Asoingberg

246d

I'm so tired of grieving over my ex. I love him so much but he was a scum and I'm tired of not being able to get over him. Everyone keeps telling me to take my time with grief but I can't. I just want to get over this. I'm tired of not being able to enjoy things anymore because the smallest things reminds me of him. I feel so weak.

Generalized pain

Flashbacks

Depression

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Rejection sensitive

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  • peeka

    246d

    You'll be 10x stronger once it's over, remember that. I'll be careful with what I say, but have hope that you're many steps closer to something better ? More strength, more knowledge, more power 💪 you will heal love!

    • Asoingberg

      246d

      thank you, and you're actually correct. I've been moving on a lot better from this ex compared to my other exes. I know that I'm suffering terribly right now but I hope to be okay one day. again, thank you for your comment

  • SweetTea77

    245d

    Sweet pea you're not grieving your ex you're grieving the person you're thought he was. Always remember that. Clearly the person you thought he was is actually who you want but life hit us with a lesson you weren't expecting. So take that lesson and grow with it. Establish, from this point on, what is acceptable and what isn't. Intertwine that life approach in that character you believed you had. Finally, hold your head up high and walk with confidence with your newly formed decision to expose yourself to only those you deem worthy. If you continue to grieve someone you haven't met yet and walk around looking down, you'll miss the person right in front of you that just might be your forever.

    • Asoingberg

      245d

      thank you so much for this. I try to keep this in mind but sometimes I forget. it is true that he really wasn't the person I thought he was, but when he was nice he treated me like I was someone special. I guess I miss that and the feeling I would get from it, not him.

  • Chicken_Mom

    245d

    You need to remember that you are your own happiness! Your happiness is NOT dependent on another person. You will learn to not put happiness in other people, but in yourself! You've probably done so much without them, and you need to remember that. That past partnership doesn't define you. You define yourself. You are capable of amazing things on your own, you don't need anybody! Keep growing ❤️

    • Asoingberg

      245d

      that's true yeah, but unfortunately I have attachment issues and all of that doesn't make it really easy for me. it is true though, that I've done a lot more after this break up and learned a better lesson, but sometimes the pain is unbearable. all in all, thank you for your comment, I'll keep that in mind

  • Sophia_Olivia

    245d

    I was in your same predicament a year ago. My ex cheated on me and the breakup was literally brutal - not to mention my great grandma died at the same time, I got Covid, and developed Visual Snow Syndrome (a condition that impairs your vision). Life was not looking too good for me. Right now I still suffer from this eye condition, I’m still sad about my grandma, but I am SO HAPPY about the breakup I went through. I just keep thinking how grateful I am that I removed myself from that toxic situation. Part of healing for me physically has been removing emotionally abusive people from my life. You CAN do this. You are not alone. Also fun fact: the day I finally discovered I was happy and not sad that we broke up a YEAR later, guess who texted me an apology out of the blue?? I guess life wasn’t working out too well for him, and he felt the need to say sorry. Things will never work out for toxic people, I promise.

    • Asoingberg

      244d

      I'm sorry you were going through so much, but I'm glad that you were feeling happy with the break up. thank you for your comment. i hope that one day i can heal from this situation

  • IndyMonkee13647

    244d

    I am touched by your post in a spiritual way honestly. My father is a piece of shit and I hope he dies and rots away in prison, but in the same breath, I love him so much. I am reminded of him in the stupidest smallest things and it hurts me all the time. I hate that I love him after what he had done to destroy my family. I’ve been trying to learn to accept that I can hate and love certain parts of him. I can love those times he made me feel on top of the world and I can hate all the shit he did to my family. Yesterday was the year mark since I learned of his crimes and he was taken away and not a single day has gone by that I don’t think of him. It hurts, there is a hole in my heart, but the best we can do is grieve how our mind wants to grieve. It is much much worse to hold back. You need to process all of this in the way that you want to authentically. If you want, my DMs are open. I would be really interested in talking to you about this stuff because I haven’t really found anyone that gets this yet. Much love and peace to you!!

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