Feeling Tormented and Paranoid Beyond Reason

I'm not trying to diminish your feelings at all. Simply, I want to ease the distress they're causing, ok? My question is, how do you know what he was thinking? Or what his intentions were? He could have bad intent. But he could also be harmless. Much easier said than done. But even if you take away a little of the power these intrusive thoughts have over you, it will ease the suffering even if it's just slightly. I deal with intrusive thoughts quite literally moment by moment. And I know from experience how absolutely draining, destructive, and defeating they can and will be. Especially when it comes to fearing males. I'm a male myself. A big guy at that. And the intrusive thoughts can stop me in my tracks at times. But I challenge myself to stay vigilant, of course, but to also remind myself I can't read minds. I can not predict the future. And I do not know anyone's intent. Please be gentle on yourself ok? You deserve peace

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💔 I went through something similar with my ex. Have you considered talking to the police about it? They may not do much, but it might make you feel a little more safe if they know. The only other advice I can give is to let anyone you know, know about the situation. Stalking in any capacity is really scary and I really feel for you, from my experience they may be trying to intimidate you. If he has been abusive, physically, mentally etc, I would suggest telling a counsellor or the gp if you have one, and making sure people know where you are when you go out and send your location if it makes you feel safer. Maybe even tell the police that you want someone to be aware of your address in case they show up (hopefully the won’t). It definitely sounds like harassment to me, I really hope you’re ok!!