Struggling with a Traumatic Memory

You literally have endured a neurologically damaging event. Your brain is different to how it was before. You can't just get rid of that. I hope you find peace.

Family like this is what I call "trauma ignorant." It can stem from them having not experienced a similar trauma or them being told what they now say. Either way, it's wrong and you didn't deserve to be treated like that. My trauma still affects me quite a lot. I didn't even begin processing my first SA situation until after my second SA, which was 3 years later. I'm more affected by some events than others, but nonetheless, there's no correct timeline for when you should be "over it." Somebody took away your safety in your own body. That's not okay and it takes time to heal from