Idk your age/gender but I’m a 27yr old woman, diagnosed with ADHD only 2 years ago, and this sounds painfully like what I was dealing with 5+ years ago, both with symptoms and my family. I had no idea these things could be ADHD symptoms, so I just thought I was a messy, procrastinating failure when things like this came up, even though I knew how much I wanted to do the things my parents thought I was blowing off. I’m still recovering from and unpacking the toxic ableism, but I just want you to know you’re not alone. Whether or not ADHD is the answer for you, you’re not a failure. You’re doing your very best, in a world that just isn’t built for people like us. Do what you can to just make it through one day at a time. Hopefully a diagnosis will come soon that will validate your struggles and get you some support but in the meantime, know that you’re doing enough, just making it day to day. Many people won’t understand how hard this is, but that’s not your fault. Sending kind thoughts, stranger-friend 💗

I've been diagnosed and struggling with adhd since at least 2005 (the earliest I remember taking meds) and I would say that's a very common symptom and you very likely do have adhd (still get diagnosed though to prove to people like your school that you need assistance). Drugs definitely do help and they're nothing to be afraid of because they are closely monitored and controlled by very smart people who know every aspect of whatever plant or something they make them from, but they're not and end all do all. Therapy helps, as does a social support system, mental health advocacy, family (it's hard for anyone to understand when they don't actually have it but they do care and try to help the way they know how) and friends. This app is also great for resources so feel free to post any questions about it here and people will reply with what helps them. Just know that people do care, they just can't possibly understand it on the same level. It would probably be like trying to explain how a blind person gets around to someone who can see. It's not echolocation but it's the closest thing we can understand. Vice versa with trying to explain color to a blind person. Find people who have it or have studied it to get answers that actually help you with a problem and pass that along to the people available to help you, like your parents, and explain when they don't understand and you feel misunderstood and guide them how best to guide you. I'm 28 and I struggle with the same thing getting my parents to help me remember things. My dad gets it but in a different way but my mom, even though she's super willing, just doesn't completely understand. And that's ok. It's hard for ND people like us to understand them either lol