Tiyanna

182d

I've recently became a stay at home mom; and things have been really depressing for me lately. simply because, I'm not able to go out and I haven't been allowed any breaks away from my 4 kids (ages 2twins, 8, and 4 months) 😪 My husband works everyday of the week except for 2 days and he goes out with his friends every weekend while I'm stuck hone every day all day with our kids and his step daughter. We've just moved to a new town and I don't actually have any friends to go and hang out with even if I was to be allowed a break😔. All I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced any of this and how to cope with it all? I really just want a good best friend that I can go out and have some girl time with away fra the kids once a week. Lately I've been vaping/smoking CBD more and more inorder to cope with what I'm going through. PLEASE any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Low Mood

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • Jackstoneridge

    182d

    You aren't alone... I am a stay at home dad because of health issues... deal with the same things... your partner needs to give you a break. Being stuck in kid world is mentally and physically draining.

    • Tiyanna

      182d

      👍 it really is. Thank you for you're comment, tbh I was feeling as if I was the ONLY one that felt this way🤦🏽‍♀️. Also I've mentioned to my husband how I'd like to have a break,yet his reply was "whenever my mom finishes her spare room the twins can stay a few nights with her, the baby can spend the night with my Granny, but you may have to only be out a few hours because who will watch your daughter if her grandparents don't get her" I've bee. Stuck inside for weeks and if I do go out I'm going to the trash or going to our hometown with him and the kids

  • Tiyanna

    182d

    I honestly I feel stuck and sometimes feel as if I'm going crazy. With all the 3 little kids whinging and yelling half of the day 😪...I don't feel my husband fully understands how desperate I need a break.

  • Tiyanna

    182d

    Also I tend to get mad at my husband from time to time because he does get his breaks, I'm not even really allowed to drive our new car to the store for anything. Am I wrong for getting mad at my spouse, im don't honestly get mad to easily? But this has me going crazy, I'm used to working and I felt like that at least was my break from the kids

    • Bonbon2u

      181d

      I feel so bad for you. Your husband seems to think of only himself. And yet, when you mention you want to go out, he tells you how you are going to do it. Maybe tell him, how he should NOT go out on the weekends, and instead do things with his Family on the weekends.

  • Mercadez

    182d

    Speak with your partner that you need at least an hour or 2 each week to yourself, also recommend you find a hobby you can get away to

    • Tiyanna

      182d

      I can't speak with my parents I'm the black sheep of my family 😔 my little sister is the favorite

    • Tiyanna

      182d

      also I'm about to start going to school online for medical assistant and I write rap/r&b music from time to time

    • Tiyanna

      182d

      tbh I don't have ANYONE who would watch my daughter for me,because my family's toxic🤦🏽‍♀️....and my mother enlaw may or may not watch my twins because she likes to drank alot. I wish things were different...Nobody deserves to be cooped up in the house like a caged animal

  • Samantha89

    182d

    I don't have any living children but I'm feeling like you are. I'm a stay at home dog mom. Alfie 2.. and Toby 11 weeks. Lol. But my husband works all the time and I feel like I'm just replaying the same day and the same things over and over. I'm not one to ask for money. So I stay broke and I'm stuck home all the time. I can't currently leave both dogs home alone together yet. And I asked to go into walmart while he stayed home with the dogs and u would've thought that I asked for a million bucks

  • Tiyanna

    182d

    aww man I'm in the same boat except my great aunt gives me money from time to time. But I've been applying online for different work from home jobs. Also that's kool I used to have and breed pitbulls what kinda dogs are your fur babies

  • Tiyanna

    182d

    And I also feel as if I'm living the same day over and over...Except for when my husband's off things are a little different,but even then it's as if I almost don't know exactly how to act because all week long I've been in a routine with the kids....and I don't understand why men act like that 🤷🏽‍♀️ Things were very different when I had my Jeep but now that it's gone(bc of transmission issues) and my husband has the new vehicle in his name he only allows me to drive it when he wants me to do something for him and he's to tired to do it himself 😪 it's all very frustrating...which is why I smoke m/Vape CBD alot also my psychiatrist told me that it'd help with my anxiety/depression(tbh it does)

  • sunshine625

    182d

    I have 4 kids at home 5 all together I'm also a stay at home mom and its not easy. Why is your husband going out without you? That definitely is not fair. He should be spending time with his family or be giving you a break!

    • Tiyanna

      182d

      o wow I couldn't imagine having 5 kids lol....So I commend you in that, and it's because we don't really have anyone except my enlaws to watch our 3 kids and my husband always complains about watching my daughter(My oldest is not his child and she's been being curious about sex-as far as kissing and wondering how a penis looks in school because her real father isn't in her life and my husband really doesn't behave as a step father towards her) and he spends time with us some when he has a day off,but evenings/nights he tends to go hang out with his Co workers. While I'm stuck home with the kids feeling miserable and depressed

  • Mercadez

    181d

    When I said partner, by that I meant your baby daddy not other family .

    • Tiyanna

      181d

      oh sorry my baby daddy has is currently locked up for 10 counts of child molestation and he has never really been in my daughter's life. Funny 🤦🏽‍♀️ he walked out of the hospital the day after I had her because my daughter pooped on her(Me being a first time mom I don't think I put her diaper on all the way so when she pooped it leaked out onto his pants)

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