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So does anyone feel like their in an endless loop on trying to love yourself through the mental health journey? why is it so hard to find love I'm yourself when all you wanna do is be love, give love and be loved?
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
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@TraumaHarley most public libraries have books that might help (for free!) and online you can find some good therapy workbook pages too!
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Yes and for the third time in a row I got played by someone who claimed to want to love me but then left immediately it’s so hard to love myself when no one else seems to
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I still have this struggle to be honest. I feel the sameeeee exact way
Sweet pea I grew up with a day that said you are the only person you can rely on. Moms taught me to take care of the house and my person. Combine that with independent single mom and take care of your life as well as show compassion for those struggling around you. It's difficult I know.... Trust that. But daddy was right. I can rely on me. Because I know I will be there for me
It’s hard to find love for yourself when you’re hard on yourself, and it seems to be a pattern that those with mental illnesses are particularly hard on themselves. It’s not bad to be hard on yourself, but it’s detrimental when small things are able to affect you a lot like you mentioned in your comment. It’s VERY hard to break those thought patterns, but it’s essential to learn to give yourself some grace. Not everything is going to go perfectly all the time, and no one is perfect, so take it step by step in trying to give yourself some grace. I wish I had some kind of advice on how to give yourself more grace, but I’m still struggling with it myself.
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@jipperoni idk who you are, but I love you. I literally justade my son Oat meal, and the cup over flowed, I was so upset, it's not only my Birthday but like why did something so little like that have to happen?, I was on such a good flow and I was happy and then that happen and something else happen and now I just want today to be over, cus like why can't life just flow? I will genuinely keep this in mind, any ideas on how to break a track in your head to have this loop in-between mental discs?
@TraumaHarley First of all, happy birthday!! I hope the rest of it is just as great as it should be since you deserve a nice birthday :) For most circumstances for me, I make sure I remind myself that I can only truly “control” about 10-20% of what happens in my life. The rest of it??? It just happens. All you can do is put in your 10-20%, and hope for the best in the outcomes of that 10-20%. For the case of the oatmeal, you did what you could! You put the oats and presumably water or milk in, and prepared it. That’s your 10-20%. It overflowed, and that’s okay. Maybe you lose a little bit of the oatmeal, sure, but you can’t hold a grudge against yourself for doing your part in preparing oatmeal and something coming out of the blue. It sucks, of course, to not feel like you’re able to control it not overflowing. You can take precautions, but that doesn’t mean it will NEVER overflow. And you didn’t specifically and consciously make the oatmeal overflow (hopefully!), so why do you hold it against yourself that you somehow did..? Those are the thoughts you can try to populate your mind with when you feel hard on yourself, and sometimes it’s harder than others to push away those detrimental thoughts, but to even try to remind yourself that you’re not in complete control of everything around you, you can give yourself a little bit of grace.
I don't have money for books. So you get to do way more than me. All I have is myself TBH.
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THE HARDEST, especially cus I genuinely never know how to feel any given second cus there is souch that effects me cus I'm like high strung on the slightest details. So if someone sighs the wrong way I'm like what did I do 🥺🥺😭😭 when in reality it was cus they were sitting wrong or adjusting the seat or getting up. Or their tone was a bit harsh or blah blah blah. I constantly feel like I'm doing something wrong. And when I try to pep talk myself it's hard, I like laugh at myself cus it's like who am I kidding, right?
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