Why Can't I Stay Attracted to Good People?

I’m going to elaborate on @Gingeralamode’s idea. Try to think of all the ways you have felt abandoned in your life. Maybe one or both of your parents were emotionally unavailable? Statistically, past generations were programmed to hide emotions and bury everything inside. Maybe your dog died and you felt abandonment. For me my father died when he was 25 and I was 3. That surely had something to do with some of my issues. It was really hard for my mom to be emotionally available because of her trauma (many different reasons) these kinds of things could have different effects on let’s say you or me. For me it would be more of a codependency thing or in your case you may tend to push people away or your brain shuts off the emotional connection out of fear of future rejection. Better to reject than to be rejected 🤷🏽 anyway all just theories. Another theory is you just haven’t met the right person and you’re just not compatible. Relationships do take some work beyond the “honeymoon” phase though so…if one or both of you find the relationship to fall stagnant that could mean it’s time to put some effort into keeping things interesting. There are a lot of recourses on the internet on ways to spice things up. Good luck! 😊

It could be from abandonment trauma, or it could also be just your romantic orientation in general. Just be gentle with yourself about it while you navigate and process through it :)