Well now that you yhis is a thing. You Have to give someone you can establish this with fron the start or start of more than just friends happening. I have a friend I met about two weeks ago and we have talked about keeping it slow and really get to know each other. Spending a good whike messaging and chatting. Then eventually hang ut and see how it feels in person. And if that goes well and we still like each other take it nice and slow with actual dates but not dating. It is all about communication and establishing your boundaries and staing your comfort level. Ther eis nothing wrong with wanting to take things slow. Maybe you can try to find a friend you can like be sorta romantic with and do things to fill in that intimate but your not actually romantic. I have a few friends like that where we cna just say ir do whatever we want but we aren't dating and don't we get lovey mushy and if we do it's like "I love you as s friend" or "your such an amazing friend"

For me its fear. I don't wanna fall victim to another abusive narcissist. I too lose it fast. Because they want something when I say slow they think it means let's go. I wanna find something real this time so I'm told I am very cold and picky. I have a right to be. Take her slow and go with your gut. 100% of the time it's right.