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Blocked my ex, feeling overwhelmed with BPD and ADHD

FiammaKitsune

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I blocked my ex yesterday. We had broken up and we tried to stay friends, but he kept hurting my feelings and sabotaging things. So I told him to go away and leave me alone. I'm turning 38 this month and he said he didn't know when my bday was. That he didn't care. I don't think he meant that because he kept calling me back and asked if this is what I want. It all just too much on top of BPD (which probably means I don't belong in romantic relationships) and ADHD (which I suspect I have and have yet to get help for).

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    • Glockensphele

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      @FiammaKitsune I’m also sorry you are going through this 😕 It’s hard when you feel alone with BPD. I keep convincing myself it’s better to be in a bad situation than being alone (which I know deep down is untrue) Last time we broke up (lol) I felt great pretty quickly! That lasted a few months. Then inevitably I caved in and we fall back in love. For me it’s so hard to stay consistent even when I know what’s best for me. So proud you fully blocked him! It’s hard. But it will keep ur decision consistent!

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    • FiammaKitsune

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      I hope you find the will power to let them go. When he calls me that's when I cave in, so I delayed the blocking for a while. Since we have been officially separated since March, I put away everything and anything that reminded me of him. Anytime I thought of him, I'd cry it out until I was relieved....I was also doing trying to do more things that I like....that also helped. Going out and people being nice to me was also something that soothed my pain and showed me that love comes in all forms. ....not just from the opposite sex. I've honestly never felt comfortable in romantic dynamics. I can love someone and fall in love, but I find it hard to select the right men and trust them. I don't understand how I'm worse than people who have bigger issues and yet they have a partner. That boggles my mind. However, it's probably me being at fault. Idk girl .....I just know that..... regardless of how much I love him.....he does not and I don't want to live a lie.

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    • Glockensphele

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      Been off and on with an ex for over 2 years. He really love bombs me and says things that get me back in the state of wanting to be with him. And every time there is a thing he does after I put down my guard that DEVASTATES me. Put down the guard a few weeks ago and today he told me he’s gonna sleep with people while he’s traveling for the next month. (Have been told for months he loves me and that I am satisfying his needs). Keep cutting him out of my life. Then inevitably regretting it when I have a bad day. We fall back in love. Then I get hurt again (usually cheating)

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      • FiammaKitsune

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        @Glockensphele I'm so sorry you're going through that. I had to block him on everything this time around. I know he cares on some level, but he's definitely not in love with me. He says he knew this is how he felt early on... anyway, this is not the kind of Romantic experience I want at this point in my life. Id rather stay single for the rest of my life. I feel sick in my stomach since it's so recent, it was last night...but I know that it goes away with time and distance. I need to not see him.

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        • Glockensphele

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          @FiammaKitsune I’m also sorry you are going through this 😕 It’s hard when you feel alone with BPD. I keep convincing myself it’s better to be in a bad situation than being alone (which I know deep down is untrue) Last time we broke up (lol) I felt great pretty quickly! That lasted a few months. Then inevitably I caved in and we fall back in love. For me it’s so hard to stay consistent even when I know what’s best for me. So proud you fully blocked him! It’s hard. But it will keep ur decision consistent!

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