gerky03

168d

i could really use some advice. i moved to my city after i got sick, so i haven’t had much of a chance to get out and make friends. but then when i DO feel good, i get sad that i don’t have anyone (besides bf) to hang out with. i miss having girl friends. i’m pretty introverted and my chronic conditions make it impossible to join any kind of class or club that has a strict schedule. does anyone have any tips on how to make new friends? i really think it would help with my anxiety and depression too. thanks in advance :)

Fibromyalgia (FM)

Depression

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)

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  • tallgirl22

    168d

    I’ve seen a lot of people using Bumble BFF in situations like yours and it seems to be worth a shot if you’re open to it!

    • gerky03

      168d

      oh awesome, i’ve never heard of it! thank you <3

  • Leviross

    168d

    My social life exists only on Facebook. :/

    • gerky03

      168d

      definitely relate. the friends i do have, live like three hours away :/

      • Leviross

        168d

        my closest in state friend is about that far away too.

  • ginkgowink

    168d

    I definitely relate. Almost all of my friends have moved away so it’s basically just me and my husband now and it’s very hard trying to make new friends while chronically ill. So far this app has been nice jus to talk to some other people that get it! But I’d love to hear other people’s suggestions too.

  • EDSzebra

    167d

    Here to say that I’m in the same boat 🛶 it’s super hard to reliably get out and meet new people when you have a chronic illness. Wish I had something useful to say, other than I totally get it. 😌

  • Msgicheyaya

    166d

    Totally related I had a social life friends but then chronic illness happened. When I left my job due to disability all my friends went “POOF” I had even went to visit my old job a few times and everyone went crazy and was so happy to see me but when I left it was like I actually disappeared. Then my family yeah they went to being judgey and not wanting to understand what I was going thru then “Poof”. So it me my husband and my daughter who is older than 21. It’s hard when I use to go out like when I was younger clubs then older bars with friends to have beers and BS. To now never leaving my bedroom and not having anyone to confide in or even shoot the shit with. I had 2 best friends but they did me wrong in the past. I ended up going back to them because I had no one else. It’s been hard really really hard.

    • gerky03

      166d

      i completely get it. i got sick in the middle of my high school career and all of my friends eventually just stopped texting me bc they’d never see me. it wasn’t like i couldn’t have them over, but the fact that no one offered or asked to… was really sad. i spent like the first 9 months of being sick, watching youtube vloggers & living vicariously through them. i do still have a couple childhood friends, but they live rlly far away so it doesn’t feel like it. i HAVE met a few people who are more understanding about canceled plans bc im not feeling well, but eventually after you keep saying you can’t hang out, people just kinda forget about you and continue living their own lives as if you weren’t even there anymore. i have a few internet friends, but only one friend that lives in my city and it’s my bf lol

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