I’ve always had severe insomnia and Fibromyalgia, feet problems and joint pain..and my job makes it worse and when I get home my husband always wants to do it but every time I tell him how i feel he gets really disappointed I can see he’s being understanding but I know it gets hard for him I always feel so bad about it and sometimes I force myself I love him and I know he loves me but idk how to fix this..I just want to get better so we can do stuff together but I also would like if he wouldn’t get so disappointed it makes me feel a lot of pressure to do it..but I know if I tell him he will feel bad and not ask anymore..idk wht to do plz help..been stressing about this for 4 years now
i can relate. i have both medical and.mentsl.illnesses. my fiance has it worse. most days.im.left alone to suffer.my own issues. but it has taught me to be patient with him and understanding. im spiritual so its taught me to use.my faith and help myself. then whe .either one is strong enough we r there for each other. i hope this makes sense lol
I completely understand.. this has been something I’ve been struggling with since having fibromyalgia.. I really haven’t figured out how to get to better space with it but I try! Sometimes I do it just because I know I need to please him but i only do certain positions to where it’s not to much for me.. if it’s one of those days.. but when I’m at my best I show out !!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I also try to get as comfortable as I can.. nice bath to try to relax.. my essential oils, and hell also give me a massage before to try to help a little ..
I can relate. Men just will never understand what we struggle with every day. My bf gives me the same look, my health has been declining & in getting weaker & weaker. There may be something else the doctors haven't found. However yes, I agree I want my strength back too. I want to be able to do things together & normal fun activities. I love him & hate to see him disappointed. What I found helps is just being completely honest. Working in the right direction to heal myself & find small solutions that go a long way.
At the end of the day our job is to live our life, we can not please everyone around us all the time. We need our rest, just as they need their rest also. Just be honest down to the detail, get on the same page with it. It'll help. 🙏🏻
I’ve been honest with him and he understands but twice a week isn’t enough.. I tell him about pain and tiredness and he understands and everytime I tell him he tries understanding but he’s disappointed and hurt and it’s happened so often now tht he is giving up on the sex idea in general….he not blaming me but it just not wanting to keep being disappointed😭idk wht to do other then be honest with him or do twice and week..
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I’ve always had severe insomnia and Fibromyalgia, feet problems and joint pain..and my job makes it worse and when I get home my husband always wants to do it but every time I tell him how i feel he gets really disappointed I can see he’s being understanding but I know it gets hard for him I always feel so bad about it and sometimes I force myself I love him and I know he loves me but idk how to fix this..I just want to get better so we can do stuff together but I also would like if he wouldn’t get so disappointed it makes me feel a lot of pressure to do it..but I know if I tell him he will feel bad and not ask anymore..idk wht to do plz help..been stressing about this for 4 years now
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