for me, it's a day-to-day evaluation of what i need most for my mental health. somedays i just cannot get out of bed and know that if i step outside to meet people, i will black out on the sidewalk from exhaustion. other days i know i need to invest time into the people who care about me and give back to the relationship so that we grow closer. there's no spcific ratio of how many alone days to how many social days you should have, but i think being in tune with what you need should be at least a good starting point. i think it's also good to not think in absolutes. you don't have to make hours-long plans to be a good friend. just being intentional about asking how they're doing or even sending a funny meme you wanted them to see signals you value the relationship and want to be present in their life. small things go a long way :>

I understand completely....bcuz my hubby & son work...I spend alot of time alone..I think I've got to point that's all I want to do, be alone