.
i ironically have not, but as someone recently diagnosed with adhd as a young adult, i’ve had relatives tell me there’s no way i have it and i would have been diagnosed as a kid, almost like a “i’m too old to have it”
I completely understand this! It took a lot of patience and understanding especially when it comes to PTSD because it's hard to just explain it. There is a HUGE difference between Knowledge and Understanding. Depression is also hard because people that don't have episodes don't understand why you are sad or unmotivated. They want you to just "stop being a downer", "you have nothing to be depressed about" ect. It's rough. You yourself need to accept it and people don't realize that once they accept they have a mental illness to whatever capacity, they can start their road to recovery to whatever degree. Hope this helps. If you'd like to talk more feel free to inbox me. 💜
my mom constantly makes the excuse that i'm "too young" and just "trying to fit in with my friends" or "spending too much time on the internet". it's frustrating
@Syd.The.Space.Sloth This is exactly my situation. It’s always people saying I’m trying to fit in but often it’s the opposite that I can’t fit in because of how I am. So frustrating and I’m sorry you have the same experience.
@Syd.The.Space.Sloth This 👆
Broke my back at age 9 but took forever to actually be diagnosed since there’s “no way” a healthy kid could’ve possibly done that.
@CasuallyCerebral you must have been in so much pain oh my gosh 😭❤️
Not really, people just don’t understand. Like when you say that your having anxiety right now, they’re like “why?” but there’s no reason why it just happens. Always in the chest.
Yep, people think I’m over exaggerating when no…I’m really hurting in pain.
Constantly I have visible worsening authritus but because im only 20 it’s “not possible”
all of the time and literally anytime I’m in the er lol. i became ill at age 19, like right around or right after my 19th birthday so that on top of usually having ok vitals means I’m always getting told there’s nothing wrong with me
@gutz I feel this. When I'm having a panic attack because of my PTSD and my blood pressure only slightly elevates for some reason, they just look at you like you're faking it.
I’ve lost a brother over this
@Airtime I'm so sorry for your loss 😥💕
I don’t know what to say.
I can’t stop crying
Same. I don’t think I’ll make it here.
I’m sorry you’re hurting
I will be here for you. I don’t know if I can be there for you from Alaska.
I have been told this by my family and almost every doctor I have seen. They say I’m too young or too “skinny” to possibly be struggling with these health problems. One thing that is absolutely real and terrifying especially from reading these comments is that if you look healthy on the outside, no one will take you seriously or believe that you are ill. I actually have lost a scary amount of weight due to my illness and yet doctors don’t seem to find this to be an issue ???
Me, 14: I keep having panic attacks, dreams of my father hurting me, and nighttime incontinence due to SA from young age. I think I have PTSD
Dr: You have mild anxiety and I think you have a small bladder. Go do this invasive test to see how big your bladder is.
Me: *gets more trauma from the bladder test that showed I have normal sized bladder* I don't trust men anymore 🥲🙃
@Emo_Enby_99 I'm so sorry you had to go through that that's horrible 😭❤️
I was exhibiting symptoms of schizophrenia in my preteens and too afraid to tell anyone about it because I had heard no one developed schizophrenia before the age of twenty. Sure enough when I finally got up the nerve to talk to family about it, I was accused of attention-seeking and told my problems were unimportant and made-up. I was 17 then. I wasn't diagnosed schizoaffective until 2018, when I was 26 and a close friend helped me get into a mental health clinic. There are exceptions to every rule in both physical and mental health. If someone come to you with legitimate worries and concerns about how they're feeling, turning them away will only make their lives harder.
@CommaLlama exactly! I'm glad you finally got the help you deserve ☺️
Yup, nothing stings more than family or friends not validating you. I go out of my way to baby anyone who complains about anything, just so I can be the opposite of the people in my life.
I had a heart condition called svt and for the longest time they told me it was acid reflux
i had a very bad IBS flare up recently (extreme fatigue, dizziness, brain fog) & my parents were so disappointed in me for coming home from work early. my mom said to me “dude is it really that bad” & said it was just tough love. me dad told me “you don’t want to be the sick one” i guess to make excuses of getting out of work? idk, but it made the pain so much worse. luckily i got the rest i needed & there are other people out there that understand & sympathize ❤️
@treelover I have this too.
They told me it was from having multiple kids that my pelvic floor wall have dropped.
I'm like okay are you guys gonna fix it.
They told me to speak with my pcp.
@treelover do you watch your diet?. After having 6-7 IBS attacks I finally went to the ER, last month lying on the floor to where you want to pass out because the pain was that unbearable.. I swear death would be welcome. Most excruciating pain way worse than child birth
😥 I suffer bad Panic Attacks since as a child we don’t know where it came from
i've never had it said in disbelieving way but i've had multiple people say it in a sympathetic way 🙄
i’m apparently “too young” to use a cane. sorry i need it?
Being told "you're too young to have all that wrong with you" as if they think you're just making things up as you go..
Wasn’t allowed to test for BRCA until I was 16 even though my mom was diagnosed when I was 13
Also doctors still think I’m making hypothyroidism to get meds that’ll make me skinny- weird
Yes. I've been told this alot about my now diagnosed PTSD. My dad said I was too young and didn't experience the 'real world' yet so I couldn't possibly have PTSD
All. the. Time. I have fibromyalgia that was diagnosed at 28. Hashimotos at 19. Many other things as well. People think I’m too young to have it or it shouldn’t be this bad.
For the first time ever a few weeks ago from a nurse. It hurt so badly, like I wished for this life. But when she looked at me it felt genuine, like even she didn’t wish this for me. It gave me both comfort and anger.
my mom told me i was just stressed about AP tests when i was 15 and had ptsd and a panic disorder which led to my later diagnosis
It’s so unreassuring and really is painful
YES and it is RIDICULOUS. I understand it comes from a place of surprise and feeling genuinely bad- but it's a bit insulting- it doesn't make me angry, just annoyed
Definitely, they don't realize over time we become more prone to conditions. I got so pissed off when I was told I was too young to be tired or stressed although I have diagnosed depression and anxiety.
I get told I’m “too young to be so tired” blah blah. I’m tired of the “wait until you’re older” comments
All the damn time. Like, wanna talk to my doctor?? Lmaooo
@Ivy_daley literally 😭😂
All the time! People believe Self Diagnosis isn’t a thing, but I am pretty sure I have multiple personalities 🤣
@AjCrowley_777 thats not funny. Hi ave you checked with a doctor. Many times this comes with childhood trauma
yes! I hate this so much! I know I’m too young but you can’t put an age on any illness. I’ve had majority of my symptoms when I was a preteen. didn’t get diagnosed until my early 20s.
Yep. At 29 and having menopausal symptoms that were ignored until I couldn’t have children for some reason.. I wish my drs would’ve listened to my concerns. Maybe I could’ve saved some eggs so I could have children.
or that it just straight up cant be possible
like yes it can
Constantly. My first rheumy told my mom “well she’s too young to have anything like this” when I was 1.5 years old. The PEDIATRIC RHEUMATOLOGIST. My mother went ballistic.
Yes. All by doctors…
This is my parents all the time. With almost everything.
Kind of, I have three different types of Muscular Dystrophy. I was diagnosed at 13 with MD, at 36 a more in depth DNA test because I was having trouble walking and with my balance. One doctor made it seem like I was pretending…. After I got my results, he was nicer to me.
When it comes to certain conditions like bipolar, schizophrenia, and related disorders, I can't really blame anyone for thinking you're too young for it. These things often develop in adulthood, but if someone is showing obvious symptoms and is assessed by a psychiatrist, they need a diagnosis and treatment.
I was told Im too young to have BPD when i was 17. Im now 18 and hoping to get diagnosed soon
I’ve had two stroke events (resulting in 5+ actual strokes) and both times they didn’t even consider stroke at first because of my age (:
I get this alot, especially because I try to have a pretty active lifestyle and push through the pain when I can because no meds help me it leads to alot of people thinking I'm being dramatic
Yes! All the time!
UGH ITS HORRIBLE, my mother refuses to beileve I have anything wrong with me
Yes omg! "You're too young to be in pain" "everyone has their problems" please I'm just trying to tell you why I can't stand at the stove for two hours luke you can
It's the first response I get any time someone finds out I have rheumatoid arthritis
All of the time.. I recently was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and I see a endocrinologist for unrelated issues, she was stunned. Anytime I see her she’s always like “you look good! Your levels are good!,” My whole life I’ve gotten the your too young for this it can’t be. or you look healthy!!!
Or they say, "that couldn't possibly hurt"
Yes for depression, back pain, being gay, being trans, having an eating disorder, and ptsd. I've also been told I'm too old for conditions like adhd and again being trans. I'm too young and too old to be anything or do anything. Something I noticed in my teen years.
My mom has been a big trigger for my anxiety since I was a teen but I'm realizing recently that my anxiety is a deeper rooted issue and I've been having panic attacks since grade school.
Yup :( just got told it yesterday by my grandmother. Then again she’s also VERY mentally abusive
Yeah, I first started having health challenges at 24 years old. I went to my Dr 3-4 times telling her that I didn't feel right. She said I probably just have anxiety and that being tired and achy is a part of growing older. At 24, I barely made it through my work day then slept as soon as I got home, maybe ate a bite, then went straight back to sleep to do it over again the next day. Not normal. Fortunately, I found a Dr who believed me before I wasn't able to work anymore and he got me sorted and functional again.
🙌 🙌 💕
Having a cardiac issue starting at 17 I was always the youngest person to see my cardiologist and whenever I tell people about my condition it’s always “Youre too young for that” it always makes me feel so much worse
Although my parents didn't seem to believe me about my symptoms and you could see that something was wrong, it didnt stop them from collecting SSI for me from the time I was about 11. Didn't find out about it until DECADES later, and it was not from them. I can't tell you how disgusted I was to realize they were collecting money for my condition while they denied anything was wrong with me to my face.
Every. Single. F***ING. Day.
I get the you look amazing ( beautiful in shape your well educated ) there can’t be anything wrong with you ! It’s so hard when the condition is invisible.
yep. i developed a pulmonary embolism at 22 and every adult in my life that i’ve told has said the same thing: “you’re way too young to have that happen!” well, it happened so i guess my body didn’t get the memo
@jdubz pacemaker at 28, I hear that so much it's irritating to hear anymore. Sorry this isn't helpful but I can understand
Yes.i have 5 diagnosis working against me and my family refused to even listen to a few ways not to cause me traumatic triggers😥
yeah i never really get support by anyone besides my dads & husband. when i tell my mom about my appointments or any new diagnosis she tells me to stop looking for stuff 🙄
Yes I have been told that Fibromyalgia is a “Old People disease” lol I literally didn’t know what to say except I’m a MA and see people all the time of all ages with Fm.
No, but I do kinda feel that way. When I went to a cardiologist appointment I was the youngest in the waiting room.
At my lowest point I was hospitalized on a 72 hour hold and the other patients were all at least ten years older than me. They all gave me a hard time, saying I was "too young" to be feeling the way I was.
Plenty of times
As someone who is AFAB (assigned female at birth) and was diagnosed with ADHD very young. Like 7 years old and was told since I was presenting female at the time, that it wasn't ADHD.
I was told I was too young to have a pulmonary embolism at 23. After blood testing was done and nothing came back, rather than further investigating, they blamed birth control. Now 6 years later I finally got a diagnosis of Crohns, which they are certain caused this. Six years, too many doctors and specialists, and it took a 10 minute colonoscopy to explain most all of my issues in the last decade or better of my life. All because I was too young.
Yes, people just don’t know what to say I mean like if I don’t get a grip on my MG I will only have three years left on earth. It’s scary
YES!" Girl when I was your age I did not know what pain was."
" When I was your age I didn't know I had a back." Just ugly words. Thank God they never have pain. 😡😡😡😡
Yes! Doctors always push me off and tell me it can’t be something simply because of my age, instead of just checking
I love when people say “just wait it only gets worse” it feels diminishing of how I feel now
All I want to say to everyone is your feelings matter from the time you’re born to the day you die. If we all just look at each other and say your feelings matter, what are you feeling, how do you feel, is there anything I can do to help? It’s really all about love.
You’re exactly where are you supposed to be at this moment in your young life and don’t let anybody tell you any different. I work with a lot of younger people my feelings are so hurt if you don’t wanna talk to me he just ignoring me I care about them I don’t care about me is it because I’m old? I have never been this hurt before the way they treat me. 🤧
What I’m trying to say is the young people treat me so badly and hurtfully.
Yup. In the recovery room after my cardiac ablation.
BillyBob99 I've had the same issue with my parenta.
The diagnoses started rolling in when I was 12. I feel like I've been hearing this my whole life 🙄
Shelly_B I'm so sorry younger patients treat you badly and don't appreciate your experience and empathy. I personally find talking to people older than me about a shared condition encouraging, because it helps me see that there is in fact a future out there for me. I appreciate you❤️
YES. I've been told I'm "too young" for carpal tunnel even tho my hand tingles and goes numb all the time and it constantly hurts. But I'm too young. So I just let myself suffer
I convinced myself i didn’t have anxiety or depression and I just had‘fake’ mental illness or something. Was way too scared to tell a single soul other than random people from the other side of the country I met online and confided in. What a mistake I made and I can’t believe that is how the people you trust the most react. So sad.
Well when you tell your numerologist your issues and he writes on your chart your a hypochondriac and your not it leaves a bad taste in your mouth. And you like the guy and you have not many doctors to choose from? You live 2 hours away from there office.
Yes. It took 2 years to diagnose me with MS because of how young I was
Yes. I hate it. “Your too young to have the joints of an 80 year old”
“I have a chronic illness called hyper mobility which cause my joint to sub lax all the time. Don’t tell me how i feel /what i have/don’t have. Thx!”
“Oh I’m so sorry”
Got told my hip dysplasia was growing pains and when they finally took an x-ray they found out that it was in fact, not growing pain, but severe hip dysplasia. I walk with a cane and I’m in high school so I constantly get stared at by other students.
Too young and you “look so healthy”
Yessssss, my EDS means I have frequent/constant pain and I can't even count how many times I've been told I'm faking it
yeah nobody believes i have bpd bc im 17!
@cyb3rlov3r you need to find rhe right psychiatrist because people are dx at your age. I was dz in my 20s with it I'm now 54. No matter what don't start drinking or using drugs the majority of us bpd"s are addicts and/or alcoholics it wasn't very understood when I was younger but there is hope ok. Your almost 18 ams can find a psychiatrist of your choosing to get a true dx. Hopefully it's not bpd I know this day in age there are much better treatments then when I was first dx.
yes, all the time
I’m 17 and have the heart problems of a 40yr old lol
Yes. I've been told since my mid 20s (now mid 30s) that I'm too young to have chronic pain, or that because I'm young, physically demanding things can be dumped on me instead of them.
I have that same problem my Dr even put on my chart I am a hypo, I hardly complain about anything. It's so hurtful.
All the time all my friends, and family are like your 25 you should have these problems till your 85 lol.
Story of my life 😒
I had people say it’s just a phase or it’s cause I’m spoiled or I want attention when I was in high school. But now that I been through psychosis my family believes that I have a condition now and I’m not faking it.
Yes. I'm always so self conscious to have a walk aid since I haven't used one before and being young it's always "you're too young to have that" or "your faking it". It's friends, family, strangers, etc. You cab show them a diagnosis and they'd still hassle us about it.
Yep… all the time, until I stopped sharing any personal information with those specific people period. 😒 I have learned who is understanding or willing to be when it comes to my chronic conditions. Those that cannot will just have to deal with where I place them on my “priority list”… as I do not have the time or energy to keep explaining myself or being dismissed. Those that care will show up and those that don’t, will not. Living with chronic conditions, teaches you who truly loves you and those are the people that I make sure to spend my spoons on when I am able to!
Ughhhh 💯 Tanzie!
Constantly in and outside of the medical community I've had it happen in the past and it turned out that I had really serious things going on from a cancerous: polyp 2 aneurysms in my brain and in my lungs all told it was in my head.
Now I'm sick again and we're back to square one
Yes, I have. I don't understand why people think that there's an age limit for having a calcium dificency or any disorder.
@Hail21 I had this too my vitamin d was very low
But now my body ache
My lungs makes me feel like I cant breath my lower back feels like it fractured
But because my Vitals are ok they just tell me its anxiety.
All. The. Time.
I'm almost 50 and have dealt with health issues since I was conceived, once I was a couple years old until about 10 it was mostly normal stuff but then things started showing, my parents only took us to Drs when they absolutely had to, so at 18 I started getting more diagnosis and still hear I'm not old enough! Finally I asked a Dr if I'm not old enough how do you explain babies,, her answer was that's an entirely different situation!
I went through menopause 10 years early because my disability caused an unintentional major weight loss in a short amount of time. I'm grateful I did because my disability is enough to deal with on its own, and not having my monthly cycle in addition was heaven sent.
Yes and a doctor said I couldn’t have my condition because of my gender.
So many times it is ridiculous
Yes. I started showing consistent signs of mental illness when I was 12. Self harm and suicidal behaviors continued throughout middle and high school and was always explained away as me just looking for attention.
That’s crazy. I’m sure whomever told you that doesn’t know what rheumatoid arthritis is. People need to look things up before they talk.
All the time - I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user and they often tell me I don't really need my chair or other mobility aids bc I should be young and full of energy
Yes. Especially when I mention my PTSD because I wasn’t in a war 😥 I still almost died..
Not parents but doctors unfortunately
I was told that many times. It stinks!!!
Every. Damn. Day. Of EVER.
😥 ✋ 💕Many Times. But; I can’t except that. Because anyone at anytime can fall mentally I’ll, or Just I’ll for that matter!!
All the time
I hate that. People say I am too yound and I weigh too much which is not helpful.
Yep, Story of my life.
Yes, specifically by those older than me
Yeah, it took me too long to get a diagnosis, because my parents believed that nothing could be wrong because of my age. You’re not alone, just remember you kind of have a head start on things rather than waiting half your life knowing somethings different but not quite… it’s a good thing to get diagnosed early! It’s like a superpower, to know yourself so much deeper.
I’m sorry that anyone has put you down that way.
All the time - also that is I would lose weight my knees would feel better( I am at a healthy weight)
yes and i absolutely hate it
Once I overheard a doctor in the ER say "she's probably faking it, look how dirty she is. She probably just wants some opiates, she's too young for heart attacks. Just give her a Tylenol and a benadryl and send her on her way"
I was there because my chest hurt so bad I thought I was having a heart attack, and my blood tests came back negative for it. They didn't bother looking elsewhere to see what it was. It's happened several times since, and from matching symptoms and related conditions I matched it to maybe being Costochondritis, an inflammation of the joint area of the ribcage. Something that happens with arthritis. Which my previous doc said I couldn't have.
I have arthritis, people associate that with old people, I got it when I was 15. All the time
Yes I have
I’ve been told I’m fine it’s all in my head, I’m to young, or those who don’t know my full story just the good parts telling me I’ve had a good life.
Yes I have for years now
absolutely, people think im just brainwashed or something despite having an actual diagnosis.
Yes and you find yourself having to explain or prove your conditions and limitations.
My entire life!!
everytime i go to a doctor, stunned i have RA! but i'd been trying to tell doctors since i was in high school and no one believed me
"JuSt WaIt TiLl YoU gEt OlDeR"
Thanks for reminding me that my vision and joint pain will only get worse. 😎 im only 26 dammit
Way too many times. I’ve lost jobs because of it . And got denied jobs
Literally every day I'm told this - glad I'm not the only one 😆
@WikkidWitch1 - well, it's not "gaslighting" bc they—the clinician—did not do the thing to you of which you are "confused" or being made to question.
The term doesn't mean what millennials and GenZers are using it to mean and there's a nice, very specific term being ruined via colloquial misuse bc of it.
Gaslighting is specifically the act of a narcissist actively creating a situation (often with the help of drugging in any way) which leaves the victim without complete certainty of an event's details; then, they use manipulation to prompt the victim to begin to question their own sanity since their experience and foggy/lapsed memory doesn't match the reality of the event as being illustrated to them by this individual they otherwise trust(ed). Questioning any/all other memories they previously assumed to be true is implied to follow, so then their "reality-checking" function begins to go haywire and they fall into a sort of psychosis, validating the "reality" their narcissistic manipulator has engineered.
Their actual sanity must be challenged, or it's not “gaslighting”. Denial of your truth is not “gaslighting” w/o the intent of both driving you crazy and making you appear crazy to any outside onlooker.
The manipulator creating both the event in question and the victim's doubt of the validity of their own memory is key to a situation ACTUALLY being a "gaslighting" event.
Your doctors aren't gaslighting, they're just jaded/apathetic/bigoted bungholes.
Gaslighting is the tactic of a narcissistic manipulator and comes from a 1938 play ("Gas Light") and it's subsequent noir film named "Gaslight" (1944). The term pre-dates its recent explosive use by almost a century; so contemporary use is factually incorrect misuse of the wonderfully-implicative term.
It popped up in psychiatric journals in the '80s (but isn't in the DSM), and then some idiot on The Bachelor literally defined it incorrectly on camera: “Gaslighting is when you try to make someone else feel like it’s their fault.”
—NOPE! Sorry. That's just manipulation and "denial."
In the play of it's namesake, the protagonist's husband intentionally works to make her believe she can no longer trust her own perception of reality. One tactic he uses to drive this confusion is turning down the gas-powered lights in their home so they flicker throughout the house. When she asks him why the lights are flickering, he denies they're flickering at all, suggesting it's all happening inside her head.
Been told too many times
All the time!
absolutely, my parents wouldn't let me get treated for my schizophrenia, despite dealing with and complaining about my symptoms since i was a small child (7 or so). i don't blame them though, because it's really uncommon and hard to tell between actual symptoms and child make-believe at my age. instead theyd play into my delusions and build me up with phrases like "oh! you must be psychic!" which i again, i understand, i just wish they understood the severity of the issue. ended up diagnosed with social anxiety instead years later, due to paranoid delusions that my therapist was out to get me and refusal/inability to speak coherently. it took me a couple years into adulthood to finally realize there was something really wrong and being able to verbalize it and get a diagnosis.
Your response does not make any sense as a response to my comment. You are not addressing the topic. I did not say that medical gas lighting does not exist, I said that you are using the term in the incorrect way. As you just did, again, just now, because you did not read my comments before you responded.
What you just said to define the term, again, is not gaslighting. That is called "denial," maybe "manipulation" if the intent is to actually mess with your feelings.
"Denial of someone's experience" alone is 🚫NOT🚫 "gaslighting." End of story. Full-stop.
Therefore what you just said is incorrect, "medical gaslighting" is particularly NOT "downplaying a patient's concerns."
Adding a qualifier doesn't make it sound smarter, nor more true. It just displays that you don't understand the subject of which you are debating. Gaslighting is gaslighting if it actually is, it doesn't need a qualifier. Adding a qualifier doesn't make any sense because it doesn't change anything about the situation regardless.
I’ve been told your depressed? Why are you depressed? If anyone should be depressed it shouldn’t be you. What do you have to be depressed about? I’m the one who should be depressed.
All the time. It’s difficult to explain to some people that we don’t willingly seek out medical diagnoses.
🙄 sorry to melt your little snowflake in the snow globe you've made your world, but, no, it's not.
Some people's kids never heard they were "wrong" and learned how to process not being the center of the universe... and this is what happens.👶
Can you not read? Here let me help show you more objectivity which you will undoubtedly ignore in an asinine attempt to look like the victim of some tirade about the simple definition of a word you're manipulating which is—not ironically enough—about how someone in a domestic partnership manipulates the picture of the objective truth deliberately to drive someone insane (🚫not🚫 just to say "no you're wrong.") Is the objective truth of the situation getting through to you yet, witch?
"Immaturity": n. - behavior that is appropriate to someone younger.
"Willful ignorance": n. - A decision in bad faith to avoid becoming informed about something so as to avoid having to make undesirable decisions that such information might prompt.
—Synonyms: deliberately ignorant, negligent, derelict, lax, neglectful, remiss, slack - These adjectives mean guilty of a lack of due care or concern, e.g.: ”The negligent child failed to acknowledge their lack of education about something they've never learned properly.”
We can do this all day. You're still wrong. Repeating your own provably-false pseudo-definition to a term mis-defined by a television bimbo which was established before the parents who didn't teach you how to listen spawned you doesn't make you right 👍
You won't understand much from life when you steel-plate a skull that thick 💀
Mine did but then figured it out.
All the time. I've probably been victim of "medical bias" because apparently if you're young you can't possibly be sick 💀
Yes I have had a chronic illness since I was 12 and then was diagnosed with arthritis at 13 and now am a 17 year old with a feeding tube and multiple illnesses
All the time and my response is always no shit unfortunately I got a delta shitty card in life. Then people usually laugh and drop the conversation🤪
Yea I guess
Yea I went in a thyroid storm. Before the docror figured it out I had someone in my family told me that it was all.in my head I was really sick for 3 months before the doctor figured it out.
Having OSDD (or DID) this happens a lot with my family, they also invalidate it with “what trauma??”
Ya my dad was that way
yes, i’ve been told im way to young to be diagnosed with bpd so they diagnosed me with inaccurate diagnosis and took meds for the diagnosis i didn’t even have. now that im diagnosed, the meds are better
Lol yes I hate it so much and then they just tell you to get over it.
Always. I’m on dialysis & I’m the youngest person there. Everyone else is 60+
absolutely , i was diagnosed last year and my parents think it just randomly happened. no! i’ve been like this my whole life.. they deny it
Only my whole life. I just say man I wish someone would have told my body that. Lol
Ive been told I’m not bipolar enough. i showed them lol
Sitting in a doctor's office being the youngest one there builds character 😆
Someone thinks I am schizophrenic but I know I have depression and anxiety
I was told I couldn't be bipolar because my mania didn't make me spend enough. Check my diagnosis now biatch
When I found out I had micro instability I was told it normally is seen in 85 year olds, I was late 20s then.
I'm a teenager and my dad denies my panic attacks
I had to annoy my mom to take me for therapy when I was 13 years old and i had one session. She made it about herself and that’s the kinda toxic parent that made me who I am among other things. I didn’t get the help that I needed until my 20’s
Yes. I have been told many times that I shouldn't have to take medication for my depression at my age, that those medications were designed for elder people who were depressed. I find it to be extremely invalidating and unsupportive
All the time, mostly for my depression, eating disorder, and D.I.D...
Yes and I get weird looks when I park in handicap and walk with forearm crutches. People are always like “really?” When I tell them about my disease and all my surgeries. Like yes really, I’m not making this up.
Yes my parents find it hard to understand
A geneticist told me that I was too young to have a condition that would mess up my surgery, so we went ahead with the surgery. A year later my surgery failed. I was nine.
I’m told this constantly especially when I’m trying to ask for help :/
Each and every physical ailment has been second guessed or underestimated because of my age
I was told my childhood was "too nice" for me to have any mental problems. My mom still insists I get a scan of my brain to see if I have any tumors causing my problems
Yes. To the point to where they think I'm lying.
I get told this all the time by myself, sometimes i feel like I'm to young to feel this way, but I'm not sure...
No, but when I went to my mom in 2018 and told her that I could have PTSD, she said that I was fine and the flashbacks were normal. And now shit's been getting worse and I haven't brought it up to anyone for fear of sounding stupid
Yes, I know how you feel. So, as difficult as it is having these conditions and not having any understanding or compassion
from a family member is very hard.
well yeah i was experiencing severe depression at age 10 and was asking for help from my mom, (who also has depression) and she said “well i think you’re fine so you’re fine.”
I am learning abt Tapping can help with issues very interesting but……. Will it work ?
just because i’m going through something my family has never seen and i’m “gen z” it automatically means i saw it on the internet and im just lazy.
My mom says to get over it but I research it that is not how it helps people to get over it
Yes. “What do you have to be sad about?” and “You’re too young to be in that much pain.” 🙄
I actually stopped going to a heart doctor because everytime I went in to see him he said something like "you're too young to have this kind of problem"
My boyfriend has this problem and it is so hard to convince him to get treatment for anything because he just keeps getting told that he's too young for the conditions he has. No one is too young to be sick or suffering!! No one is too young to need help!!
All the time
Totally agree.My doctor said my memory was not that bad.Took a cognitive test and was diagnosed with early onset dementia by another doctor.
been depressed since kinder and ive had back and knee problems since i was 10 so yeah, constantly, im still a teenager dealing with it
I know that feeling. Had that happen to me as a teenager so l suffered with pain and now that l am in my early 50’s it has gotten much worse. Doctors can not believe l was able to deal with that much pain and now 40 years later l am
being treated for something that should have been treated when l was in high school
Cory. You should find a new heart doctor. It is too dangerous to let that go
NovaSystem what do you mean by that. What does that have to deal with age and diagnosis and doctors not believing you. But I do think Christians shouldn't be saying that around certain things because some things are part of this broken world and not actually technically part of His plan
How can they say there isn’t anything wrong with you, and in the same sentence say you (crazy). I hate that word We are not crazy
All. The. Time. It’s totally invalidating
Yep! My first gastroenterologist didn’t diagnose me with Crohn’s (which we actually think is colitis) because I was 15 and “too young”. He really messed me up because of that I had to endure a lot of trauma and pain
Oml. YES. My mom has most of my conditions, but when I’d be having panic attacks when I was little, she’d go “you’re too young to have those, let’s get you to a doctor.” They ran every test in the book and found nothing.
I️ was diagnosed with RSD/CRPS when I️ was 7. Even my mom didn’t believe my pain until I️ got nerve blockers in my spine when I️ was 11, and they helped for about two weeks so I’d go back and voluntarily get 12 more (6 on each side) before moving on to a different course of treatment.
And don’t even get me started on how difficult it was to explain to not only kids, but teachers that “Yes, I️ need a wheelchair. But I’m in PT relearning how to walk, so over time I’ll stand up, and walk more and more. But YES I️ STILL NEED MY WHEELCHAIR.”
Not necessarily, I think I was too young to be diagnosed with my conditions, though. I was diagnosed with several mental disorders between 9-14, and I think some of the diagnosis were inaccurate, and just me being a pubescent child.
“You’re too young to have migraines” “you’re too young to have stomach problems.” and my favorite “you’re too young to have PTSD” and “You’re not in the military, you can’t have PTSD”
every single time i meet someone new yup
Yeah. It turned out to be an arrhythmia caused by a brand new gene mutation. I was the 5th discovered case ever. But I'm "too young" to have a heart problem that wasn't obvious from birth
A million times over. I’ve been told I was too young to hurt at all.
i’m always told that i am too young to have joint pain or too young to be not be able to run or stand for long periods of time. usually i’m just told to take tylenol to solve it (it doesn’t help) and same with depression i’m usually told i’m too young to be so sad 😟
All the time is like your young how can you have depression. You haven’t seen the world. I’m over here like I’ve seen enough and been through hell don’t tell what I seen and haven’t
Physicians/therapists especially for me. I've had to switch many times due to insurance and when I pour out my own experiences they dismiss it saying that "you were young so you don't remember that well of what happened". Trust me, I remember... wish I didn't
I've started asking people if they'll let me beat, r★pe, and stalk their kids/family in response, since it couldn't possibly cause them any harm or trauma to have stress over afterward. 🤷 Seems to get a different reaponse than explanation and education.
People are selfish twits.
A doctor told me that I was “too young and too healthy” to be one of his patients, and then refused to test me for POTS, while prescribing me beta blockers
yes it sucks :/
OFTEN. I feel so lucky though because I finally found an endocrinologist who takes me seriously. I mentioned that I couldn’t get help bc people always say I’m too young to be sick and she said “that doesn’t matter! We’re going to find out what’s going on.” Best. Day. Ever.
This happens to me all the time 😞
My mom disregards my social anxiety. My throat closes up, shaking and intense sweating, mind fog up the ass, on the verge of crying. But my mom tells me, "you'll just have to get over it" and then criticizes me for breaking down..
My retina specialist said this to me when I discovered I had diabetic retinopathy. I am 38 was 36 when diagnosed. It made the diagnosis much more stressful and made me personally feel like a freak of some sort. The guilt has consumed me ever since
Hate that shit when they say that to us
I can’t stand when you walk with a cane or any kind of mobility devise wheelchair, walker even crutches people stare at you like they think l am faking. I never had anyone say anything to me yet. I would just say try being in my shoes for just half of the day and you can then make your judgement
Yes! I have fibro and get told by older people that my pain is still probably less than theirs because I’m so young
I’m DOUBLE CHECKING ON MY OPTIONS BECAUSE WERE I LIVE IN CALIFORNIA ITS CRAZY 😝 😥HOW MEDICARE AND PART MEDICAL INSURANCE IS TREATED LIKE SHIZZZZ. BUT; IF I WERE TO GET KEISER THEN OMG 😳 😡 THEN I GUESS??? ID BE WORTH MY LIFE BEING SAVED?? I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY DR 👨⚕️’…. EVEN TAKE AN OATH TO HELP ALL AND TREAT ALL PEOPLE THE SAME WITH OR WITHOUT GOOD 😔 INSURANCE!!!! ITS ALL BULLLL. 🙏 😢 ✌️
All the time, in fact my parents deny that I have anything wrong to this day.
yes!! doctors have told me they've never seen people my age with my condition
Not exactly the same thing, but once when I was 15/16, I thought I could confide in my mother, so I opened up to her about how stressed I was due to school. Having to deal with HW, tests & things of the sort.
Her reply to me was something along the lines of: "Stressed?? What do you have to be stressed about? You're too young to feel that way. If there's anyone that should be stressed, it's me".
She then, I believe, proceeded to list a few reasons as to why. Such as the fact that she had a job.
I knew that I had the condition around 14, but didn’t get diagnosed until I was 17. My periods were super irregular (like I had one once a year) and my parents just told me that I was still regulating and that I was fine. Eventually my step mom took me to the gynecologist just to get me to stop talking about it. But I ended up being right.
yes with schizophrenia
Ugh good christ can i report this freakin post for spam or something ffs
I've had someone tell me "you couldn't possibly have anxiety, you have nothing to be worried about. Once you start paying bills, you'll know what REAL anxiety is"
Also some people saying 'why would you have insomnia? Just sleep, it's easy!' NO CAROL IT IS NOT EASY THATS THE WHOLE POINT
I’ve had severe delusions from the moment I could string together a coherent thought in my head, but anything that explains it is “supposed to” manifest at earliest like late adolescence. Delusional Disorder and Bipolar are the two things I have that are most likely to blame, but little kids aren’t “supposed” to have those yet. My brother also had earlier onset bipolar, not as early as me but around 2nd or 3rd grade. I think his was taken a bit more seriously because he would have explosive outbursts, where I was always very reserved and internalized my stuff, so it was easy for adults to just tell me I was being too dramatic or assume I just wanted attention from it. Probably played a part in why I didn’t actually have my issues addressed til much later in life, I learned to just internalize it and that telling other people wasn’t safe. Was the most likely culprit for my DID as from the age of 5 I had convictions that my parents and all adult figures were trying to kill me or have me abandoned, and I couldn’t vocalize it because everyone became a potential threat and I decided vocalizing it would only be more dangerous, so my parents didn’t really ever catch on. Took til last year when I was 17 to tell a therapist about my delusions and stuff, felt absolutely horrifying but I’m slowly coming to terms with accepting my issues are serious and I’m not just being dramatic. I think my parents still have doubts I’m not just blowing things out of proportion, but at this point I’ve had to seriously block that out for the sake of my own recovery and wellbeing
Yup, with my depression, which I got diagnosed when I was around 13-14😒
oh my god ouch reading this
Heck yes. Because depression is totally for only mid life and beyond people /s
Yep, I hate the age regulation on this app. I'm younger than 18.
😥 🙌 ❤️ 🤗 💕 😥 Frustrating How 👨⚕️ Drs Are Supposed Too Help Patients & Too Always Listen Too Each & Everyone/ Patient Equally!!!! But; When It All Comes Down To The Wire These Dr 👩⚕️’s, Only Listen and Care For The Patients With The Best Insurance and Money 💰 Coverage 😡 😤 🤬 😢 😭. Frustrating Situations Of Life. ✌️
Not my specific condition but things like using the motorized carts at stores, having a mobility scooter ect? Absolutely
My family doesn’t believe in meds and therapy. I’m 57 now and had my first depression episode was when I was 14. It’s tough when you get NO support.
Does anyone realize this is literally the most active thread here? Lol
Being a 5 year old with ADHD, ADD, and PTSD was horrible, I was constantly overlooked and never noticed among my family, so much happened while I was growing up and I couldn't stand being with them. It felt like they hated me for just being alive.
I got diagnosed at 13 years old I am now 19 with horrible depression and anxiety I still hear to this day I am "too young","too pretty","too happy" "too small" for any of my disorders it's anoying and is what I think to this day is what pushed me into my depression
You are never to young to have it
Yes. It sucks. My parents didn't believe it until I tried to kill myself. Then they believed me
"you're not depressed, you just don't read your Bible enough"
I get told this about insomnia all the time. Or depression! I was dignosed with both at 13
I’ve certainly been told I’m too old to be Autistic/ADHD.
Yes and it’s extremely offensive lol. I always grew up having a tremor without diagnosis or seeing a doctor for it because I have hand tremors which would make adults think of Parkinson’s disease (which I could have I have no idea) but who would think an 8 year old telling them that their hand is concerningly shaking is telling the truth
Oh yes, parents use to scream in my face and tell me to stop faking and acting because nothing in my life was traumatic enough for there to be something wrong..... thanks for the trama mom and dad.
if I had a nickel for every time I've heard this
I mean how would they know anyway
Yeah by my parents but then I got diagnosed and it proved them wrong
lmao! hashimoto's and being a hoarder made 17 yr old me look like a middle aged lady
man.. thankfully no one else has told me this; but my inner critic has :'))
it's true we're the harshest to ourselves sometimes cus wow
All the time. My own stepdad doesn’t believe I have ptsd bc I’m not a veteran even though my psychiatrist diagnosed me with it.
Everyone tells me I'm too young to have chronic headache and dry eyes. These conditions began upon the onset of puberty at 14.
I feel the same way. I’m young and have a lot of health problems and I didn’t even put them all on here
Yes about 8 billion times!
My parents didn't believe I had depression until I tried unaliving myself
Yup. Especially at work
Way too many times to count, I'm too young for anything it seems, so stressful and it just angers me
YES and it's THE most annoying thing when it comes directly from a doctor. 🤦
@Skielyr I Can Totally Relate!!! Your Dr 👩⚕️’s; Supposed To Listen 👂 To Us Patients and Do Testing And Rule Out Possibilities and Figure Our/ The Patients Problem/ Problems. It Seems Doctoring 👨⚕️, Isn’t What It Once Was 😟…. Back Even In The Early 90’s Dr’s Took The Time and Had~ Compassion For All Patients Now I Honestly Don’t Feel Compassion, Let Alone Like 👍 These Dr’s Want Too Help!!!! It’s Honestly Just Like They Push Us Through The System Another Medical Number. The Better The Insurance The Better The Care?? Sad 😢 But Seems True. Good 😌 Luck 🍀 With Your Dr 👩⚕️ ✌️.
didn't know i had to be 57 to have sexual reproductive issues
I was told by my gyno when I told them what the hospital told me she said “your way to young this doesn’t happen till your in your 40’s” when I’ve been dealing with this for 4 years everyday and then turns out she diagnosed me with the same condition the hospital told me to tell her I had 🤦🏾♀️
If I had a nickel…
I’ve been told I’m too pretty to have dermatillomania
Yes. It’s super frustrating especially when you give the most specific examples of a symptom and it gets glossed over cause of your age 🙄
Yes. It amazes me because most of the comments I’ve heard are from DOCTORS. It’s hard enough to hear it from people that just can’t understand like parents or coworkers. It starts to make you question everything. I’m “too young” to need a cane when I walk during a flare. I’m “too young” to have cardiac problems. (Probably will never be diagnosed until it’s too late). I’m “too pretty to be so sad” or “I just need to smile more” double yikes. Or I’m “too young to be in their chair at the gastroenterologist office”. I’m “too young to be in an oncologist office”. Last time I checked these diseases don’t care about age. So why is it in question? It’s like they think it’s fun for us to spend all our time and what money we do have left to meet with them. ❤️stay strong and take one day at a time. Trust in yourself and don’t let other people tell you what’s normal or how to feel. It’s your body and only you know when something is wrong. Unfortunately you have to be your own advocate. Take care.
Yes. And its absolutely awful to hear it especially from other women. I started perimenopause at 26. And older women tell me that its not a thing that young. Even though the drs confirmed it and genetics say its very plausible because others in my family have too.
Yep. Anxiety in 7th grade🥲 by my parents
My step dad has the same condition as me and he's had it for almost 20 years and she always compares me to him saying how he has it worse than me but mine is actually progressing way faster and aggressively and it's frustrating to be invalidated just because mine isn't as severe (I'm legit 18 and have only been diagnosed with RA for 3 years (at 15) he's 42 and got diagnosed in his mis 20's) + doctors always saying that I'm too young to have arthritis and it must be lyme disease :I
Yes, I have hypertension at 20 and anxiety since 2018 and parents didn’t pay attention to anxiety until hypertension entered the chat and fucked up my lofe
When I was diagnosed with depression my mother looked at me and said “what are you so depressed about your life is great”
Yes that’s the reason the doctor didn’t want to test me at first, he told me I was “just a tired new mom”. Thankfully my friend is a nurse practitioner, she told me to go back and demand the test (something I normally would never do.) The doctor agreed and now I’m diagnosed. So much effort to confirm sickness I don’t even want.
It's all very invalidating.
Yes, since I got my goiter at 19 and have had other illnesses since then. I’ve had doctors dismiss me but thankfully not too often and I found other providers who helped me out. It stinks but I try to ignore it and focus on what I know I’m working on and feeling. Ignore the haters and keep looking for providers who help you and not dismiss you. Take your care into your own hands and pursue what you need.
Yup, I've had migraines since I was 4 and back pain due to scoliosis since I was 15 and I've constantly been told "oh you're too young for that" which irritated me so badly because me being young doesn't stop me from feeling the pain.
Most definitely! Get told I’m too young to have an ostomy bag constantly!
My brother and mom laughed at me the other day because I mentioned how overwhelmed I've been. It shouldn't matter how difficult your life is, you should never belittle anyone else's life experiences cause you have jobs and bills to pay as if that disregards whatever I'm going through myself!
Me every time I've been to the hip surgeon with neon punk hair
My dad and stepmom told me that I didn’t know what real pain was, my dad said if I ever broke a bone I would be on the floor crying until I black out. A year after I moved back in with my mom, I shattered 2 different bones in my foot, I got up and told everyone that I was ok and it was probably just a sprain. The doctors said if I didn’t take care of it the was they said to, that I would loose my foot. I didn’t listen in fact I walked on my foot days after my surgery never practiced pt at home, and I still have my foot, I can walk, jog and very carefully run. I’m very proud of my injury because of how my dad thought I would handle my pain. About a year after I broke my foot my mom noticed signs of my condition and that’s when she realized I was struggling with the same conditions she has.
@Tyle_r your dad’s opinion of how pain “should” be handled is toxic. You are allowed to stop and feel the pain. You are allowed to honor the “limits” it puts on you. Rest is a form of resistance to this damaging opinion.
Yes, all the time! With back pain, I get told I’m not old enough to be hurting. With depression, I’m told I haven’t experienced enough to want to die. With anxiety, it’s that I need to relax.
Which time it seems like all people say to me is you are too young for every single condition you have and it is like what the heck 🤠
Yes, its like i have a old person body. No one realized how bad i had gotten at first because they didnt think it was likely to happen to someone younger than 60
I've been told I'm too young , crazy, too fat , I was made to feel like everything was just in my head
Most definitely... Especially when they say "You're too young to worry about anything" or "You're too young to think that way. You shouldn't be depressed." and that usually makes me feel worse because it doesn't help at all. People assume worries and my sadness just disappear with a snap of a finger but the truth is... It just doesn't go away. Sometimes to gets easier to manage and then there are moments where I can't seem to process it and have to redo the cycle again. Sometimes it never goes away either.
All the time. It honestly gets quite annoying. Especially with my type 1 diabetes. They are like your so young for that. And then I'm like thats just one out of 10 conditions I have. And then they are like your so young or they are like are you sure you have all that. Thats even better one.
I agree. I have depression. My boyfriend doesn't understand. He says " just don't be depressed" ..it's like oh why didn't I think of that
I was 40 when diagnosed with cancer. Yup. 2 years ago soo still too young and it’s a lonely place too.
I am 20 and this happens alot!
No because I havent went to the doctor for my conditions
not sure that i have (though i may have... i've heard a lot, including from my doctors. at the beginning of my journey, my doctor said i was "too young" to be experiencing arthritis-type symptoms and that's why it was a concern for possible rheumatic disease. don't think that counts since it wasn't trying to exclude me from a health condition, but it happened ::v).
relatedly, as a mobility aid user in my early 20s, i do get treated weirdly because of my aids. especially when i use my rollator - when i use the wheelchair people seem to assume i'm paralysed or something, and when i use the cane people seem to think i just have a foot injury? when i have the rollator, sometimes people act like i'm making fun of elders by using it. i don't get it,
Yeah, I have very weak bones and I can fuck them up easily then some old person will say I have nothing to whine about because I’m only 17
Bro, all the time
arthritis since 14. i hear that all the time, and to add my other conditions peoples eyes just boggle and seem to think that young people can't get sick, especially to get arthritis.
@Kiwipie29 yes!! Was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at 16 so I’ve gotten this way too often.
Yes. I have depression.
Yep. Was diagnosed at 16 so it’s happened way too often.
All the time...my father was says that I am too young for anything, especially headaches. I use to say that my head hurts and he always say that I am too young, because I don't have a job or anything.
Definitely I get told this all the time.
Yes.. when It doesn’t mean that you don’t have it .. it means that it’s not as common your age. One told me you must not have it then when I have all the symptoms but not just that on my lab work it showed it critically low. Cardiologist seen that recently and said this can get very severe quick
Yes and I’m tired of hearing it! Like, thanks for saying that, I feel so much better. 😒
Absolutely. I had Guillain Barré when I was 19, which is super rare. I’m currently in the process of planning an invasive bone surgery on my ankle due to degenerative bone cysts. Most people in the orthopedic office are older folks with problems related to age.
However, if you’re talking mental health, I think there’s really no age where you’re too young to be dealing with it. Mental health has gotten a lot more prevalent in our society, and I think it’s finally getting to a point where we can talk about it without feeling “crazy”. I was 21 when I was finally diagnosed with bipolar, but I know it went for years undiagnosed. It’s hard to talk about, but with apps like this it makes us feel less alone. Depression in teens is horribly common, but now we can find others who have conditions like us.
I’m 21 and sometimes use a cane. It’s the worst when older people look at me and feel like they need to minimize my pain just because I’m young.
Yes i have been told many times by people there is no way i am having menopause this early and refuse to tell me anyway to help with whats going on. All of my family have had early menopause i have it a few years younger then my mom
yep. being diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at 20 was a doozy. people are still shocked every time i tell them. lol
All the bloody time
Right before my mom died she told me she knew that on her mother’s side most of them struggled with bi-polar. Some of her cousins were treated, others committed suicide. My mom and her aunts were some of the nastiest people when they were manic.
I finally had to tell in-laws that I can’t just get over it. But since my meds are finally working together I feel most days it’s easier to deal with.
that's how I found out l have spinal stenosis. Took a female Dr to find the tare in the back of my leg right under the butt cheek. Went to five different specialist and none could find anything wrong. I moved to Pennsylvania have a female doctor she finds it in 2 months they tried for 6 years.
Plenty of times lol
Yup. I’m 24 and got diagnosed 2 years ago with NAFLD. No history of liver problems either on either side of the family.
Which one of my conditions 🤣. I've been told this so many times, and had symptoms ignored, that many of my conditions are more serious than if they had been treated when I said I needed to be treated. (Welcome to neglect + abuse, via home and the medical system).
To anyone who is concerned about yourself- do your peer reviewed, credible research. Don't be afraid to "doctor shop"/seek out a second opinion, or to ask your doctor "Can you evaluate me for ____".
With osteoarthritis, YES!!!!! But when you get hit by a ducking car 2’ off the road while trying to cross, you have green light and walk sign, they have a red light and plow through it at speed limit…… well, that’s what happens
Yep. Especially with my anxiety and EDS/joint problems…
I hear you, if they can't see it, they don't consider it.
Personality disorder! Still looking for a proper diagnosis!
All of the time.
Currently going through this and omg I am so over it! Young, and what look like in shape healthy people, can also have medical problems.
yes, i’ve had an extremely early onset schizophrenia, people don’t believe me when i say i have it, but are the same people who point out my outward symptoms.
My blood work says I am in remission, but my brain fog and fatigue is worse than ever! 😥
Often. I also get told I'm "too young" to use a cane. It hurts a lot.
My journey with my various conditions actually started while I was in high school. 25 years ago this month actually. It took 7 years to have a definite diagnosis, and ever since then it was "you're so young!" Or "Try this, you'll be cured." Now, I am 42, almost 43 and have been on oxygen (2 liters) since last June. So, now I am faced with pitying looks and people telling me that they are so sorry for me...to be so "young" blah blah...yeah well, I fought for 20+ years to be normal, and now my body, with the help of protocols we childcare providers needed to follow, has said it can't do what it is supposed to anymore. I have been home now since May of last year, almost a year now and I am no further in getting a handle on the slide my body has taken. I feel so betrayed by myself...does anyone else feel like this?
Does any one else get pain in there back and stomach by ribs on the right side and if you about to Ovulate it feels worst
Yes people think I’m a lazy person and that I love to asleep during the daytime and it’s all the opposite 🙁🙁🙁
My daughter is only 9 years old she just got diagnosed with fibromyalgia. No dr.s ever believed me that I had it either. Thanks to the F/M test we have our proof
Yeah that’s why they won’t go deeper into my symptoms and conditions
Or being told your condition is apart of growing up, is just a phase, or your just being a kid. Stop right there & give yourself some validation - you and your feelings are REAL.
My doctors have completely ignored or dismissed symptoms I have because they're uncommon in my age group. Examples include dural ectasia and synovial cysts. Basically, my spine is twice my age.
All. The. Darn. Time. 😖
❤️I got told I was faking it and was lazy! Now I'm 100% service connected BUT folks are like, But you are sooo intelligent - Do it any way! NO! When I crash and end up in the hospital, nobody is around
Now I take care of me and set boundaries
Absolutely! It’s hard
I felt that
Only all the time....
Also when they make horrible jokes and comments about them 🙄
I have been sick since I was 10 years old, mentally I’ll since birth and traumatized since. I hate when people say “you’re young and healthy” I don’t remember what healthy feels like if I ever knew
@BenjaminButton2.0 same, healthy mental wise is a question to me
@BenjaminButton2.0 legit almost anything can happen at any age such as dying from brain cancer at the age of 10 because one of my friends died of that
Yes my parents told me that I'm to young to have arthritis like seriously it happens at any age
I’ve been told I’m too young to have ptsd and it’s very frustrating. It makes you feel like your just being annoying or extra but remember that it’s valid no matter what people say!
All the time I was for 8 years. I spoke up told them it was inappropriate to say anymore!
I'm a teenager with a fibromyalgia diagnosis, AND nobody else in my family has it. When I tell you that after I got my diagnosis, my sister said she thought I was faking it to get out of exercise 😭
Oh my gosh yes!! From my doctor!! Come to find out I did have micro calcification in my breast genetic testing said I had brca1 and 2 had to have double mastectomy
I survived cardiac arrest and had several hospital workers surprised at my age.
This morning. I was talking to coworkers and they innocently said I was too young to be affected by my arthritis like I am. They meant it as in they felt bad I am and it’s not fair because I am but it made me think how often I have been told this by doctors in a dismissive way. Someone looked at my arthritis and said it was mild and that I shouldn’t seek help for it so I left it alone then a few months later I showed my GP the report and he was shocked I hadn’t sought out treatment for it so I explained to him that because it said mild I didn’t want to over react and his response will stick with me forever. “It’s mild for someone twice your age. The person writing this report did not take that into account.” I hadn’t considered what the report actually meant until he broke it down for me and I realized I wasn’t faking and I wasn’t just weak it was highly unusual for my body to be behaving how it was and it WAS something to be concerned about. I think being labeled as “too young” for a condition is much more harmful then health care workers realize because it leads to a lot of misdiagnoses and dismissive attitudes towards young people. They are being seen as dramatic not as people seeking help.
Yeah my parents 😕
I went through three or four doctors before I was diagnosed with fibro because at the age of 13 because doctors were extremely hesitant to diagnose me with an "adult condition." The only reason I was able to get a proper diagnosis was because my mom has it and was not taking no for an answer when I had the exact same symptoms as her. And now all the time when I mention to people that I'm really hurting, they almost always say that I'm too young until they actually get to know me and my conditions
Yeah, when I had to have a hysterectomy and my ovaries removed it caused me to go into menopause. I get looked at like I'm making stuff up.
It took me 10 yrs to get diagnosed with muscular dystrophy. Was medically gas lit by several doctors until I made a big stink to a neurologist that I was having trouble lifting up my baby-toddler and wasn't leaving without an MRI. Had zero family support until diagnosed, all thought I was exaggerating like a drama queen. Still not over it lol but that's one of several issues I'm working on.
grr some people and their non-supportive comments and behaviors still drive me mad, ignorance isn't bliss. You're not alone, rise above those peeps. 🤗💕
Yeah. I grew up as a very sick child so no one really thought my conditions were that serious and once they found out that they were, they were shocked and didn’t believe me until they actually witnessed it in person
Oh allll the time. I'm only 20 and have arthritis and that's the main one I'm constantly told I couldn't possibly have cause that's only for old people 🙄
@UVRose I’ve had fibromyalgia since 20 and it’s been the same. People don’t want to believe chronic illnesses can hit young people, or anyone at any time, I feel like
I’ve almost always been the youngest person in specialist’s offices ever since I was 14 and still often am now at 26. I keep wondering when I won’t be too young anymore to have my conditions. I have to bite my tongue every time someone says this to me or else I’ll whip out some real harsh realities to remind them that unfortunate things happen to people of all ages, no matter their age.
I've been told by doctors that at an older age (over 60), it's common to have either osteopenia or osteoporosis, but I'm only 19 and I have osteoperosis...
100% all the time. My mother did not address my complaints as a teenager and as an adult she would tell me I'm fine. She has Many health issues caused by genetics. And for some reason, only SHE can have issues. No one else
yup, “too young” to have everything hurt all the time
My parents think I go to all my doctors because I want pills…. I literally have an autoimmune disorder and need to be monitored but they’re convinced nothing is wrong with me and I just want attention/meds. Makes me mad
@Annikaz my biological father was like that and even sold my medication one time on a visit because he didn’t think I needed my thyroid hormones.
Yes!! I've been told I'm too young to be depressed (or even just stressed) because I have a good life and don't know what it's like to "be in the real world"
Yes I hate it when I get told I am to young to have a certain diagnosis when it really hurts and my family doesn't know what it's like or friends even neighbors
Yes especially since I have surgery every 6 months and my body is constantly attacking itself from the inside. I’m used to complications, ER visits, hospital stays, and IV inserts. Every nurse is surprised I’m calm for things others get nerves about. Plus I’ve had well meaning older people try to “pray for me”, think I was a junkie because I complain about my veins being blown from over use of blood draws and treatments, or just not believe me because most of my health issues are seen in older folk and not a 22 year old
I have gotten scars in the bend of my right elbow from being poked and prodded with IV's so many times. They're scared that the next IV poke that my veins are just going to blow up and most of them have. I also get told oh you're too young to have all these chronic illnesses. Then why am I on high-level narcotic pain medication. I have hypermobility ehlers-danlos syndrome, gastroparesis,transverse myelitis, postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome.
Allllll the time! It took me eight years to be diagnosed because my original rheumatologist just said I was too young to have what I'm finally now officially diagnosed with!
I also get a lot from strangers that I'm too young to use a cane or walker. I just tell them my symptoms didn't check my ID before taking over.
Too young for my IC, I wish I were faking
My hearing loss. I have acute bilateral hearing loss so it is really severe. My dad denies its a disability and its so frusturating
This is what sets me off. Or when people are like wait til you get to my age or if I’m sharing about my condition they said your still young. Honestly I can’t fathom getting older and managing because my conditions are degenerative so unless I receive a miracle I’m going to be declining much faster. I didn’t choose to have this happen at a young age and wouldn’t wish this on anyone for that matter. I want more than anything to get better. I’ve been trying to call people out when they say things like this now, like did you think about my perspective dealing with all of this being so young and it essentially robbing me of my youth and the horrors to come as I get older? It takes over all aspects of my life… what kind of future do you think this is leading me into? I say it in the most tactful way I can but I’m so over these kind of comments… they are degrading and destructive and I’m tired of just taking it and chocking it up to oh they probably mean well by saying that. Bullshit.
At 14 I was too young to have a diseased gall bladder, but 6 months after this was said another dr did a test to find my gallbladder was practically decaying inside me. I'm apparently also too young to have fibromyalgia, but I deal with chronic pain everyday
Yep, can't have arthritis yet, I'm not a retiree. Was diagnosed at 19 when running hurt
“11 year olds can’t be suicidal” ummm ok sure I wasn’t
All the time 😫
Absolutely. I have the same conditions as my mom and some of her other family members but it took me longer to be diagnosed because I’m young
Only nearly everyday lol I get told I'm not taking care of my body.
I have a list of things I have been diagnosed with both mental and physical. It’s the physical ones that people tell me I am too young to experience.
I have had chronic pain especially in my knees, shoulders, back, and neck since the fifth grade. I have missed out because of them and my body doesn’t heal quickly like others.
Oftentimes people at different jobs (or really anywhere) tell me to do things for them because I am “young and capable.” I am young, but a lot of times I am incapable of accomplishing the task without severe pain after. I hate that people assume that because I am young, I am able. It is ignorant.
Yes!!! Many times
Hello, I agree
I have a hip deformation and it really hurts to do certain physical activity. I always hear the “you are too young to feel sore” or “wait til you’re my age”. It’s very disheartening and it feels disrespectful. Conditions and diseases do not care what age you are or what lifestyle you live.
Yes! It's so frustrating. I am the youngest one at the cardiologist waiting room. I get looked at by all the older people and the nurses are like "you're too young to be here!" And I was like "well I'm in pain"
Yes—fibromyalgia. I started developing symptoms at 13, and I know the signs because both of my grandmothers and my mom are diagnosed. It was brushed off very quickly, unfortunately. :(
My mom would tell me that I just wanted to get out of doing house work...till she started to complain of pain in her arms and was told she had fibro also. She had sleep issues and IBS for years..apparently those were her only fibro symptoms, so when she was put on elavil for the fibro, it corrected her sleep and her IBS..
Yes, two of the conditions i was diagnosed with at 16 are suppose to be for "older" people.
@Inkey I was diagnosed with something that was supposed to be for older people as well.
The reason why it took so long to get a diagnosis is because I was so young. I begged for years and didn't even get taken remotely seriously until I was 18.
YES having chronic constipation as a teen I never stopped hearing your too young for that just eat more fiber🤦
Absolutely. I’m 26 and had a hip replacement. I use a handicap placard. I’ve had many people say rude things or look nasty towards me. It’s sad.
Yes I been called a liar and a fake by people that are close to me it hurts
Yes many times with a lot of my conditions. It frustrating to be told that and sometimes not believing I actually have it.
When I told my grandmother I was depressed at 8 years old she told me I was too young and didn't know what I was talking about.
Yes, but in fairness I am too young to have my illness. It's fairly rare, but not totally unheard of, for someone my age to have CML. It can make for some annoying convo starters
So many times. I've even been called a hypochondriac.
Yes. I have hip problems and people look at me crazy and say you to young to have hip problems
So, I have been dealing with abandonment issues that stem from my biological mother and my stepmother and father have finally accepted and realized it. And of course, they didn't accept it until after I moved out a month ago.
@Ducki And my stepmother has finally accepted that I have anxiety as well.
i’m 20 and I was diagnosed with PTSD when i was 17, and was told that i most likely have had it since i was as young as 12. I have been told by many that because I have never experienced war and/ or i’m so young that i must just be being dramatic. Abuse is an extremely real way to develop this kind of condition and I hope anyone in my situation knows their reason for gaining a mental illness is just as valid as any other reason.
My insurance I had at a previous job refused to pay for my medication under the diagnosis fibromyalgia because they said I was too young to have it, so my doctor had to say it was a nerve fibroid disorder to get the gabapentin covered. The insurance I have now wouldn't pay for a neurologist with a nerve concern surrounding my carpal tunnel syndrome so my doctor put in a generalized central demylination to have me further evaluated.
For real! Or just get over it. You can't let disappointments get you down. You can't just go to the hospital.
Yes and they took forever in the ER tem saying a 30yo could boy have heart problems. I am.now 41 and have a pacemaker
Yes I have been especially by doctors. I hate hearing I'm too young.
I have been told that I was too young to have a stroke, having had my first major stroke when I was 14. I also have lupus and now degenerative disc disease... It's so crazy because I'm ALWAYS in pain and my fiance doesn't know how to deal with it other than pretending that everything is fine...
Yes 🙌🏻, 100% can relate to this! Just had my mother say something similar to me, when in reality, I’m beginning to understand my trauma, statements like these validating some of them. And still, they have no idea how hurtful their idea of “helpful” is…
The joys of having PTSD.
Yes for the last twenty years.. are 36 when I had a massive heart attack and noone believed me.. now 45 with open heart surgery and CHF...
All the time! I’m 32 and I hear the phrase too young more times than I can count. I hate it. I have to remind people that because of all of my different conditions that recovering from an illness, injury, or surgery takes me longer. My age has nothing to do with it.
Yes all of the time. Theirs no age minimum for any of my disorders. People can be so hateful.
YES. when i had my back surgery my surgeon didn’t even want to perform on me because i was so young and nothing specific had happened to cause a 13 mm protruding disc!!!!
I was diagnosed with arthritis at 3, so yes. I needed to use a walker at one point and this guy (trying to be funny) said that I looked like I belonged in a nursing home.
Yes, but it mostly comes from random people rather than my doctors or family/friends
Don't pay attention to others, it wasn't until I had my spinal surgery, before anyone believed I had a problem. But you need to believe in you. Only you know your condition. I always told my son, there are only 2 people you need to please in this world, yourself and God. You do that and your life will be good.
ALL THE TIME. It absolutely SUCKS.
My teacher told me I didn't have tourettes when I was 12, but it in fact starts in childhood
Was told my my own mother that I was lucky to have brittle type 1 because "at least it's controllable"
I have been told that I am too old for my condition when I have just been struggling with it longer.
Constantly. Made me think I was making up all my problems myself
I always get from friends and family members that's all in my head and that if i stop thinking about it then it will go away. So I stay silent and when people ask me how I am I say I'm good
Yes. Every day. All my conditions. I'm always told I'm too young for xyz but you know what the universe doesn't care how young you are. It will fuck you up.
Yes on several conditions.
I haven't but ive seen this sentiment online before and it kind of caused me to internalize it. without realizing it, i was applying my own narrow minded understanding of my condition onto myself - minimizing my own experience because i didnt feel "worthy" of suffering. i just felt like less than dirt. i still have a long way to go, and a lot to learn tho.
Yep. Along with "just wait it will get better... It will happen" etc
Someone told me 16 was to young to have period issues...
All the time I feel like a failure to my kids some days.
Yes.. especially when I tell someone my joints are hurting. They say "oh just wait until youre 50" but they dont understand im chronically ill.
First time I went into my neurologist. The first thing she said to me was “19 years old? No no, you are much closer to 90”. I am told all the time I’m too young to have this issue or that issue, stripping me of the label that has stripped me of everything else about who I am. Age does not mean health- and frankly when people assume that youth equals healthy it makes people like me shrink- or even invisible.
Yep I was on meds for my mental health and stuff and when i moved in with my grandmother she took me off all my meds bc I was "to young"
Constantly used to get it with my gender dysphoria especially back when it got really bad when I was about 14 (5years ago or so)
Yes all the time or it's all in my head it's all fake
Yup! More times than I can count. I was even denied the surgery I need by my insurance company. The surgery is not covered by Medicaid, only by Medicare. So if I was old enough for Medicare, it would be covered.
Yep. People my age don't typically have osteoarthritis
Especially not their whole life like me
Yes, my father would call me lazy and get a job, my mother would tell me to get out for some sunshine, now I'm in a nursing home.
I actually had a pain Dr tell me I was too young to hurt the way I claim I do. He said so without even looking in my file and checking my MRI and x-rays. Needless to say I got a new Dr and things have been going well the last few years
I asked for help at 17 as I was feeling unsafe from my Uncle as my parents were out of the country at the time. He told me "go find someone to help you with that" I am now 47 and haven't spoken to him in 8 yrs. It feels great to remove toxic people from your life.