Struggling to create a family

In the last 10 years I've lost both parents, my grandparents who helped raise me, aunts and uncles... I lived with friends for 2 years after I couldn't keep a job that was causing panic attacks. Even so .. those friends used my husband and I and my teenager pretty hard, and were either emotionally or financially abusive. 800 dollars to use part of a bedroom, the guest bath, and a mini fridge. The other have my teenager so much trauma before we decided we'd rather live out of our car. It's complicated. Anyway, a work friend recommended and then hired me on at a decent paying job where I'm not on my feet all day. I'll be there for 3 years in September. We have a great big condo apartment and a newish car. We are doing okay. I just keep waiting for something bad to happen because we have no backup, no safety net. I'm now the safety net for our kids, but we don't have one ourselves. It scares me.

It doesn't bother me that I don't have family, blood family that is, cause I never really had that most of my life. But I would love to have some kind of family. Even my 'work uncle' , he's quite old too, has even nicely hit on me and asked me out. I had to politely deny him but ugh... everyone I know IRL are 😤

That's what I'm hoping for but I can't find a good guy. They all just want sex and be done with you. I'm soo sick of players. I thought by the time I got to this age... men would be more like men and actually know how to treat a woman but I guess I'm just s.o.l. I'm trying to keep my head up and hope I find the perfect someone soon. Dating apps too just seem like sex apps 😒 I've tried a few before.

I know this isn't the same but I have very minimal blood relatives, the only people I truly consider to be my 'family' are only related to me through marriage. I've learned over the years that anyone can be your family, but it takes time to build that strong relationship and familial bond, the biggest obstacle always being trust. It took my 'family' years to accept me into their lives and trust me like a blood relative would, but eventually I earned their trust. I hope that you may build your own family in the way that I have, it takes time and it's always hard trusting people on that level, but once you open your trust it becomes much easier to connect with people in that sense.

I do really much enjoy it in here. I don't do social media because of all the negativity. It's kinda hard to make any kind of family when I can't find any good people. I was seriously used and abused by everyone I know. Technically my kid too. I never just get a thanks mom or I love you. No hugs and kisses unless I take them... 😥😒 Grown kids and sucky people. She's only 12. I did want to be around my dad any way @ that age. My mom was very abusive. She's even told me very young that she never wanted another kid. She loved and treated my older sister with love and respect, not me by far.

Sometimes we just need someone to talk to and I have found this platform cool no matter if it's pain related or anxiety which some goes hand and hand. We here for ya!

👋 My Dad passed away a couple of months ago and since then I've had a few more family members pass away as well but I'm also homeless and currently unemployed/dealing with medical issues. My mom and siblings aren't on good terms with me. I also want a family but my boyfriend and I got into a big argument and aren't speaking to each other. As far as manifesting a family for yourself, do you have any doubts behind it happening soon? It may be the universe protecting you from something as far as timing. I know we want things when we want them and are patient but sometimes there are things above us looking out for our situation if that makes sense. Nonetheless you're strong you got this 💪🏼💕

I am not in the same spot as you, but I do understand wanting a family. I found a friend who I became close with and his family took me in for a while. But I did have to put up with being used though in order to have the family. Then when the it all got too much and I found a partner that told me I was worth more I ended up moving and leaving that family I had. I miss them all the time and wonder how they are doing. It's hard to find those people who really care about you. Just keep trying. You will get there one day. You will make your own family one day