Struggling with a Nasty Wife

I feel like you need professional help from a couple therapist to resolve this, or turns to your parents and her parents to try to mend these problems. You can't keep going like this it's not healthy. I'm sure you can work it out if you do these things!

Dang, that really sucks! My husband and I went through a rough patch for about a year or so where he just didn't seem to be physically attracted to me. I had to initiate everything and was often turned down. He initially told me me it was because I nagged him too much about stuff in general. I worked really hard on myself to become kinder and more considerate of his feelings. He eventually agreed that I had been doing better and even tried Viagra. Fun fact: Viagra doesn't help much if the mind isn't interested. Things gradually got better, but I'm not sure what did it. But back to you, 30 years is a long time to deal with this. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.