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Listen.. it is literally impossible to not mean anything by saying you'll never be a good wife or mom with a condition that you have. That had a very clear meaning... That because as struggle you deal with she doesn't believe you're capable of being good at the two most important roles of a woman's life. She said this to hurt you. And it worked. And.. I am sorry that people exist that would do or say such things. I don't know you or anything but please don't allow what she said to burden you anymore because it isn't true. The terrible things people say about us are always false unless we allow them to be true... Mother in laws, right? Lol. Just kidding.

In many ways, depression will make you a better mother and wife. You'll have a higher degree of empathy when your partner and children come to you with depressed moods. You'll be more understanding of mental health days and kinder when they occur. You'll know so many coping strategies by then that when your children come to you with similar issues, you'll be able to actually help them and save them ten years of struggle and therapy (and if they still struggle and still need therapy after that, they'll still be ahead of those whose mothers told them to get over it or that it's all in their head.) Depression is hard. It's hard to be a good anything to anyone with depression. And you know what? Being a wife and mother is hard as hell already. You'll make mistakes, and depression will cause some of them. But you know what you'll never be? You'll never be as cruel as your partner's mother. As insensitive. As apathetic. You'll do just fine.