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hydroepilepic21

388d

is it really unrealistic to ask to talk to a perfessonal or not? My mom is making up excuses like they are still trying to catch up from the pandemic, but... are they really? wouldn't they be caught up by now? I get the feeling from her she just wants me to tell her everything, but... what if I don't want to because some of it is about my parents.

    • dolphinblues

      387d

      Asking to talk to a professional is definitely not unreasonable! You are reaching out to your parents, telling them that you are struggling. That is huge! It can be scary and overwhelming to admit that to anyone, especially your parents. I don't know you, but I am proud of you for doing that! There are a lot of reasons they will give for not letting you. Don't let them discourage you. Keep advocating for yourself. Keep asking for it. As Phy201 said, you may need to find a counselor/psychologist on your own. Look up ones in your area, they should have lists of insurance they accept on their website. Check to see if they do tele-visits. Some do a sliding fee scale for sessions, which could be cheaper than using your insurance, depending on your parent's current income. It can be overwhelming when looking for a new Dr. But doing it yourself and presenting the options you find to your parents may help them take you seriously. I wish you luck! You deserve to be heard and given the chance to talk to a professional. đŸ€—

      • hydroepilepic21

        387d

        @dolphinblues I don't know, my friend gave me the name of a place that does in person and tela doc type ones, my dad works for the state of mn, I dont know what the insurance there covers for mental health visits.

        • dolphinblues

          387d

          @hydroepilepic21 state insurance usually has decent coverage for mental health, especially since the pandemic. Because you're on their insurance, there isn't much you can do without their cooperation. Therefore, I would encourage you to enlist help from close friends and have an intervention-type of thing with your parents. You and your friends ask for a set time to talk without interruptions. Your friends are there for your emotional support. Take that opportunity to tell them how important this is to you. Write down key points that you want to express beforehand and keep them with you. Tell them you understand things are tight right now, but you also need help right now. As scary as it is to speak up about this, you need to be honest with them about how much you truly need this. It's not something you are simply wanting. It's something you need for your emotional and mental health. Hopefully, after an earnest and heartfelt plea with them, they will work with you to find a treatment option. I wish you the best! Prayers you can find a counselor soon. đŸ«‚

    • Phy201

      388d

      Your request is not unreasonable. There are many reasons she may be reluctant to get you the help you need so i won't try to guess. Taking as much of the process of finding a therapist that takes your insurance on yourself is a huge pressure but also very empowering. I'm sorry you are in this situation, but it sounds like you are going to have to be your own advocate.

      • hydroepilepic21

        388d

        @Phy201 ok, thx

    • Seae

      388d

      It’s not unrealistic at all. I had telehealth visits (video chat, which was terrifying me at first, but we’ve discovered actually works better for me than in office visits), with my psychologist through the pandemic. It wouldn’t have been the best time to try to find a new therapist/counselor/psychologist, but I know people that did. Now? If her only reasoning is because they’re “too busy,” I call bullsh*t. Also, too busy for what? Your mental health isn’t any less important than someone who’s been seeing a professional for years. I’m not sure of the best way to convince her because my parents were the ones who took the initiative and found me my first psychologist because I was waaay out of it, severely depressed and self harming, and generally in a tailspin. Maybe keep talking to her about some things, ones you’re comfortable talking to her about, or even ask for help or her opinion on something in the same conversation you request to see a professional again? Show her that this isn’t you shutting her out, you’re still going to talk to her? Maybe a school counselor could write a note saying they feel you would benefit from it?

      • hydroepilepic21

        388d

        @Seae I don't know either.

    • Quillathe

      388d

      Well maybe try a telledoc that way she can't use the pandemic as an excuse.

      • hydroepilepic21

        388d

        @Quillathe she still has an excuse of I don't know if our insurance will cover because my friend suggested someone out of 2 towns I'm in between, this place also does tela doc like calls also, and she said I don't know if our insurance will cover.

        • Quillathe

          388d

          @hydroepilepic21 If you know your insurance if you find docs you might want to work with you can always try looking at their website or calling to find out which insurance they take that way she can't say no to that too

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