Feeling Lost and Alone

I can tell you from experience it’s not easy being in either side of this situation. Just wanting support and having people tell you you’re being dramatic or feeling sorry for yourself is terrible, but I’m not proud to admit I’ve also been the person on the other side who had to cut people off because I could no longer handle them offloading any of their stress onto me. Granted, these were people I hadn’t known for long, not close friends, so I had to accept that they were not my responsibility and recognize the negative impact being around them was having on me, and I needed to take time to focus on my own mental health. From what you said, this doesn’t sound like what your friend is doing and I already feel angry at her for saying what she said to you, but you know her better than me and I like giving people the benefit of the doubt, so maybe my story could shed some light on her perspective? Just don’t feel bad for “feeling sorry for yourself.” It’s okay to hurt, and if you feel bad for that it turns into a never ending cycle. Accept your pain even if the people around you can’t accept it. (And like others said, there are always people on this app who will be willing to listen without judgement~)

Your feelings are real. If you are “feeling sorry for yourself” it’s because you’re hurting. For whatever reason, that is important, that needs to be acknowledged. Even though the people in your life aren’t willing to acknowledge it right now doesn’t mean it’s not important. They just may not have the capability to discuss it. I know that’s not a perfect answer. I’ve been in similar situations to this in the past. It’s not your fault that they aren’t able to empathize with you. If you need someone else to shoulder your burdens there’s lots of people on this app, including me, that are willing to talk to you without making you feel guilty. <3