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I'm trying to change my relationship with food. my has become a big health risk. Has anyone trying to change had there spouse try and tell them or restrict them on what they can can't have or should or shouldn't have? I know it comes from a good place but it's a bit annoying.
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And when u start fasting , your stomach gets smaller... so you will eat lighter at your 4-6 hr window naturally. So eat what u want first then slowly each day your body will only want less to fill up. So u lose weight faster later.
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I second on the intermediate fasting. That way you can eat what u like for a 4-6 hr window. And as for your husband, just let him know that u have a plan and u are working on it. To let u be and u will get to your goal at your own pace. Don't give up! Slow progress is progress.
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I'm really bad about emotional eating. My therapist had me sit down and go through every bit of my life as far back as I can remember and we found the root cause. Essentially it was due to something during my childhood, so I grew up with it and didn't know any better. So she taught me to work on identifying why I feel hungry, if I am actually hungry then yeah, I need to eat something. If it's an emotion (like just feeling hungry even though you just ate) then I need to identify that emotion and deal with it with something else. For the longest time I thought my eating was just physical, it took probably two or three sessions of therapy to really understand that hungry could be an emotion
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I think that I am stubborn about people telling me what to do. I found that intermittent fasting works for me. I lost 48 lbs and my knees don't hurt as bad. I'm not a big eater, I just nibbled all day. My kryptonites are bread, fried foods and gummies.
@MikkiSag oh the gummies are mine. How do you combat that?
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@Lygia I don't, but I eat a cup of gummies per day.
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I need to loose 100 pounds. I love my carbs like pasta and rice and baked potatoes. Also love junk food like ice cream and chips. Any one have any advice on how to kick those cravings?
Every once in a while there has been a comment here and there about him not being able to buy himself ice cream because of me not being able to control myself around it. But usually I have the opposite problem, he will sometimes pack the house with treats or buy me surprises because he wanted something and felt he would hurt my feelings if he did not get me something.
@Ptrust my husband has the ice cream issue. I have to limit the snacks or treats I'll eat them if they're in the house.
Him and I talked and I said something about it. He of course had no idea that he was doing anything to be discouraging. He is gonna try hard to pick his words more carefully. He really is my biggest cheerleader.
@Lygia and sometimes I don't think they are aware. Glad thr chat helped!!! ❤️
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Last night is a good example of how we balance out though. He's sugar has been messed up the last few days. So he asked me to get him fruit for work. And to not bring him sweet snacks even if he asks.
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I feel like if my husband did this even if I instructed him to, it would make me self conscious or resentful to him.
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I don't have him be in charge of my eating habits (it's not his responsibility) BUT I do ask for his support. I tell him my goals/plan and he helps hold me accountable. So does my son. When I was cutting back soda I set a limit and told them it and if I asked for one or my son saw me grab one he'd ask how many I had had that day. It helps having someone hold you accountable but they are not responsible for your choices and you still gotta learn to make the choices yourself. It's hard, definitely.
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@Twallius I'm glad to have him help be a voice of reason. But I don't want to be made to feel like crap over a craving or slip up.
@Lygia I understand that but you need to remember that having something "you shouldn't" once in awhile isn't going to mess up everything. When I had lost a good amount of weight in 2020, I didn't diet I just focused on portions and replacing the less healthy items (like soda). But telling yourself you CANT have something makes you want it more than realizing you CAN but you're choosing not too. Then, on occasion you can just don't over do it. You got this!
It's about setting boundaries. If you're not okay with comments your partner makes, you need to communicate that. Bring it up at a time when your not discussing food and he just made one of those comments. I went through this with my partner when I was working with a health coach. Explain why those comments aren't helpful and try to communicate why you are choosing to go on this health journey.
Yes it has happened to me I was trying to carb count and he would say you can't do this you shouldn't do that this has this many calories or fat content even though I would explain I was counting carbs not calories and fat I lost almost 100 lbs by carb counting and he said he didn't see a difference in my weight he would call me fat lazy slob all kinds of names obviously he was verbally abusive then had leg amputated and became physically abusive as well so I am out of that relationship but now we are really good friends I guess we were meant to be friends not lovers he treats as a human being now he is happy that I am now with someone that cares for and about me and kicks himself in the butt bout not realizing what he was doing before he lost me cause I warned him several times but the point is is don't let your significant other put you down or make you feel bad for doing what is good for you and your health you got this
My partner tries to get us to eat homemade food rather than eating out or out of a box, which is healthier. He also encourages me to not eat late at night, so I'm actually trying intermittent fasting right now. The biggest change for me was portion control. I started taking a med combo appetite suppressant of wellbutrin and naltrexone over a year ago and it's helped me lose over 50 lbs now. I still eat the foods I want, I just eat smaller portions and don't have the uncontrollable cravings I used to. I also try to not bring junk food I to my home and only eat sweets and treats when I'm out of the house.
@klazikel I am working on portion control, I'm working on keeping foods out of the house that are bad. Making better choices when we do go out. It's just a slow road.
@Lygia I know about slow. It takes alot of time to change bad habits and take on good ones. I believe in you, you can do it! Just hang in there and be kind and forgiving to yourself. Little slip ups aren't the end of the world, just an opportunity to reevaluate your progress. Food is the hardest addiction to face because you can't quit it. Over time your body will reward you for eating healthier by feeling and functioning better. Just give yourself some grace and enjoy what makes you happy, in small less frequent doses. I wish you the best.😁
I late night snack too. I don't sleep well plus one of my meds make you crave food. I've been trying to keep fruit around and not allowing myself to go to the jiffy store at night. But right it makes you feel like your being scolded. They love us but not necessarily the best way to help.
@Lygia I just want them to eat healthy with me and say nicely hey I think your good or something idk. I want help cause I want to get better but in the right way
@Chesbro99 exactly positive thoughts and encouragement. If they understand how important it was at the beginning
I need to stop eating when I'm lonely and at night. So I get it. My BF tries and tells me not to eat too much or I shouldn't have sweets and it bothers me too, makes me feel like a kid. I know he means well too.
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