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PurplePenguinsPolka

506d

Need some people to talk to who understand what it's like to be really overweight. I feel alone a lot if the times. anyone else out there?

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    • Lexi27

      151d

      I totally relate I'm the heaviest I've ever been at just over 27st I felt such a shame but am working towards getting healthy and loosing weight and if we all got eachother then we can all give eachother support

    • Lexi27

      151d

      I totally relate I'm the heaviest I've ever been at just over 27st I felt such a shame but am working towards getting healthy and loosing weight and if we all got eachother then we can all give eachother support

    • Suzy77

      151d

      Oh I heavens I understand that completely. There are times when I can be in a room full of people family members and feel like I'm the only person there. People tend to think that when you're a super size plus size that you're not smart enough to get into conversations. They also feel they have the right to say whatever they want about you and I don't know how it anymore I'm currently heading towards 65 and I've been plus size since I was eight. I know no longer let people talk down to me or about me in front of me. I would be very happy to talk with you

    • seedling

      505d

      Hi! I am a human existing in a fat body. I won't give numbers or clothing sizes because those things don't matter but I can relate to "really overweight". Though I also find the term overweight to be problematic. I've done a ton of work the past several years on dismantling internalized fat phobia and my advice for anyone here struggling with this issue is to do the same. I still struggle with body image but when it comes to making changes in my life I orient myself toward my health not my weight or size. Which, when you choose to take this path, you'll learn that weight has nothing to do with health. I've created these rules for myself on social media that help a shit ton: 1) follow people that look like me 2) unfollow anyone promoting diet culture or body shaming (even people who look like me do that sometimes like in this thread) Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about this more, it's something I am very passionate about.

    • IndigoBro

      505d

      One idea is to find an online support group specifically for others who have had the same surgery!! My partner did the gastric bypass almost 2 years ago, and even though she kind of hates going to support group, I know she also appreciates having a place to talk about with people who at least somewhat get it, because she still joins every month.

    • PurplePenguinsPolka

      505d

      I really appreciate the comments here friends! In full disclosure I'll give a little about my story. At my heaviest I was 506lbs. I've had major weight loss surgery, to remove parts of organs to help me. I've been on diets and worked out regularly. Right now I'm at about 390lbs. Though I do feel better I know I have a long way to go. It's been 3 years since my surgery and I'm struggling to get back to eating well, while balancing mental health and work/life.

      • seedling

        505d

        @PurplePenguinsPolka I hope I wasn't being insensitive with my original comment. You've been on a really long journey. I'm sure we all relate to that but yours is unique to you and your struggle is valid.

      • IndigoBro

        505d

        @PurplePenguinsPolka that’s a lot of change in only a few years!! Sometimes I feel like we get our sights stuck on a goal or a prescribed trajectory we forget to see how far we’ve come. Weight loss surgery is very drastic life change, and can fundamentally alter your relationship with food. Adding on to that rapid weight loss and a bunch of expectations, I almost see the experience as a trauma to process. My partner tells me that her body dysphoria got so much worse after she started losing weight. It’s so complicated.

    • Lexi97

      505d

      I can relate ✋ I’ve lost 35 pounds so far but it’s def been a struggle. I need to lose about 150lbs total

    • Pixie88

      506d

      I’m a size 26 and come from a family of big woman. It took me a long time to accept my body and to dress how I want to but I slowly got there. Always here if you a need friend x

    • poodlelover28

      506d

      I can relate I'm a 320lbs 5'3 woman

    • Jennynicole345

      506d

      I’m in the same boat as you ladies I went from being a size 16 in high school and after I’ve fluctuated weight from being a size 18. I’m a size 20-22 right now. I weigh about 280 right now and it’s the heaviest I’ve ever been. I’m trying to get back to weighing 230 and under. So you’re not alone in this. Feel free to reach out to me if you need to talk.

    • Damber

      506d

      I suffer from being overweight too. But my cardiologist actually recommended nd referred me to a medical weight loss doctor so I'll take meds instead of the surgery to lose weight. I hate my body I feel gross in it. But I can't physically exercise because I'm so big nd can't walk or stand long distances. 😕 but my boyfriend says he loves my body. But I jus can't love it. I wanna be healthier.

    • Jennytheb

      506d

      Yes, I've struggled with binge eating disorder my whole life. So many of my thoughts are about self hatred because of it. It feels like I can't stop. It's hard to stop addictions when you're so extremely depressed.

      • seedling

        505d

        @Jennytheb I also struggle with binge eating. And have my whole life. I think my self hatred has more to do with this behavior than it does my weight or body type. It's the shame of hiding and obsessing about food.

    • goronkiss

      506d

      I gained about 80 lbs in less than one year and lived as "obese" for a decade. I recently lost most of that weight due to health issues killing my appetite(for 6+ months). Feel free to chat with me anytime.

    • Shaz_8

      506d

      I can relate, I went from a size 12-14 to a size 22. I hate how my body makes me feel so uncomfortable and iv lost my confidence. Iv tried every diet going as well as exercise and always end up back at square one if I have a fibromyalgia flare up. I'm dreading summer coming it's when I feel my worst!

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