How do you get over the feeling that a person you dated in high school was the one you were supposed to be with and you both moved on and now you’re both married and have kids with separate people but part of you wonders if life would’ve been better if you had worked things out with them instead? I keep having dreams about this person and getting back together with them even though we haven’t talked in many many years and it’s so hard to just shake it off. It feels like I made the wrong choices or something even if I love my husband and how things are going now. It’s like these dreams just make me doubt it all.
So I had this happen to me. I went ahead and reached out just to talk to him. Found out that he was gay and that there was no shot. And then I realized I was okay with that because no one has ever learned me and treated me the way my husband does. Sometimes our minds do crazy things. They tell us things that all at once make sense but dont make sense. I dont know what to do in your case because I only know what you have posted here. Maybe to a super honest pros and cons list. One for each of them.
I’ve had dreams about my high school boyfriend, my first love. And I’m happily married and have been with my husband for 8 years. I read once that it’s not so much the person you long for but perhaps the feelings of that time of your life. That you are actually yearning for the wonder, excitement, newness of that time of life and THATS what you miss. I don’t know if this resonates at all with you but I just thought I’d share! ❤️
I have dreams of my first love and I'm married now. Sometimes I look him up on fb even though I know he probably doesn't have one or he's moved. But looking back I miss the good days not everything about him and im much happier where I am. I agree with above, do a pro/con list and you'd be surprised.
I just truly believe everything happens for the best. No one can foresee everything and every potential outcome.
Just believe and know we all are living our very best lives exactly as they are. We are surviving, we are living, we are thriving together.
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How do you get over the feeling that a person you dated in high school was the one you were supposed to be with and you both moved on and now you’re both married and have kids with separate people but part of you wonders if life would’ve been better if you had worked things out with them instead? I keep having dreams about this person and getting back together with them even though we haven’t talked in many many years and it’s so hard to just shake it off. It feels like I made the wrong choices or something even if I love my husband and how things are going now. It’s like these dreams just make me doubt it all.
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