One time I had a really bad flashback in the shower, and after I got out, I was shaking and I started to break down and cry. My mom heard me having a breakdown and asked me what was wrong as she was hugging me, so I told her that "I could feel his hands on me." She let me go and just told me "It's over, don't let it bother you. It happened four years ago. You should've gotten over it by now." I wanted to tell her that I still can't get over it, but she just turned and walked out.
Family like this is what I call "trauma ignorant." It can stem from them having not experienced a similar trauma or them being told what they now say. Either way, it's wrong and you didn't deserve to be treated like that. My trauma still affects me quite a lot. I didn't even begin processing my first SA situation until after my second SA, which was 3 years later. I'm more affected by some events than others, but nonetheless, there's no correct timeline for when you should be "over it." Somebody took away your safety in your own body. That's not okay and it takes time to heal from
You literally have endured a neurologically damaging event. Your brain is different to how it was before. You can't just get rid of that. I hope you find peace.
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One time I had a really bad flashback in the shower, and after I got out, I was shaking and I started to break down and cry.
My mom heard me having a breakdown and asked me what was wrong as she was hugging me, so I told her that "I could feel his hands on me."
She let me go and just told me "It's over, don't let it bother you. It happened four years ago. You should've gotten over it by now."
I wanted to tell her that I still can't get over it, but she just turned and walked out.
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