Struggling to Cope: Dealing with a Recent Diagnosis

If you would like there is a website called lavenderhealth.com and they have free nurse navigators for people with breast cancer that set up 30 minute sessions to help you through your journey and talk things out

Oh ok thanks

A Nurse Navigator is an advocate for your care and helps you through the process.

I’ve heard that phrase before what exactly is a nurse navigator

I am trying my best to work through this day by day, I often sit sometimes and look up at the universe or whatever is up there and ask, why me? It sucks, I'd never wish cancer on my worst enemy. I do have a great group though of family and friends and have found a nurse navigator to help me through this all

Please find a good therapist. It really helped even if you just cry while you are with them. I watch my sister-in-law go through it and score if I ever bought it I would deal with it differently so far I am almost 5 years cancer free

Thank you so much and by the way it’s breast cancer. I don’t know your age but I am 63 will be 64 in May. I haven’t started my treatment yet but I’m supposed to go get a port I guess they do it just above your breast? I have a lot more to learn about this. I am like you I only go out for groceries anything else I need to buy I buy on Amazon or a clothing store or whatever the case may be and I am vexed but I have asthma, IBS, chronic kidney disease and now this damn cancer. I have been having good days too it’s just that every once in a while oh my mind just wanders off and I think to myself God I have cancer! How did this happen? Anyway I wish you have a good rest of your weekend. Thank you so much for all your kind words and may God be with you and keep you safe on your journey.

Listen, We are all in that mode sometimes. Its not all rainbows and butterflies in my mind either. I cry at the drop of a hat. I wonder if I should start writing on the back of pictures and other personal items who I want to them to go to after I am gone. I sit with cremation or burial? I beg creator not to let me die. But if I didn’t try to stay positive I would lose my mind. I chose to try and stay positive. Some days it works and others I do a lot of mind thinking. Some days are horrific and some are bearable. When they wanted me to start on the meds to eat whatever estrogen my body makes, it took me two months to be brave enough to take them because of the fear of having a reaction to it. I am also not vaxed so I stay at home and let no body in and I only go out for grocery shopping. I haven’t seen my daughter or grandsons in 2 years. Again, these are my choices. I don’t know what your cancer is or what you have/had to go through. We have no choice that we got cancer, but we do have a choice in how we deal with it. Tell your brain, its only a thought and you have no time for it to be negative. Post things around ur house about positivity. Make some things a mantra. Love yourself. Love the inner child that is scared. I hope this helps. ❤️🙏

Thank you I’m trying too stay positive but my mind wanders to what if….. and then I scare myself and feel miserable, then I get bad and say f**k this cancer I WILL be fine. Crazy!

I found a professional therapist who can help me through it. I had a lot of fear based issues and I had to work through them. Also, keeping a positive thought process helped. When a negative thought ran thru my mind, I would tell it to go…that it was just a thought. This then got my mind away from it and broke me from dwelling on it for a while. It is not easy but you have to do it. Hope this helps. ❤️