Feeling Rejected Despite Giving In: Is It Just Me?

Whether you fight back or not, it is abuse! That is abuse either way. And denying your needs and making you feel bad for having them is emotional abuse. I'm so sorry this is your situation. you deserve someone that respects you and loves you the same way you love them. That is not love, that is control and manipulation.

Yes! I have admitted I've had sex with alot if people because I know what happens once you say no over and over. You learn it's easier to sacrifice your boundaries. This is where self love comes in and honestly this is my biggest struggle in life too. We need to love ourselves enough to care about what we want and need. It's alot of work but I believe it will be worth it♡

What is happening to you is definitely not okay and your feelings are completely valid in feeling trapped into going along with it. It sounds like you care about this person a lot, but they seem to be taking advantage of you and heavily manipulating the situation. I've been in a similar boat (before I realized I was on the asexual spectrum), but even having a partner who wanted to do what they could to make me enjoy it I still felt obligated and like I wasn't allowed to say no. In a situation like yours where it sounds like there is no care from your partner towards your experience, I can tell you that it is absolutely not okay for your partner to treat you that way. Your depression might be stemming from many things, but giving in just because you feel obliged is only making it worse because you feel actively trapped. It's hard to come to terms with, but if they don't care about your needs and comfort during intimacy they don't really care about you as an individual. The way you feel is part of who you are and someone who is right for you will understand that. Hope you get through this hard time 💜

I had a long talk with my husband about this. I have a long history of being abused. He knows everything now. I left nothing out. My drive fluctuates CONSTANTLY. We came to a conclusion that we both need to communicate better. He asks, and if I say no, he respects that and then goes to take care of himself. He said he may be upset, but he will let over it. It's ok for your partner to be upset if they don't get what they want. But they have to learn to let it go. If you're partner is not willing to come to an agreement or they do not respect your decision, you should not be with them. And if you're scared to be alone, it's better to be alone with yourself, than to endure abuse.

Please don’t feel stupid because you are not! You have every right to say no and not feel bad about it. I had to learn this but we are all here for you we must stick together as women!i I have given in so many times when I didn’t want to which left me feeling so violated. I’m healing now and I’m always here to talk